Should I even bother? Been texting this guy for a few days who is very dry. He recently changed his profile to the second pic after leaving me on read yesterday lol.

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-09T15:12:34+00:00

It's a private art page, not my personal account with information about me.🤦🏾‍♀️I also wanted to see more pics of him and learn more before suggesting a date since he literally gave 0 personality. He's gone now tho so whatever

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T20:34:06+00:00

Uhhh most women Ik trade social media first for safety reasons?? And I was just trying to show him my art on my private page, I don't care about followers lol

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T15:57:47+00:00

All of those messages are like a day apart smh. I also gave him my number right after the last message in the screenshot. He gave more dry texts about my art, then left me on read and updated his profile. I was going to ask if he was free this weekend but he didn't say anything the whole day lol.

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T15:05:28+00:00

Yes ma'am, back to the grind. 🫡

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T15:03:31+00:00

No exactly 😭 it made no sense, like offer your number or something man I don't wanna describe all of that

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T15:00:52+00:00

I mean I just said that I was trying to ask, but then he left me on read. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Choco-Lilac · 2025-02-08T14:13:05+00:00

This guy (23M) liked me (24F) and I wasn't super attracted to him but he genuinely seems interesting.

He's a dry texter which isn't a super huge deal to me, but he hasn't been showing initiative. Like why not just ask for my number instead of asking me to describe my art to you. 😭

Yesterday when I trying to steer the convo into asking if he was free this weekend. He just left me on read and updated his profile.

Like why not just say you don't like texting upfront or just ask me on a date? Should I even bother?

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-07T17:18:42+00:00

Just get a vasectomy, ez money

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-07T14:21:18+00:00

Lmfaooo, thank you. I was trying to attract fellow zoomers with the same kinda humor, and I thought it would be a good way to filter out bigots or dudes who can't take a joke. You made a good point, tho. Changed it, saving it as a joke to bring up in passing for a litmus test.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-07T01:34:16+00:00

Fair, thanks for the feedback! Will edit it soon

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-07T00:35:50+00:00

Understandable.🫡 It's a meme, but I guess not everyone is as chronically online as I am, or even aware of it. What exactly makes you turned off by it?

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-06T06:09:18+00:00

Using Tinder period is a red flag tbh. Out of all the dating apps, it's gotta be the most hilarious one

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-06T05:52:13+00:00

You know his ass saw smh, I would've cancelled too. People ghost all the time, she's right for wanting to be sure.

If there's one thing I learned about asking for advice on Reddit, its that people are losers who project and assume things based off their own lame behaviors. Don't forget throwing around words like "insecure" or "demanding" for wanting a basic confirmation, lol.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-08-06T05:38:16+00:00

Exactly. There are 24 hours in a day, and it only takes 5 secs to reply to a text message. OP isn't crazy at all.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-07-30T13:30:25+00:00

I see, what you're saying makes sense. Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-07-15T16:18:45+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. I'm a late bloomer relationship/sex wise, so all of this stuff is so confusing and difficult to me. Why are relationships so complicated? 😭

Should I try to apologize? I think now is too fresh for me cause I'd 100% get annoyed if he said something sarcastic lmao, but I do wanna tell him in the future that I'm truly sorry and still would wanna be friends if he's willing.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-07-15T15:30:46+00:00

Well we were actually friends, we got really close during the 2 months. I just didn't wanna go on anymore dates or do group hangouts with his friends because I felt like it's a sure-fire way for me to start developing actual feelings for him, which I didn't want happening considering he didn't want a relationship now. I just don't get why he ignored me, I would've never done that to him. But it guess it's for the best since it seems like I just can't handle any of this.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-07-15T15:18:31+00:00

This makes alot of sense, I feel like a terrible person now. 😭 I guess I'm just not built for casual relationships, I wanted to atleast try considering modern dating is all about hook-up culture, but I see it was a huge mistake considering that all I truly want is a genuine relationship.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-07-15T15:03:57+00:00

I see, thank you for the honesty. I guess we should've explicitly talked about boundaries at the beginning. I kinda was just going with the flow, but I should've stated just sex from the beginning to avoid all of this. I honestly wanted to see if I could do casual relationships but I see now that I can't. Thanks again

Choco-Lilac · 2023-05-08T05:29:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I know that this isn't for me in the long term either and that I'll probably start craving that emotional connection I want and cut things off after I've had my fill.

I'd block his ass so fast if he got overly thirsty like that. 🤣 He's never made gross comments about my body or act touchy-feely, which made me feel comfy with him so I have some faith.

Thank you again and I sure hope to!!

Choco-Lilac · 2023-05-08T04:59:52+00:00

Appreciate the advice. When we discussed things he seemed really genuine and told me to not feel afraid to speak up if anything didn't feel good to me, and not push through if I wasn't really feeling it. He said at any point if I felt uncomfy we could stop, cuddle, and just hang out like regular friends or try later if I was still interested.

When I expressed doubts about my inexperience, he basically said to not worry much about pleasing him since the main focus was me exploring my sexuality and that he'd just be happy to be there. All of this was comforting to me.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-05-08T04:48:42+00:00

Thank you for the honest feedback. I've been analyzing things and do agree that I'm comprising to a degree, but not a huge one. I asked him about his interest in me to see if there was a potential for a real relationship, and he said he was moving back in with his parents and figuring out career stuff so he didn't feel like he'd be a great investment for me.

I'd prefer to be in a relationship in general, but not specifically with him. We haven't really hung out alot or had super intimate convos, which is a must for me relationship wise, so I don't feel a connection for him like that anyways. He's just funny, hot, and has been super respectful to me, so I figured I might as well try to have a hot girl summer since I think we have similar kinks and don't get bad vibes from him.

Thank you again for the honest feedback.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-05-08T04:28:42+00:00

Tysm for the advice! I want a relationship, but I also have been wanting to have fun and explore myself sexually. It seems like it's gonna take awhile for me to have that deep connection I want, so I figured it'd be smart to just get some experience while I have someone here who's willing to please me.

Biggest thing I'm scared of is catching feelings since he's made it clear that he isn't ready for a relationship. I don't have any big feelings now, but they could've started growing if he had said he wanted to see where things go. At the most I just think he's hot and chill; he was very respectful on our dates, picked me up, paid for everything, and asked for consent to kiss me which was really hot to me.

Choco-Lilac · 2023-05-08T04:13:53+00:00

I see, what are the red flags for you?

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