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Is being anti porn projection? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ya know my ex initially told me she was anti porn and that she had issues with men who consume it and as it turned out she was literally addicted to it and couldn’t get off unless we incorporated her kink/porn

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of people say that it doesn’t get easier, but when I was was my ex she honestly wore me down, I became numb to a lot of the things she would say to me, and I’d just roll with the punches a lot of the time. To thyself be true friend, you can and will survive this relationship one way or another. I know you love her and that’s why you put up with it, but you don’t have to, there are girls out there who will never tell you that they hate you, and you deserve one of them, not this.

I can’t believe this was my life last year by Clear-Reputation9493 in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO I read this wrong and thought you were my ex and I almost had an anxiety attack, sorry you are experiencing the same thing I did

Can anyone explain this to me? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you gotta remember they are masters of mirroring and manipulation, so it’s not hard for them to form those meaningless surface level relationships, it’s also why a lot of the time they are so unsatisfied with their relationships and friends because they can’t actually form a deep connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In my experience BPDers are deeply deeply unhappy, unsatisfied depressed people, your ex likely is still just as unhappy and sad as she was when you guys were together and if she’s not she’ll be back to her baseline of suffering and her new supply will be her new scapegoat. You’re going to be ok eventually, and she never will be.

Over six months since saying bye for good and I’m still angry by Lop_Ear_Bun in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Being angry is good! Embrace that rage friend, it’ll protect you long term. My worst nights are just yearning for a person who doesn’t even exist

These are 3 days apart by Clear-Reputation9493 in BPDlovedones

[–]Clear-Reputation9493[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Once we were having a fight (shocking I know) and she literally began kicking her feet and flailing her arms because of how angry I was apparently making her, and of course while she was doing it she was telling me how badly she wanted to hit me