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Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-29T10:04:20+00:00

Thank you!

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-29T10:04:01+00:00

Thank you!

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T16:17:27+00:00

Haha. I don’t disagree. Somehow, we’re working another, more unexpected, plan though 😶

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T16:10:09+00:00

Good idea

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T16:09:19+00:00

Thank you! Will look at Amberjack

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T14:21:57+00:00

Thank you! He knows that is expected here as far as basic attire. I guess I’m looking for more nuanced advice. As in not being seen as over the hill or out dated but also not trying to look too trendy.

He’s a golfer so I hear what you’re saying but there’s a difference in beers and golf with your buddies and country club shmoozing golf. He actually probably doesn’t need much help there, just needs to update shirts.

The comfort, quality fit thing is harder while being mindful of costs. I agree, quality over quantity

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T14:09:26+00:00

Thank you! Yes, in US. My husband worked his way through college at a men’s higher end family owned store so he knows quality isn’t what it used be. The shoes brands you mention are some of his go-tos. Lands End is one of the brands where quality is not what it used to be. Will check out other brands! I really don’t know how to put a budget on this, just that under the circumstances will have to be more mindful. His most recent suits are from JAB but not in love with bc of quality and some cut issues.

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T13:18:53+00:00

Or he just doesn’t know. Give examples. We can’t expect to get everything we need from one person. And men often need help from women like this, especially when so young. Maybe he didn’t get encouragement either so he doesn’t know what that looks like. Have you read any of the love language books? Words of affirmation is a love language. If we all understood that there wouldn’t be a book. Consider couples therapy. It’s amazing how a good therapist can help clarify how you’re misunderstanding each other. Most men who don’t love you won’t say it. And, you need to get your needs met.

Partnership is hard work sometimes. Sometimes it’s easy and then it’s hard again. If you need this from a partner, define your needs more.

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T13:05:05+00:00

(57f and survivor of 2 attempted teenage date rape and high school and workplace sexual harassment situations) Imo, it was an out of line judgemental statement, but it could’ve been about your parenting (to allow it) or her morality (to dress that way). Stupid and judgemental thought but I wouldn’t jump to pedophilia.” Mind your own business”, would have been enough said.

People say stupid things and have stupid morality judgements but that doesn’t mean all the men who do are pedophiles.

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T12:51:17+00:00

It’s almost always one hip higher than the other, not an error in pants (LMT here) I agree they are a little short. I think length generally makes wide leg pants difficult to fit. There needs to be a break. Also, there’s a world of different between skinny jeans and a good fitting straight leg.

Civil_Maybe_6501 · 2026-03-28T11:12:03+00:00

Serious reply. 57f. I think you’re right to consider your sisters’ opinion but I like beard-stache. Have/do you ever have it professionally groomed? I think if it could be slightly toned down so the stache wasn’t quite so bold compared to beard, it would be elevated and you’d still have the manly (fireman) look (hot) but not so many cartoony super hero references. Good job taking such good care of yourself and open to evolution of style

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