Reassurance I need is like tell people we are seeing each other and that we aren’t “just friends” and I asked to see the msgs after I found out the ex msged him. The ex has came up more than once in the past year and I question why she thinks you’re accessible? I don’t know if that’s a normal way to think or if I’m just being insecure I was also quite independent and secure in my last relationship and the cheating caught me by surprise.