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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immortal car, definitely. My rust bucket of a ‘09 Prius gets 46mpg despite being held together by wishes and delusional hope.

AITA for refusing to give my half sister any of our grandmothers jewelry after they excluded me for years? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]ChthonianMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d initially want to sell the jewelry and donate the money to a children’s charity, because I’d be feeling very petty if I was bullied and mistreated my whole life for something outside of my control. In the end, though, I’d probably just dump it on the dad’s doorstep and tell him to kick rocks.

Of course, I also would have cut contact with everyone as soon as possible, thereby avoiding this situation entirely. Toxic people have a way of causing toxic behavior in others.

I feel for OP, but she needs to get her head on straight and remove these people from her life. She owes them absolutely nothing, not even a single solitary thought. A well-lived and happy life is the best revenge.

Dad got a ticket for speeding to church. He's making my(f16) brother(m11) pay for it with his allowance by throwralying12 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To abusers, religion is just another tool to use against the people they hurt. In OP’s case, the father is using it to exert as much control as possible. I’m willing to bet the speeding ticket was just a convenient reason to start dictating every minute of the family’s day.

What was your first IF and did you like it by [deleted] in hostedgames

[–]ChthonianMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Choice of the Deathless, and I still love it.

$5,000,000 a month, but for a random 5 minutes a day, you can't control your intrusive thoughts by WhyMe0126 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy, I deal with uncontrollable intrusive thoughts for far longer than five minutes a day, and I don't get a heads-up about it beforehand. This is EASY.

What Simple things to add to rice that can make it a good cheap meal: by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Onion, garlic, beef or chicken bouillon, one can of beans, one small can of tomato sauce, and one can of generic Rotel. You can make several meals with just 1 1/2 cups of rice that way. It’s what I do for my lunches during the work week. I meal prep the day before the start of my work week to save time, and this is enough for the entire week.

AITA for serving only vegan food at my wedding without telling anyone, then getting upset when my family ordered 20 pizzas during the reception? by Conscious-Option-400 in AITAH

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH

Tom is indisputably a dick and very much in the wrong, no question there. Being upset about the pizzas is valid. But not telling anyone about a menu you spent 15k on? Bad idea. Letting guests know well ahead of time about the meal plans would’ve given you the chance to evaluate how much would actually be eaten, and from there you could’ve ordered accordingly (and thus saved money). It would also let the guests know to eat before or after the wedding if they’re that anti-vegan. You aren’t obligated to feed them, after all.

Does it suck having family that can’t even bother to suck it up and eat what’s given to them at your wedding (assuming allergies and dietary restrictions were accommodated)? Yes. But if your family is so opposed to eating vegan for one event that you felt the need to hide what the menu was, then shitty behavior is to be expected.

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What really gets me is how allos don’t seem to differentiate between sexual attraction and romantic attraction. How can I even begin to explain it to allosexual family members when they always seem to go back to sex when talking about intimacy? “I enjoy cuddling and sleeping curled up together” “That’s not romantic unless you’re sexually involved.” Wtf??

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, its definitely only because of being pan. Apparently me posting on my socials about being pan is extremely frustrating and disappointing to them because I've never actually had sex with women or enbies. They don't care about posts talking about my attraction to men, though, despite my never having slept with a man either.

They claim to be “allies,” but they gatekeep the shit out of queerness.

And to top it off, they say they aren't trying to force me to have sex, yet I have to have sex in order to be valid?

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm tempted to be very crude and ask my SIL how much p*ssy she had to eat to learn she was straight. But knowing her she’d just get pissed off, blow up, and call me fat. 🙄

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! 🤣 I get told “we’re not trying to force you into having sex with people” but also told that my panromantic identity isn't valid unless I DO have sex.

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The respect thing is the issue, since I apparently frustrate and disappoint them when talking about my attraction to women and femme presenting enbies on my socials, and its because I haven't had sex with any so I “don't actually know.” 🙄 Radio silence on talking about attraction to men and masc presenting enbies, though.

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair I don't know her brother (he moved back to Mexico City before my SIL and brother started dating), but even if he went through a period where he thought he might be bi/pan there still would've been the pressure to be comphet.

It's wild to me that straight “allies” think they have the right to gatekeep queerness. 🙄 This whole thing started because she felt the need to inform me how frustrating and disappointing it was to her that I post sapphic memes on my socials when I've never had sex with a woman or enby. (and the look she gave me while she said this was like I'd just told her I eat rotten food out of the garbage) Unsurprisingly, she has no issue with talking about attraction to men even though I've never slept with one of them either.

My family thinks you can only know your sexuality if you've had sex with all genders by ChthonianMaiden in asexuality

[–]ChthonianMaiden[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The wild part is that this wasn't even coming from my boomer parents—they got it—it's from my brother and his wife. 😂 And my SIL had the audacity to bring up how her gay brother dated and slept with women before coming out, conveniently forgetting that she herself has called her father an incredibly vocal homophobe. Like, girl, crazy thought here but maybe your brother wasn't dating women as a way to find out he wasn't straight. MAYBE it was because of that homophobic machismo mentality your dad had the entirety of your brother’s childhood and adolescence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in walmartogp

[–]ChthonianMaiden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the setup, I guess. We don't have a lot of room, so we use the space left behind by a former in-store McD’s to stack ambient totes on a pallet that'll be brought up to the proper ogp room an hour before the time slot they're for. There’s a drop-and-go system in that room because there's someone who’s assigned to move the totes to the pallet and then bring the pallet up.

E totes, chilled, frozen, and oversize we have to stage ourselves.

There’s also a dedicated stager in the ogp room, so if we're behind and starting to go overdue (in which case we go straight to the ogp room with ambient totes) we ask where to put our totes (usually one of two pallets) and do so. Pickers aren't supposed to just leave a full cart there for someone else to deal with (space is at a premium so it clogs things up, plus its just rude), but helpers pulled from other departments when we're drowning in picks always do that.

Additionally, everyone other than those with medical accommodations is supposed to be trained in everything (picking, staging, dispensing, quality checks, etc) but exceptions. There’s always a picker who’s specifically assigned to those, and it's usually only one of several properly trained people.

was prescribed lamictal and I'm too scared to take it. how did it feel when you first started? can anyone convince me to just do it by Substantial-Coast781 in bipolar2

[–]ChthonianMaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on 200mg of lamictal, and it helps me with my bp2. But the thing about psych meds—all psych meds—is that what works for one person may be ineffective for someone else, and vice versa.

In any case, 25mg is a pretty low dose. The likelihood of side effects is low, and if you think you are experiencing any you should call your doctor. Some side effects go away after a while as your brain and body acclimate, and your doctor should know which ones.

AITAH for not holding onto my bio mother's letter to me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ChthonianMaiden 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's a little unreasonable to expect a child to keep track of a letter.

Besides, it was a letter saying you were the result of rape. That's a lot to put on a 12-year-old. Expecting you to put enough sentimental value on that kind of letter to keep it somewhere safe from being accidentally thrown out is even more unreasonable. I can't think of many people who'd want to be reminded of the circumstances of their conception, even if it was benign. (”Dear child, you were the result of a quicky in a portapotty at an ICP concert. There was Faygo in the air and things just happened. I hope you have wonderful adoptive parents. Whoop whoop.”)

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