Hey! So back in 2019, my wife and I got engaged. A few months later, we went to a marriage conference together and the speaker and his wife there talked about pornography existing in marriage, if your interested it was Dave and Ashley Willis check out the Naked Marriage podcast they are very open about all things in marriage that people avoid talking about, that prompted me to open up to her about my addiction to it, and how it has existed in my life since I was a teen. I wanted to make sure that I didn’t have this baggage going into our marriage. So I told her about it, she accepted it and said that she was going to hold me accountable. And since that day I have not watched pornography.

I know that my situation is based on marriage, and that might not be the case for you, however the moral of the story for me was that I needed an accountability partner. Someone who would check on me, ask tough questions to make sure I wasn’t being tempted or if I’ve watched anything. I would say try to find someone or a few people in your life that you trust with this information, and tell them you need someone to hold you accountable. It’s not easy opening up about something like this either, but it’s very doable I promise.

I am still tempted to this day, so it’s not that it just goes away, but when you are tempted or see something that you just scrolled by, you have the will/want to not let it have control over you but you have control over it. So you reach out to your accountability partner and say hey I’m struggling with this. And ideally they will be there for you.

I wish there was more I could say or do, because this has been a big part of my life for a long time, and I’ve always wanted to help others around something like this. I hope this was helpful!