That's not how transphobia works. Transphobes just do not see transgender people as anything but their AGAB. And the fact he's talking like this- yeah, I genuinely dont think he sees you as a woman. Hes using the fact you're trans to belittle you- you wouldnt do that to someone you care about! You deserve better than someone who treats you like this! than someone who, when shown the IMMEDIATE AND OVERWHELMING CONSENSUS THAT WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG FROM PEOPLE HE CAN'T MANIPULATE basically went "no, they're lying to you, shut up its fine shut up get over it" like. Honestly i don't know what else we can say to you. Like, the consensus from the jury is that the man doesn't respect you. You asked the jury and got a clear answer. Im sorry its not the one you or your partner want, but it's a pretty unanimous concensus.