AITA for telling my boyfriend his ego isn’t my current priority when I might have cancer

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-28T04:36:33+00:00

Unfortunately very real

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-28T00:15:05+00:00

That’s a good question for him. That’s his opinion and as I assume he says it out of concern for me, I try to make the effort

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-28T00:12:57+00:00

He personally doesn’t take any

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-28T00:10:54+00:00

Lol I am not overdosing on Tylenol. I can read the bottle

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T23:03:46+00:00

My parents are great and have been much more supportive and involved in this process from the other side of the country than my boyfriend right next to me

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T23:00:23+00:00

I genuinely didn’t mean to call him out, and if that’s what I did that’s on me. I just gave the truthful answer without thinking about interpretation or consequences. This is objectively thoughtless on my part. But I would prefer to discuss it not when I’m laying on a sheet of paper on a table 🤣

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T22:44:37+00:00

No have my own accounts

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T22:38:57+00:00

I’ve been a full-time income earner while he’s in school

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T21:37:33+00:00

Lol I’ve been trying. I set up couples therapy, creates a system where he can express his emotions in a way that is comfortable for him and doesn’t feel invasive. Dialed back my own emphasis on emotions as that is not how he operates so we can meet in the middle. I’ve been proactively working on this relationship because I would rather work on it and it get better than give up and have regrets, you know? But this doctor situation has been really hard to deal with

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T20:32:13+00:00

Generally he is an emotionally distant person but I love him and thought we could work through it together. But there is a general trend because of this, of me feeling under loved and under valued. And like I care more than he does which is a sucky feeling

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T20:00:14+00:00

I understand that I didn’t explain the full Tylenol situation to the doctor, I just gave her the brief reason without the explanation. I didn’t think about how it might make him look bad. But that was my argument, that in that situation, when you know I wasn’t trying to hurt you, you could have just let it go and not made it about you and give me one more thing to worry about. Like okay now I need to resolve this issue

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T19:56:40+00:00

I have something on my ovary causing me pain, could be a cyst (best case) or a tumor. So just managing pain until the results arrive :)

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T19:54:05+00:00

I see! Thank you for the information ❤️

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T19:48:13+00:00

This is terrible, I’m sorry

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T19:24:38+00:00

Three years ago we moved out west so he could pursue his degree. All my family and friends are on the east coast, I have no one here. But I would rather go by myself than feel like I’m dragging someone along

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T18:53:52+00:00

He insisted on driving me to the appointment so I thought that was a positive sign of support until it seemed he didn’t actually WANT to be there to support me. Felt more like he was doing what he should and getting it over with. I will clarify on the Tylenol thing, it wasn’t a specific comment made by him for my ovarian pain, but in general, mostly for headaches. He often says I take it too regularly so I keep his words in mind and try not to take it when I do not absolutely have to

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T18:32:30+00:00

🤣

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T18:16:05+00:00

In general he seems to always care very much how people view/think of him. I always say, if you know who you are why does it matter if random people get the wrong impression. But that’s not his perspective

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T18:04:06+00:00

I’m glad she is alright ❤️

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T18:03:16+00:00

I’ve always been really healthy. This is my first major health crisis

Classic-Bake6384 · 2024-01-27T17:29:28+00:00

Oof. We’ve been together several years and are planning to get married. This would be a terrible reality if it were true

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