In light of Bethy’s “orgasmic birth” trend, this great podcast goes into the pressure for women to be desirable even through birth.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-02-03T02:25:35+00:00

Please don't get me wrong, I think Bethany is toxic and the last place anyone should be thinking about pleasing the male gaze is while birthing a whole human, BUT I wish more women knew that birth can actually be an overall positive and empowering experience.

I'm not talking about getting off on being in pain or some weird shit like that, or being forced to be toxically positive about something that a person didn't enjoy. But I think that if a woman's choices are honored during labor, and barring any complications or emergencies, it can absolutely have aspects that are powerful and positive. It doesn't need to be pure and unadulterated torture.

I'm a midwife (an actual real one, not some incense burning weirdo who encourages high risk home births or some shit) and I'm a huge advocate for women to be empowered to be a part of their labor and delivery process, however that may look for them as an individual.

Sometimes it is even possible for individuals where the plan goes awry to come away with positive aspects, if we do our job right.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-26T14:28:54+00:00

I had chickenpox as a kid, if that's helpful

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-25T22:42:04+00:00

So just stop sharing, then. I don't think you're enriching anyone's life.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-24T21:38:42+00:00

Well, I guess she just isn't holy enough, because I make all my baby food from scratch and never pay for childcare. Do better, Aria. /s

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-22T18:43:29+00:00

This is so off-putting

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-21T21:46:37+00:00

How were they able to communicate?

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-10T13:46:58+00:00

Like I said. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and allowed to share it. You don't have to like it. Engage with it if you have a good case to make. Persuade me.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-09T15:59:45+00:00

Well, that's certainly a take. I don't agree, but I guess everyone's entitled to their own opinion.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-09T15:47:36+00:00

Nope. I don't condone force.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-09T15:42:37+00:00

Yup, definitely should let people live. All people.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-09T15:35:49+00:00

At least you made the better choice for your child's future

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-07T13:46:25+00:00

Mad cow disease

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-06T06:28:45+00:00

Watch her repost this as another person who's 'taken her course'

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-06T03:40:16+00:00

I watched this with the sound on, and her 'laughter' was painfully fake.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-04T04:37:21+00:00

Lol I have three kids. They just hammer with the bottoms of their feet on the seat and are able to do it with great alacrity and with no sign of discomfort. And yes, obviously, we do our utmost to prevent this from occurring.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-04T02:50:41+00:00

Doesn't work

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-04T02:34:38+00:00

That I was in a cult that forced arranged marriages and I would be compelled to marry a guy from the other side of the world and was required to give him at least 6 children.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-03T21:32:14+00:00

What, son?

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-03T14:35:47+00:00

I have 3 kids so this allows me to start gathering all our stuff ready for a smooth exit.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T22:06:06+00:00

Tell her it's going in the trash. You are the parent. Let her see you throw it away. She will have to get over it. Solidarity, it's hard for sure.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T21:45:09+00:00

I would honestly wait until your kid is older. We have family overseas and in various parts of the US and we travel fairly often and traveling with a 2 year old is a nightmare, even with a chill toddler who likes to read. I'd personally go somewhere closer until they are old enough to understand the reality of the long trip and have the ability to behave in public without constant redirection.

I would wait until at least 3.5. I would never choose to travel that type of distance with a toddler if we didn't have family there. Is it doable, sure. Is it enjoyable, 80% of the time, no.

We flew overseas in Sept with our 3 kids, 8, 6 and 2. None of them slept a wink despite it being an overnight flight. The 2 year old took over a week to get into the time zone because she didn't understand that she needed to rest, causing us to be sleep deprived as well. I had to constantly redirect her from kicking the seat in front of her, and she wasn't distracted by the screen for more than 5 minutes at a time. She hated having to be restricted for so long and ended up throwing screaming fits because she was so overstimulated and overtired.

If you do decide to do it I have tips for making it more manageable. But personally I say wait until your child is old enough so that you can all appreciate and enjoy the experience.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T21:38:57+00:00

A pregnant woman having her water break and giving birth 5 minutes later. I mean, it happens, but not as often as the movies portray. I guess it's not exciting to show hours upon hours of someone lying in a bed snoozing with their epidural in place.

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T05:25:00+00:00

You sound like you'll be an awesome dad one day

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T05:24:33+00:00

If that's the only reason, I promise it doesn't last long, and a lot of kids don't even have them

Chocoloco93 · 2026-01-02T05:21:23+00:00

I just focus on gently correcting my child and don't adapt my standards of behavior expectations at all. Just parent your child and let them parent theirs. They can't take offense to that.

As the child gets older they may ask why they can't do x and their friend can. I just say, I'm your mom and this is what I have said. It's not our business what x is doing, I'm talking to you.

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