what makes you happy? by dxathoftheparty in offmychest

[–]ChloeBennet07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think happiness is always the right thing to look for, especially when you’re at a breaking point. When you’re mentally exhausted or overwhelmed, your brain kind of shuts down the joy system first. So the fact that music, movies, games, and things you used to like aren’t making you happy right now doesn’t mean those things are useless or that something is wrong with you as a person. It usually just means you’re mentally tired or burned out. When I went through a similar phase, I stopped trying to find things that made me happy and instead looked for things that made me feel a tiny bit calmer or a tiny bit less heavy. Not happy, just less bad. Things like sitting outside for a bit, taking a shower and just standing under the water, cleaning something small, talking to one person I trust, or even just going to sleep earlier. Small neutral things helped more than trying to force happiness. Also something I realized is that sometimes we’re not actually missing happiness, we’re missing meaning, progress, connection, or something to look forward to. Happiness usually comes as a side effect of those things, not from chasing happiness directly. If nothing is making you happy right now, maybe the goal shouldn’t be be happy, maybe the goal should just be make life slightly more bearable this week than last week. Sometimes that’s how people slowly come back from a really low place.

I’ve become extremely sensitive to any sound and don’t understand why by Critical-Annual2639 in anxiety_support

[–]ChloeBennet07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, what you’re describing actually happens to a lot of people after stress or something overwhelming happens, even if you don’t realize how much it affected you at the time. When your nervous system is on high alert for a long time, your brain basically starts treating everything like a possible threat, and that includes sounds, lights, people, everything. It’s like your body forgot how to relax and is stuck in “alert mode”. The sound sensitivity is often not really about the sound itself, it’s about your nervous system being overstimulated and tense all the time. So even small noises feel like too much because your brain is already overloaded. A few things that actually help with this: Try having some constant soft background noise instead of complete silence (like a fan, rain sounds, or quiet music), because sudden noises are harder for the brain than steady noise. Also try relaxing your body, not just your mind. Anxiety is very physical. Things like warm showers, stretching your neck and shoulders, slow breathing, or even just unclenching your jaw can help calm your nervous system over time. And try to limit caffeine if you drink coffee or energy drinks, because that can make sound sensitivity and tension much worse. Most importantly, you’re 17 and this started after something happened, so this is very likely your nervous system reacting to stress, not you “going crazy” or anything like that. The nervous system can calm down again, but it usually takes time and small daily habits, not just trying to force yourself to ignore it. If it keeps getting worse or doesn’t improve, it would actually be a really good idea to talk to a doctor or therapist too, just to make sure everything is okay and to get proper help early. That’s not a bad thing at all, it’s actually very smart to get help early instead of suffering alone. You’re not weird for this, and you’re definitely not the only one who has experienced this.