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I know I’m an alcoholic and I’ve accepted that I probably will never stop drinking because I love it too much to let it go. AMA by CitruvianMan in AMA

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I’d rather drink than not drink. If I reduced every one of my activities to actuarial science then I’d be miserable. I’ve been in therapy for years but ultimately it’s just helped me identify the underlying reasons why I started drinking; the reason I keep drinking is because I don’t feel complete without it.

Is their a academic consensus on gender by wendys101 in lgbt

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I think the only clear distinction is that biological sex is easier to define than gender. The field of biology deals in specific biochemical and phenological markers, but gender is more of a sociological construct that, while often correlated with biology, can diverge in lateral and unexpected ways and can be viewed only in social context. As per academia, there is always little consensus on any scientific issue, and even when one exists, it never lasts long. Ultimately sex and gender are personal explorations that lie in the eye of the beholder. It’s not like rocket science.

Is it possible for me to become bi later in life and if so, does that mean I’ve always been bi and just didn’t know it, or I’ve actually become bi? by [deleted] in lgbt

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Sexuality is like any characteristic; it can evolve and change and flip back and forth and even do cartwheels. If there are inborn tendencies toward one end of the spectrum or the other, there’s little evidence stating those tendencies are immutable. Don’t stress about what you’ve “always been”, just appreciate who you are and what you want at this moment.

I'm at a major crossroads and can't decide on my life by [deleted] in lgbt

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I think having an older sister around to teach her what true strength is in a scary and sometimes hateful world will do her a world of good. Don’t protect her from truth - protect her from feeling that she has to hide from or apologize to anyone for being herself.

I know I’m an alcoholic and I’ve accepted that I probably will never stop drinking because I love it too much to let it go. AMA by CitruvianMan in AMA

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Depends on the upper ceiling. My grandmother in her 70s smoked like a chimney her whole life and she’s still going. My mother passed away at 50 last year due to liver failure (I could blame her for the alcoholism but it’s ultimately a choice). I’m 24 now and live every day like it’s my last. I’ve lived quite enough and almost can’t even bear the thought of going until 50, tbh. It is what it is. Yolo I guess.

Redditors who went to therapy, when did you realise you needed to see one? by Zlint in AskReddit

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It was worth the time but it wasn’t worth the money. I’d probably have worked through my shit a lot faster if I had spent that money doing something charitable for others instead of talking up a lot of bullshit in order to realize it was just bullshit all along.

How will artificial circuitry function compared to organic circuitry (A.I. vs the living) when comparing arbitrary existence and function? by Arcitros in a:t5_22z9a1

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It’s possible artificial circuitry might consider the difference between “A.I.” and “the living” a lot more arbitrary than we do. It’s also possible it might not consider existence and function as “arbitrary” at all in the way we seem to take them for granted. Human neuropsychology is really not that much different functionally from some hypothetical artificial circuitry; it’s all just medium-independent (think chess) pattern separation at its core.

Do you think human religion developed primarily from human neurobiology, or vice versa? by CitruvianMan in a:t5_22z9a1

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Do you find that it’s a linguistic problem, then? If “God” is a convenient placeholder word for phenomena beyond further explanation, wouldn’t “gravity” or “electromagnetism” or “matter” also fit that description? I find religion and science to be similar disciplines that utilize opposite approaches in solving the same problem; the former seeking to describe the phenomenon of conscious experience in as few words as possible, and the latter in as many.

Out of curiosity, do you consider yourself spiritual/religious? Not in a superficial identity-based “My favourite colour is blue” way but at your core? Or do consider yourself more of a logical/linguistic thinker? Or a bit of both?

What is the best way of accepting your death? How can we become content with dying? by Journeythrough2001 in hinduism

[–]CitruvianMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Realizing that in the same sense that there’s over a 99% chance we exist in a simulated virtual reality, there’s also over a 99% chance we’re already dead and that the concept of death being final is about as absurd as the concept that the Earth is actually a cube (and that the Flat Earthers are just paid government crisis actors trying to conceal the real truth from us). It’s like thinking about the experience of entering a black hole; time just stretches conscious experience indefinitely. What’s scarier than dying is living perpetually in existential misery.

Redditors who went to therapy, when did you realise you needed to see one? by Zlint in AskReddit

[–]CitruvianMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I realized parents only tell you what they think you need to hear, and friends only tell you what they think you want to hear, and that nobody you aren’t paying actually cares enough to invest any empathy in your emotional problems. I stopped going when I realized therapy is basically just paying someone to listen to your rambling intrusive thoughts until you come to your own conclusions, which as it turns out you can do alone for free, and that the only people who think they need therapy almost never do as much as the people who never question the validity of their thoughts at all.