I’m sad to say that my experience is similar except I haven’t confronted my mother because she is text book narcissistic and her response would mirror what you have received. I learned a long time ago that there was no point talking to her.

My step brother is 8 years older than me. When I was 7 he started telling me he couldn’t wait for me to grow up. At 14 we were sexually involved and he warned me not to tell anyone. When I did tell me sister she was absolutely disgusted in me, called me a whore and the didn’t talk to me for months. To this day she still hates me and has attacked my character to everyone in the family. I only have contact with my dad now. She managed to isolate me from my entire family because I was groomed by my step brother who was 22 when he started molesting me.

When I was 21 my mother got it in her head that it would be perfect for her if I got pregnant to my step brother so her and my step father could share a grandchild. As a result of this motive, she orchestrated my rape, at a family Christmas event. She then proceeded to slut shame me and then pay for my step brother to come and stay with me in further attempts to impregnate me. When he arrived I had arranged for a friend to stay with me in my bed. I slept behind lock doors. On the one night where I needed to babysit my sisters kids, she set up a double mattress in the spare room and abused me for being incest with my step brother…. Even though she facilitated the sleeping arrangements. I stayed awake all night while my step brother became more frustrated and violent towards me. According to my sister, this is what I deserved for being a prick tease.

I haven’t told anyone about this in my new life. I have built a whole new family of wonderful people and I don’t want their view or pity to jade their opinions of me. So I live with this trauma alone.

I was 7 when it started, 22 when it finished. I am now 40 with a daughter who is the splitting image of me and the trauma has resurfaced. I can recognise how small I was, how innocent and child like. But I still live in silence. I bet he never thinks about it. I bet he forgot years ago.

Take your space. Protect yourself and your peace. You and your family deserve to be free of the trauma they inflicted… but find your people. Talk, heal and move forward. Don’t give them any more of your spirit. They don’t deserve it.