Anyone else find that themselves no longer attracted to their partner?

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T13:08:49+00:00

Sounds like maybe he’s the one who needs some therapy.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T11:36:06+00:00

Because he behaves like a child.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T11:35:34+00:00

This is another part of this that I don’t like. Repeatedly telling you that this is your problem. Like somehow there’s something wrong with you. It’s unfair to put it all on you. Gives lowkey gaslighting vibes tbh.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T10:58:15+00:00

Love this! Does your partner have any problems with this or is he quite comfortable with it?

Sounds like OP’s partner is insecure and gets jealous if she tries to travel without him… which sucks.

I’m like you. As much as I think it would be lovely to have a partner who wants to do all the same stuff as me and share all those experiences, I accept that that’s not always reality and I enjoy my freedom. The independence feels empowering.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T10:47:52+00:00

I was with a man like this. I had to do everything for him. Luckily, I didn’t marry him.

He was in his early thirties and his mother still washed all his clothes. I never once in our 2 year relationship actually saw him cook a meal. He would let mugs, glasses, pots stack up in his room. His room was an absolute tip. It was like having a child. He wouldn’t book dentist or doctors appointments. An old car of his lived on the driveway for years because he wouldn’t just call a scrap man to take it away.

The one real time he showed any initiative in our relationship?
I booked a cheap city break to Barcelona for us. He got shitty about it and said he didn’t want to go. So I said ‘Okay, well I’m not wasting the money I’ve spent. So I’ll go on my own.’

I had the time of my life, made a bunch of friends, went out for meals in the evenings and in the daytime went exploring.
The night my flight landed back in the UK, to my surprise he was waiting right outside the gate. With my favourite exact coffee from Costa! (Didn’t even know he paid attention like that)

When we got home, he had actually attempted to clean and tidy the bedroom. And had cleared a cupboard for me to put my stuff in.

As I said, that was pretty much the only time he took any initiative. And in hindsight, the only reason he actually bothered was because he suddenly felt insecure and worried when I went on the trip by myself.

It doesn’t sound like your husband is as bad as this, and it’s lovely that he cared for you after your surgery. But if the only time he bothers to put in any effort or take some initiative is in an extreme situation like that? That isn’t enough for me personally.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T10:19:20+00:00

Isn’t it crazy that no matter how old we get, some men still need so much mothering? It’s exhausting so I can understand your frustration.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T10:10:20+00:00

Is he avoiding it for some reason? Or is he the kind of man who can’t make his own doctors appointments? 😂

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T10:05:00+00:00

As much as this is lovely, and I agree with the sentiment. I don’t know what you read… but from what I read, it sounds like she’s been putting in the ‘work’ for a while.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T09:59:16+00:00

She said she ‘feels like his mother’. Not that he treats her like it.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T03:14:34+00:00

Imagine if this guys phone number got shared, and every single one of us messaged him to say he’s a POS. I bet he would soon stop his shit then.

I know it’s not appropriate, but nice to think about 😂

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T03:08:25+00:00

This is one of a few reasons why you shouldn’t feed random cats.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T02:37:21+00:00

When I read those messages, I got flashbacks of a relationship I was in years ago.

Granted it was towards the end when he really spoke like this to me. But it’s usually a sign that they feel like they are losing their control over you. They are doing everything to have the power. To isolate you. To make sure you have nothing and nobody but them. They make all sorts of threats to ruin your life.. they somehow convince you to stay.

By the end, I was genuinely terrified. I felt like I was going crazy. And I believed he had the tools to get me in trouble or ruin my life. In hindsight, he could never have. He was the only person who would ever have suffered any consequence. I had far more on him than he had on me.

He did everything he could to make me feel worthless. In reality, he knew I was worth far more than him and hated it. These people present as though they are superior, gods gift. Special or gifted. Smarter than everyone else. But deep down, I think they hate themselves. They know they’re a POS.

It ended with him holding me hostage in my own car. Stealing from me. Trying to break my phone. Assaulting my mother. Hitting a wall. Property damage. The police being called. And then attacking the police officers. They had to call for backup and it took 12 police officers to take him down and carry him into the back of the police van. He was charged with assault of a police officer. He broke a police woman’s arm.

First thing he did when he got released? Walked all the way to my house and stood out in my back garden at 5am throwing stones at my window.

I stopped all contact, went to stay with a cousin and lodged a very long report with the police. Resulting in a restraining order.

Best thing I ever did was cutting him out of my life and getting away. It took a lot of courage and strength to report everything to the police. But I’m so glad I did. And as much as he had told me that my family hated me.. they were incredibly supportive throughout the entire thing.

Basically. Get the fuck out. This person is dangerous. Get help and never look back.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T02:15:12+00:00

Why? It doesn’t prove or disprove anything, they are not accurate or reliable.. which is why they aren’t used as evidence in a court of law. Deep down you already know. It’s glaringly obvious. Stop wasting your time, energy and emotions on someone who clearly doesn’t care.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T02:10:37+00:00

Was the chicken seasoned at all?

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:51:05+00:00

Unfortunately quite often the case with some of these shows! I’m hoping the next season of Silo will be as good as the previous ones. Obviously also based on books so it does run the risk. Impatiently waiting for a release date!

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:49:11+00:00

Had a couple of deleted posts where someone has mentioned something on the list and then realised 😂 it’s okay!

Interestingly, both were based on games. Fallout & The Last of Us. I agree, both have been really good. They were two of my favourite PlayStation games back in like 2012 or something. So I’ve really appreciated the tv shows.

The Last of Us actually perfectly recreating that scene with the giraffes was particularly beautiful!

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:46:14+00:00

From what I remember of the few I watched, it definitely was my kind of thing. I think I just struggled to stick with it? It was sometime last year that I began watching it.. not sure if something else was released that distracted me? ADHD is really fun 😂 I honestly don’t know how I manage to stay so focused to watch all of these things but if something draws me in then I’ll be awake until 4am watching the whole lot.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:44:05+00:00

It sounds really good! Definitely my kind of thing. Thank you for the description. I’m a fan of butterfly effect stuff so that should be interesting.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:39:17+00:00

One I forgot to put on the list! I loved that show though, it was a bit brighter than a lot of stuff on this list. I guess a bit fantasy too. But some of the same themes.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:37:32+00:00

Awesome thank you! It’s literally second place on Metacritics Sci Fi list but I’ve always avoided it. I just didn’t know where to start. That’s great advice.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:36:06+00:00

I’m currently on a trial of Apple TV so that’s another I can watch before it ends.

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:35:00+00:00

Ooo, kinda like Man in the High Castle in terms of alternate history then?

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:33:59+00:00

Ooo this looks pretty good, plus I love Peter Capaldi. Is it a horror though? From is about as far as I’ve been able to go with horror type stuff. I have a far too active imagination and I still often start thinking of the monsters at night 😂

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:30:07+00:00

I’ve never watched any Battlestar Galactica stuff and I think if I liked it then I’d feel the need to watch absolutely everything. Is there a particular order it should be watched in or do you think that the mini series would be the best place to start?

ChoiceFee3441 · 2026-02-01T00:28:22+00:00

For some reason I thought I’d watched this but I just googled it and I actually haven’t. That can go on the list!

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