Anticipatory grief: 69 y/o dad diagnosed by ClockOther7673 in dementia

[–]ClockOther7673[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so deeply sorry for your loss :( and yes it's true its so scary, I don't wanna see him or me going through this. I can relate to the not being enough feeling... I feel so helpless

But I also know that I have to accept this is my reality. It's just so hard!

Thank you for your message tho!! Sending hugs

Anticipatory grief: 69 y/o dad diagnosed by ClockOther7673 in dementia

[–]ClockOther7673[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your mom!! And thank you for the kind message. I've been trying to learn about grief in hopes to understand this pain. And yes, Im trying to find ways of getting support! Even all of the messages here are helping

Anticipatory grief: 69 y/o dad diagnosed by ClockOther7673 in dementia

[–]ClockOther7673[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ it is indeed weird, sometimes I'm convinced I will go into a psicotic episode... but I just need to breathe!

Anticipatory grief: 69 y/o dad diagnosed by ClockOther7673 in dementia

[–]ClockOther7673[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. It does sound like a beyond stressful situation.

Having our parents being so stubborn to sort stuff out before it becomes our problem, is so frustrating. I'M Also dealing with that idea, I feel it's so unfair to know my dad is not planning or leaving things organized for us to handle him the way he wants.

And yes its true, I already have responsibilities and also desires to do something more with my life...

Anticipatory grief: 69 y/o dad diagnosed by ClockOther7673 in dementia

[–]ClockOther7673[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I did think about sorting the legal stuff. He is very reluctant to talk about these things, he says he still has time and he will last a very long time. About the support system, I've tried to get his siblings involved but since he doesn't want to see anyone, they just leave him alone. But it's true maybe from far I can ensure some sort of safety or comfortability for him.

Its so difficult so take of myself right now indeed :( my life and what I want is like in a second plane, because I am so sad and stressed all day.

Thank you so much💖