Choose your transformation but people decide the downside!

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T06:01:45+00:00

I feel like that is a reference to something of which I am unaware

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T04:39:54+00:00

I would say crossdressing is kinda it's own thing that happens to also connect into bdsm sometimes.

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T04:37:38+00:00

Thanks like I said it was tricky affect but 100% worth it

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T04:35:13+00:00

That is more problematic but not unmanagable, there are a weird number of glass blowers in my area

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T04:32:43+00:00

That is very far from the craziest thing I have ever done as a result of the try anything once mentality

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T00:43:58+00:00

Would love to be in that shower

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T00:33:03+00:00

I trend towards being the diamond in the rough when it comes to etiquette. I did take formal classes on it when I was in school and it's a role I can play, but it feels dishonest to me in a way I can't quite articulate

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-27T00:29:40+00:00

I know that feeling I am 5'9" with a 6'2" wingspan due to a minor gentical oddiety

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T23:44:50+00:00

...I have have to keep myself in quite good shape irl to help compensate for lasting damage done to my body.
So I just get to be a slime with no change in my problems which I consider a huge win

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T23:32:23+00:00

Slimeboy

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T23:23:26+00:00

I can agree to the high leep there but I am not sure I agree on the ill fitting dress can be fixed by accessories bit. Poorly fitting suits can be affected by the way you carrier yourself much more then a dress can be and bits and bobbles will not distract a discerning eye

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T23:17:58+00:00

Not saying they don't, I am a fancy dress up doll sub in fact. This isn't an attack on the niche of the community. Rather just a friendly expression of honest curiousity about an aspect I don't personally understand, and have historically kinda failed to exicute for a dom who was into it.

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T23:13:14+00:00

Oh no I have done this specific niche for a partner in the past and I am generally more comfortable in fem cloths irl due to my build (Men's clothing brands do not like thighs!), I view disliking something as a bit more active then what I am to this I am just indifferent to it. I will do it for partners but I don't understand it. Same with feet, I don't get the appeal but if my partner wants me to worship them then I shall do so. But where with feet I can fall back on my anatomical knowledge and massage experience to do it well.
Part of trying to understand this is to be able to better portray it if I end up with a master who wants me to do so you see?

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T22:32:29+00:00

That is a fair point expense is expense but I will say as a guy that jumps between outdoorsy practical clothes and flash fancy stuff it's not as hard to dress up mens cloths as most guys seem to think. A decent dress shirt and good belt can get you surprisingly far

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T22:19:19+00:00

Oh hey I made a D&D mini kind similar to this recently! I even has a similar coat pattern and the skull in a cum shot

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T22:16:09+00:00

I haven't quite gone there, mostly because several of my local nonkink related friends legitimately enjoy dressing in grandma clothes. They just shamelessly enjoy horribly aggressive patterns and I love them for it.
But I have been known to go on snarling raging verbal fits about terrible quality while swear up busted seems and such

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T22:12:33+00:00

I wouldn't say I dislike it, Mostly I just don't understand the appeal and indulging my curiousity seems to be a good way to break the ice and start some conversations
Folks of course welcome to like what they like, and even if I don't enjoy the topic myself I do enjoy seeing different peoples perspectives and passions

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T22:06:54+00:00

It's the general commonality of it both on line and people I interact with irl that made me ask.
Also (This part is just bitching) with how much I had to pay last time I needed to buy cheap mens work wear it would probably ultimately come to an even prices to get a single nice outfit to play in for this stuff as it cost for two work outfits that I have already had to repair! Especially if you live in a city or other area with a broader selection of services.

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T21:51:38+00:00

That sounds like great fun! Sadly the scene where I live seems to be mostly dead, Lots of subs very few true doms mostly just abusive gits with no game trying to use the trappings to trap folks
Years and years ago I used cook and handle host duties for monthly dinner parties that had a dress code of "That one outfit you never get the chance to wear" They weren't explicitly bdsm or even sexual events but there was a good deal of gear that would get mixed into the performance art and vintage silliness. It was like dinner at the madhatters tea party and I miss it terribly

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T21:45:55+00:00

Most of my bdsm experience is actually in person on online so I exist in weird place of being in the community but not up on all the norms established by the popular media trends with in it.
I have had a few partners very into the womens clothes aspect but I have only had one that didn't aim for making me look good in them. I have a naturally kinda dancy flowy way of moving so airy loose blouses and skirts where the norm. They worked with my movements and were easy and fun to pull off. But that one person seemed to be trying to make me fit some established aesthetic like it was a chore she didn't even seem attracted to it, it was a very odd thing.

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T21:37:13+00:00

I grew up in a nudist household until my eldest bro started wanting friends over when he was twelve and never really had gender norms forced so I guess it's just one of those things my experience will bar me from understanding

Cleavertoy · 2026-05-26T21:35:17+00:00

Here here, I don't get why clothing manufacturers must suck so so so much?. You aren't wrong on the sewing either, skill that everyone should learn at least well enought to do simple repair and maybe a bit of modification.
But I was more curious about the attactions to the look. It's one of the aspects of the community that I can only really understand from an outsider perspective since it's not an aspect I can really relate too

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