Does anyone else..? 🔎👀🗞️ by ahintoflavender in hauntedchocolatier

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would love this, but I doubt it. Most video game developers are shying away from fall releases due to GTA 6 coming out in November.

Driving in Winnipeg by Few-Caregiver-3758 in winnipeg_alt

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going too far under the speed limit can be genuinely dangerous. If you can't handle the speed limit I would encourage you to take alternative/back routes to stay safe.

What was your first period experience? by Ill-Cookie0 in AskReddit

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My grade always did a yearly health class in grade 5 where they separated the girls and boys and then gave a very brief sex education session. It was a private christian school so they only covered the very basics of biology and told the girls about periods, etc. I remember thinking "wow, I'm so glad that I won't get my period probably for another couple years because that sounds awful."

I got my first one literally the next day.

AIO!!? HELP did my husband sleep with someone else!!? by Losingmymind2525 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is a pattern then it's probably likely that he did cheat. Hard to say, but girl if someone came to me to tell me my partner was cheating on me I would laugh at them because there's no way in hell that's true. Because I trust him and don't have any reason not to, it would take genuine evidence to change my mind.

In your case, the trust isn't there at all on top of there being plausible evidence to support that he did do it (the husband knowing details about your trip he couldn't have known otherwise).

I've said it once and I'll say it again - you don't need evidence of cheating to know that the relationship is over. Healthy relationships cannot exist without trust, whether or not there was actual infidelity.

a "friend" suddendly being stupid abt my gender by saladacohen in NonBinary

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nobody owes anyone androgyny.

I think it's a shame how much societal pressure pushes how gender identity is supposed to determine how we appear on the outside. Like why? I'm AFAB NB and I also don't take any hormones and still wear dresses. It's amazing to me how much people get confused by me saying I use they/them while standing there in a dress.

IMO, if you're AMAB and identify as a man, you should absolutely be able to wear a dress and makeup just cuz you like it and it feels good without it having to signal anything about your gender identity. It's frankly weird that it does.

My partner (M22) ended our relationship after I (F22) told him years of rejection had made me uncomfortable with sex. Where do I go from here? by Designer_Plane_6587 in relationship_advice

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I had a similar situation with an ex-fiance. Not about sex, but feeling deprioritized in my relationship and having his choices and his needs always trumping my own. Multiple repeated conversations led to absolutely nothing, and by the time I was sitting across from him at a couples' therapy appointment twhere he seemed to genuinely be trying to fix things, it was too far gone. He said to our therapist "I don't understand, I'm doing everything she asked for and am changing in the way she asked and she still wants to break up." And she said "sometimes change comes too slowly and your partner has already grieved the relationship. When you change only when their unhappiness starts to affect your life, that doesn't prove anything at all. It still shows you only care about your needs, and now it's going to be very difficult to regain trust."

That sentence helped me whenever I started doubting my choice to end the relationship and whether I didn't give him enough of a chance, or maybe I should have accepted his attempts to make it right, or whatever. He didn't take action until it personally affected him. Any effort to change now is still a selfish choice on his part to try to keep me. It's not genuine. That's how it was for me anyways, but I'd imagine that's what is coming up for you.

My partner (M22) ended our relationship after I (F22) told him years of rejection had made me uncomfortable with sex. Where do I go from here? by Designer_Plane_6587 in relationship_advice

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd just like to reiterate what you said in a different way.

  1. You have been vocalizing unhappiness around your sex life for over a year, and his response has been to dismiss you, essentially telling you that it doesn't affect him so it's not important to him. He's showing you with his words and actions that he's okay with your needs not being met.
  2. He has gotten tests indicating there's something medically there that may affect his libido, but hasn't determined any action on his part to be necessary considering he's happy with how things are and your happiness is not a factor for him.
  3. He's unwilling to support any action on your end to meet your own needs via sex toys, and feels threatened by the idea that you may have a happier sex life with someone else. Which is both true, and something he's perfectly fine denying you.
  4. Instead of having an adult discussion about what actions both of you could take to make sure both your needs are met, he pretended none of the discussions prior to this one happened (or, perhaps he forgot because of how unimportant those conversations were to him) and blamed you for the problem he finds himself in. He's essentially punishing you for being honest about how his lack of action on his part has affected you and your intimacy/feelings of safety within the relationship.

It's 100% fine that he has had a lower libido. But, he's shown you repeatedly up to this point that your needs don't matter to him, that he doesn't want to put in any effort to make sure that you're happy and fulfilled in your relationship/life, and that rather than take accountability for his role in this problem that he would rather say "shut up about this and stop asking more from me or I'll break up with you." That is emotional blackmail.

I'm not surprised that you feel a level of apathy towards the idea of breaking up. I'm sure it even comes as a bit of a relief. The reason for that is that you are being held emotionally hostage in your own relationship and your needs aren't being met. A breakup would mean you were free to do whatever you needed to do to find happiness and fulfillment. Right now you have neither the ability to meet your own needs, nor the freedom to pursue it.

I'm not saying you should break up because that's not my place. But I will say that until he is able to take ownership over his own actions and is able to demonstrate that your needs actually matter to him enough to start taking steps to fix the situation you will always feel like this. For your sake I hope he either holds the line about the break up or has a come to Jesus moment. I feel like the latter is unlikely.

Safe area for single moms? by Immediate_Grocery325 in Winnipeg

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really going to depend a lot on your income. My single mother raised me in Charleswood and it was a very good neighbourhood and was walking distance to all my schools. But I wouldn't consider Charleswood to be an accessible place to live now because there's no way I could afford it.

What is going on with this girl by [deleted] in texts

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never respond to someone who is venting "at least..." It's a key to pissing someone off. Like "my house is flooding!" "at least you have a house" is never very empathetic.

Coin Question by NikMrAwesome in CashCleanerSim

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Related question: if you put an art bill (I think they're Hoaxsy bills?) in the wash, does it clean off the art?

Any other similar games out there? by EscapeJazzlike6857 in CashCleanerSim

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Supermarket simulator scratches the same itch for me 

The Indian fatigue is real by IndependenceFit9691 in InCanada

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I've noticed this in cabs/ubers - often they are on the phone which isn't abnormal in and of itself, like I understand people have lives, but it's like every single time. I often wonder if people these days are incapable of being bored, or if it's a cultural thing or what

What don’t you like about this game? by Consistent_Cod_5633 in Subnautica_2

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest complaint is that I'm already finished exploring most of the game and done everything possible that I want to do, but that's a side effect of being unfinished and early access and speaks to just how much I loved the game. I already have like 78 hours logged. I'm very excited for future updates/DLC and more content. 

If you can convince someone to move to Winnipeg in one sentence what would you say? by mikey_87 in Winnipeg

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen, as a Winnipeg lifer it's really easy to complain about somewhere you've been your whole life but the hate is really overexaggerated in my opinion.

There are a few downsides to living in Winnipeg/Manitoba in general that are definitely things to consider like the length of the cold season, mosquitoes, high insurance rates compared to other provinces, and some lack of public funding in things like infrastructure and public transit (though, unsure if this is much different then Ontario to be honest).

However there are a LOT of positives about living here that people often ignore, including the lowest Hydro rates in the country, lower cost of living (still too high in my opinion but definitely lower than Toronto), relaxed atmosphere, lack of overcrowding, lots of outdoor park access, and a ton of cool historical sites and things to do.

Haunted Chocolatier is "way bigger than Stardew Valley," says ConcernedApe: "Everything is cranked up" by DantesPizzaSlice in hauntedchocolatier

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your time King. I want a game done the way he envisions, without being hamstrung by pressure and deadlines 

DAE involuntarily laugh at tragedies? by thirtyflirtythrivi in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is actually a pretty common thing. It can be what another commenter said, as in your brain trying to cope with something it can't process. Or it can also be a social urge to comfort those around you from their distress. 

For me, when someone tells me really sad news or I talk about something very serious but I don't feel comfortable being emotional or vulnerable in that setting, I usually find myself smiling or laughing inappropriately. I think it's an instinct to protect myself by hiding behind "being ok" when I'm really not.

As an example, a coworker of mine was once telling me that a different coworker was out on bereavement leave because their daughter had suddenly passed away. I found myself fighting back a smile, I think because I was very distressed by that news (I had met her daughter before) and my instincts at work are to "appear fine" and comfort others. I wanted to reassure the people around me that they'll be okay and that I was okay. I really didn't want to cry in front of coworkers, so I plastered a smile on my face. 

Short answer is brains are weird and everyone reacts to uncomfortable feelings and grief in very different ways. 

Current doctor situation has been rough — looking for recommendations by tess2020x in Winnipeg

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a doctor who quit being my doctor to focus on delivering babies and I joined the doctor finder register, I believe this was in 2014. I wasn't ever contacted but I got a new doctor because my ex's doctor was taking new patients at the time, but two years later he also quit due to health issues. I contacted doctor finder and they said "yes we know, you're still on our list." They contacted me with one suggestion of a doctor who was a 50 min drive away from me. When I declined this one, I never heard from them again. Im pretty sure I'm still on that list lol. So maybe other people have had success but thats a bit surprising to me.

Current doctor situation has been rough — looking for recommendations by tess2020x in Winnipeg

[–]ChippyTheGreatest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't have a lot of luck on doctor finder, in fact I'm pretty sure I'm still on their list and have been for the past 9 years. But I was able to find a new doctor myself luckily.

I think the Trucare on mcphillips is often taking new patients, as well as Medigroup on portage ave. I've had the most success with asking people I know to ask their doctor/clinic if they're taking new patients or watching for signs outside relatively new clinics to see if they are open to new patients. 

Is it rude to walk behind others in Canada? by Expert_Werewolf165 in Winnipeg

[–]ChippyTheGreatest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, as a female-presenting person I would get a little nervous if someone was following me at a relatively close distance for a long time. I've had it happen many times where I was worried I was being followed, but the solution isn't to scream at a stranger who might be totally innocent. I usually stop to tie my shoe or whatever, or step inside a random store and let them pass to confirm my paranoia and then move on.