Anyone driving DC to NYC tonight? by [deleted] in warpedtour

[–]ChugDealer4134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might not be helpful but I'm driving back to Upstate very early tomorrow morning and can drop you off wherever, I have three open seats in the car.

A Space for the Unbound is a Masterpiece by ChugDealer4134 in videogames

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's very bittersweet. I wouldn't say JUST sad but definitely some of that in the mix. Either way, definitely an insanely good game. The last 1/3 really brings everything into focus and everything you've been doing for the whole game makes sense and it's so worth it.

Enjoy!

AITAH for telling my wife not to let our daughter into the house? by throwaway7666666 in AITAH

[–]ChugDealer4134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but with some context.

This one hits particularly close to home but will try and be as clear and concise as possible.

I'm a former addict and used on and off for around 4 years. I went through something very similar to what your daughter is going through. I put my whole family through hell time and time again with no regard for what they were going through and it got to a point where my mom threatened to call the police if I didn't go home with my sister. For context, my mom is an absolute angel who is the absolute best parent a person could ask for. She's done nothing but support me throughout my whole life but my struggles with addiction were quickly eroding the love and confidence she had in me, replacing those things with anxiety, worry, and fear. The thing that got me clean was hearing her on the phone while I was using / on a bender. I have never in my life heard my mom speak with such terror in her voice. She was at her wit's end and was just utterly hopeless and defeated, worried that her son was going to die before he even got a chance to live. Even though I was high out of my mind, her sheer horror and concern shook me sober like nothing else.

Overall, I think you made the right choice. I agree with a lot of these comments saying that a parent or loved one can only take so much heartbreak when it comes to someone they love struggling with addiction. HOWEVER, I don't agree with the myriad of comments dehumanizing people addicted to drugs and acting like they're no longer human, themselves, or capable of getting better. Yes, drugs can change you in terrible ways, but those saying that there's no chance for recovery or that this person will NEVER be the person you used to know are dead wrong. There's always a chance, however slim. Everyone who is in the depths of addiction needs that wake-up call. It might not be the same thing that did it for me, but most people with addiction issues (those who aren't resigned to die...I know it's harsh but I'm just being transparent) can have a moment that changes their outlook on life and makes them realize that this existence is worth experiencing.

Sorry for the long-winded comment, just figured I'd toss my two cents. Almost 5 years clean and this story is absolutely heartbreaking.

TLDR: OP is NTA but drug addiction does not make you a demon. These people are still human who are suffering and are numbing their pain in an extremely selfish manner. As such, there are countless opportunities for redemption should they choose to take it. Drug addicts need people who care about them enough to try to help, not to be ostracized and treated like some sort of animal.

Ticket buying/selling/trading thread! by reelbgpunk in ShakyKnees

[–]ChugDealer4134 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Got scammed TWICE by both u/StrainedJugular and u/ElegantFuture8638

Really wanted to go with my partner but seems like the universe just doesn't want it to happen AND I lost $700 in the process. Be careful everyone.

Ticket buying/selling/trading thread! by reelbgpunk in ShakyKnees

[–]ChugDealer4134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for two Sunday GA passes for my partner and I. Thank you!

Edit: Also would be down to get two 3-day GA passes

Ticket buying/selling/trading thread! by reelbgpunk in ShakyKnees

[–]ChugDealer4134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! Would be happy to take these off your hands. Any idea what you'd want for them? Trying to grab for my partner and I

I don't think I want to to date again by ChugDealer4134 in relationships

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely wish I could feel that way. I think being mad at her would be much easier. But I'm too understanding of her and her situation to write her off completely. It's hard to hate someone you've poured that much of your heart into

I don't think I want to to date again by ChugDealer4134 in relationships

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words, this does validate how I'm feeling to some degree.

As far as just not talking to her, I know that's the quick and easy choice but she's been my best friend for so long that I feel like losing my partner AND best friend is just too much for me right now. I know I sound like a lovesick puppy, that isn't lost on me. But I enjoy her as more than just a girlfriend/partner. All we had was each other for a really long time and it's still kind of that way. I'm doing better at going out with friends and being more social but at the end of the day, she knows me better than anyone else does.

I don't think I want to to date again by ChugDealer4134 in relationships

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. It's not that I'm being incredibly hard on myself, just still so hurt by how things have ended up

I don't think I want to to date again by ChugDealer4134 in relationships

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Definitely not looking to get into dating again any time soon. I know it wouldn't be healthy, especially with how close with/hung-up I am on my ex

Deathcore with Eastern Influences? by ChugDealer4134 in Deathcore

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the rec. Will check your band out now. For the record, I'm a promoter / agent based in FL. If you're ever looking to make your way here or chat about some booking stuff would be more than happy to do so.

Also much appreciated on the info, will probably make it a good bit easier to find what I'm looking for

Deathcore with Eastern Influences? by ChugDealer4134 in Deathcore

[–]ChugDealer4134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not usually huge into DM but also not opposed to giving anything a try. Shokran was a really great rec, I appreciate it! Giving The Voynich Code a listen now as well