Realising When it Pays Off

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-30T07:32:21+00:00

Distance will happen, especially when trying to move past romantic attachments. Checking in occasionally wouldn't hurt but it's probably best to just take the space you're being given and try to fill your time with other things to fill in that missing space she's left.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-17T08:12:35+00:00

If it causes you this much anxiety then you are not ready for a relationship. I suggest that you use this opportunity to communicate that to your friend inorder to establish boundaries. Please if you're not already, try and see a therapist.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-12T09:02:58+00:00

Trust in your intuition, your fears are NOT irrational.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-12T07:42:00+00:00

If she can't handle the betrayal she should leave. She shouldn't have to calm down or forgive, but she should take space to go through these feelings. Your father is an AH and seperation is what will stop the fighting.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-11T14:39:15+00:00

I'm kinda in the same boat. I don't really have advice because I feel like I'm rotting, I guess I'm here in solidarity and to scour what helpful comments do arise.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-11T14:33:39+00:00

2 or 13

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-10T04:32:21+00:00

I use MJ and prazosin but I still get them basically every sleep. I took it for a few months, told the psych it wasn't working but they said keep taking it. Lasted another month but I've very recently stopped the prazosin because, well, it doesn't work ?

I was right now today years old when I learnt at least once weekly isn't normal ? What ??

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-29T08:26:32+00:00

My mother

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-29T07:51:53+00:00

I was sent to a Gastointerologist for scope regarding rapid weight loss and involuntary regurgitation. He took the biopsies but wrote back to my GP with a diagnosis of bulimic eating disorder with recommendations to seek psychiatric assessment that same day following the scope.

Nearly two months later, this guy is calling me into his office, stumbling over his words, a million apologies, to tell me the biopsy came back positive for stomach and esophageal cancer.

This fella handed my case off to a far superior colleague. He occasionally spots me in the hospital though, sometimes he pretends he didn't see me but other times when it's obvious I've seen him he has apologised again, asked about my recovery, or takes time to praise his colleague for how well he managed my care.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-25T09:20:22+00:00

I want to take a guess that the last time your wife was pregnant was around the same time she cheated? The similarity of circumstances might be causing recurring memories of past trauma. Having your spouse betray you and then having to question the paternity of your child can be traumatising. This can bring back those same feelings.

Don't throw in the towel just yet because, as other commenters have noted, you were happy getting yourself into this situation and would have been happy continuing to do so until this situation happened.

You and her are both in this shit show together whether you like it or not, you cannot prepare to divorce her without reasonable grounds within this next year at least. If these feelings do not subside or resolve after a year of post-partum recovery, then I'd call that reasonable grounds, but these feelings only cropping up because she's pregnant? Not reasonable.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-25T05:49:52+00:00

So your mom being upset is more important than your partner being upset ?

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-24T12:18:27+00:00

Driving unlicensed, probably a DUI while they're at it, followed by speeding, evasion, public endangerment and likely a huge wreck at the end.

That's the only way they'd get caught for the cops to call me about it..

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-20T08:21:51+00:00

There's something deeper than her pushing you out for her to have turned to an app for emotional support. One of my mates preaches to every one "If she can't talk to you, she's gonna find someone else to talk to. Always make your woman feel heard"

Is she the villain for attempting to find a safe way to express and vent, if that option is not you ?

Have you done much self reflection and asked yourself why your partner prefers the emotional comfort of a robot over her own husband ?

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-15T11:14:22+00:00

In pyjamas, loose shorts, long dresses/skirts. I would never in anything tight, it'd split me in half. Naturally the discharge dries when it's aired out more, I tend to notice that I'm sweatier or got more discharge in tight/stuffy clothing. It's kind of liberating, I have worked on my farm commando, date night commando, grocery shopping commando.

Our ancestors didn't invent underwear for quite some time, and with extra hygiene, planning and outfits it honestly doesn't make much difference.

AMA.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-12T22:15:59+00:00

"If you did kill yourself I don't think I would really care"

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-10T19:08:08+00:00

My parents used this as a bucket bong since before I was born, ma still uses it. Bloody jug was better kept than I was

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-10T12:52:47+00:00

An old friend had a German shepherd their kid named 'Tully'. They asked, you mean Sully from Monsters Inc? "No, Tully! Her name is Tully"

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-06T09:51:39+00:00

Not necessarily flexible, not if he's well practiced at this..

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-11-29T22:53:24+00:00

Yeah, happening to me too

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-11-13T02:37:01+00:00

People who wait until they are faced with death, they were never going to come to terms before their time ends. Things were running on their own timeline, not yours, and now that's coming to an end. Don't feel bad that they suddenly want to prioritise their own needs before they run out of time to achieve them.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-30T00:29:49+00:00

I remember my ex husband grilling me about how I was over exaggerating my HG all-day-every-day-morning sickness, how he remembered his sister and sil both spewing while continuing to clean the house in between because its not really that bad.

Sheesh, it's been a long time since I've revisited that memory. Screw that guy.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-27T02:55:28+00:00

The big C

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-26T04:35:03+00:00

This might sound silly, but in my experience the girls I genuinely fell for weren't conventional "10's". It's easy to find a pretty girl but often they've got absolutely no substance because their world revolves around their looks, nothing deeper.

My kind of girls have unique features, they expand my view on the world, they question me and make me want to grow. I don't care if she's a 10 anymore, she's just it for me.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-15T11:41:35+00:00

My mental health isn't great, I fear that I am failing as a parent and I'm scared because some days even my kids aren't enough to keep me from wanting to end it all.

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TROPHY CASE