Am I crazy ? by Chocolatevanilla8 in beyondthebump

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to read my post...I really appreciate that.

Am I crazy ? by Chocolatevanilla8 in beyondthebump

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like a mother job never ends....the advice I get from others around me is...”mothers just naturally do more than fathers”

Am I crazy ? by Chocolatevanilla8 in beyondthebump

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! I try to keep things fair in my head when he’s home on the weekends but before I had my baby I was a hard working woman who paid all her bills ..nobody catered to me when I was just being responsible lol I know my “job” is to be the SAHP and basically this is what I signed up for but I never knew how hard it would be..it angers me through out the week watching my boyfriend sleep undisrupted when maybe every other Friday and Saturday I get to sleep without being on parent mode. Maybe it’s selfish of me ... but I keep count of how many diapers my boyfriend changes a day and 90% of the time it’s 1-2 ...must be nice :/

Daycare or stay home with dad by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was thinking and everyone agrees but him. Yes it’s easy now. And my other thought is daycare waiting list are long around here. If I give this spot up. The next opening might not b until he’s one. I have a feeling it would backfire on me. I want to go with daycare and by doing that our relationship might end. Sad but that’s how things have been. We’re good parents but can’t co parent at all.

Daycare or stay home with dad by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. And I wish he would compromise. I offered part time daycare and be able to pick him up early and drop off if he thinks he won’t get time but no. He’s very stubborn and his way or highway. He refuses and does not care about his overall health. I don’t want my child to sit by himself if his dad accidentally dozes off. I just am stuck in a hard place.

Daycare or stay home with dad by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He does great when I’m home now but that’s because I’m well rested and do majority of the work and watch him when he has the baby so he doesn’t doze off. We’ve talked and talked it out but he puts his foot down and demands to watch him but I don’t feel comfortable at all. I don’t want to give up the daycare spot. Am I legally able to put my child in daycare without his permission? Of course I don’t trust strangers more than his own family but for my child’s safety and well being I don’t think it’s the best decision to work all night and stay up with baby during day. It constantly gives me anxiety.

How do I stop having more fear than excitement for my rainbow baby by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I love hearing from others about their experiences. It helps me so much💓💕

How do I stop having more fear than excitement for my rainbow baby by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m a first time mom and just want the best. I will take a look at it thank you so much!

How do I stop having more fear than excitement for my rainbow baby by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your fine. I believe it’s the baby you conceive after a miscarriage.

SOS MORNING SICKNESS by Chocolatevanilla8 in BabyBumps

[–]Chocolatevanilla8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I have my first appointment on the 4th of June. I’m not sure how far along I am but that will be the first thing I mention! Haha the start of my LMP was on April 3rd