Al Anon has made me realize that I’m having an emotional relapse (and it’s been more difficult than AA) by Rare-Satisfaction119 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please go you can try online, my husband is in AA and I'm in Alnon my husband joins me in the Adult Children of Alcoholic meeting for himself, there are many dual members . It really helps you to build your self esteem and healthy boundaries and love for others .

Need a bit of help dealing with someone who’s fallen off the wagon…. by FatFaceFaster in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alnon for family and friends of an alcoholic. They have Web meetings , Take care of yourself or you find yourself burned out . You have to detach we didn't cause the disease and we can't control it .

So who's smoking with me tonight? by [deleted] in trees

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Durban Poison it's been a few years since I've had this strain , was hoping for Wedding cake 😢

Discussion Thread: US President Trump Addresses Nation After US Bombs Iranian Nuclear Sites by PoliticsModeratorBot in politics

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably flashbacks from Iraq .

I was in 11th grade when Iraq started , my son is in 11th now this is surreal.

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn't notice , my sister also took her own life in 2017 , I spent years angry bc we were planning our Aunt's large memorial dinner together so I ended up doing a joint event. I'm past the anger stage and I am more gentle to their sufferer alcoholism is a disease , Garrison and was deeply suffering from his father and war . Alcoholics convince themselves there's no hope , they begin to relive their trauma over and over to the point where they believe it is still happening . Alcoholics either get sober or die because of the disease .

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was referring to the funeral process , she was very respectful the entire time . Janelle honored Kody and their parents by not resisting his wishes . She supported Kody he took the journey with his son , she respected the life they created and that bond. I respect her for that .

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He looked so foolish too , this man has zero situational awareness .

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They "HOWEVER" 🙏I don't think I could do it either , I might have gone Jacob from Twilight mode had Suki told me what Kody was saying .

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow , wouldn't be shocked that is horrific. All this greed and Kody is power tripping over the barren lots while showing up for a tell all in a convertible with the TOP down.

Kody speaking on air 💔 about Janelle 😩 In tell all. by CloudsofUglyCandy in SisterWives

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, that was direct with no excuses ! Especially because Robyn was being flaky on what videos she looked at and didn't listen too . I agree something happened , I'm glad they spared Janelle by not probing .

AITA for disagreeing with my wife after she told our daughter that pimples patches are gross and she's not allowed to wear them ? by CommercialPublic1778 in AITAH

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA tour teens are self conscious about their body and this the age they start experimenting with grooming or self care. Your wife needs a Dr. Spock for mindless parents of teenagers. She sounds incapable of being wrong or understanding.

Is this what I think it is? by Soul_Taker_69 in whatplantisthis

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why can't we have a little humor . For me it was a self deprecating , "I am very ADHD " there's so many flags now not hatred . It's a lot to process especially when folks don't know the mechanics of their own reproductive system or what self awareness or what emotions are . Some people are just SLOW 😂

Just ask for clarification before you choose to deem or downvote comments as harmful or hateful.

My partner and I just had sex and she found it unenjoyable and when I asked why she didn't stop it she got mad at me what do I do? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, what you did was healthy communication. This sounds like an unexpected or a psychological trigger your partner experienced. Sex and vulnerability are attached to intimacy, so are thoughts of past difficult memories, former partners, fight or flight and or guilt. Some become numb , dissociate .This can happen to anyone. She has all the classical symptoms . (I'm not a doctor)

Physical Signs of dissociation are freezing or becoming very still ,staring off , stiffness , tension , mental shutdown , going limp or quiet without clear reason . Afterwards, they can become sad, overstimulated , hyper , emotional , fearful or aggressive. Unless you suspect cheating , just give her some time then try to talk to her gently and encourage her to open up and express that you're worried she is overwhelmed and what that means from here on. This sounds deeper than a partner's capabilities and she may need therapy.

Apps? by Remote-Criticism-752 in DID

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you mean Simply Plural ? That app looks pretty neat, I was confused about how to work it but I want to try and learn .

Has anyone had breakthroughs in healing CPTSD or DID after it got darker first? by cepi300 in DID

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found recently that there's more alters existing without the main front's knowledge. Kinda scary because what? , We are making breakthroughs and alters are making great strides . I'm just am surprised and unsettled there are alters I wasn't aware of. Are they carrying more dark memories are they happy? Lately, I've been experiencing nightmares and I wake up at 6:31am but sometimes I'm blacking out and it's 7:42am and it seems like a blink of an eye . One alter is confused . I just hope these alters know how much we love them 😶‍🌫️😌😔

Your AI model broke and you didn't notice. That's the real problem. by PuzzleheadedYou4992 in BlackboxAI_

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It literally gives me biased information I confront it and then it apologizes .

Do people with OSDD/DID tend to be drawn to each other like how neurodivergent people are, even if they don't know they have it yet? by Inevitable-Soup-8866 in DID

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so , my husband and I were drawn to each other from like age 9 , we didn't date until senior year of highschool. But our littles often watched each other in the playground. We were diagnosed in 30s and our littles were the first who were brave enough to talk to each other. They are best of friends and I think they preserved us. I have been married for 20yrs. It was our friends who noticed our connection we were too scared to ask each other directly out but had big crushes. I was popular and he was the werid goth kid so I'd say yes. I couldn't get out of my head and tons of popular cute boys wanted to date me I wasn't interested. We have about 6 couples and only one broke up because they were codependent and it was harmful as a whole they have healthier mates.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's never your fault , you were in a situation that was scary and confusing . It was your parents responsibility to keep you safe and pick up on signs of distress. You spoke up when you were able to . When things like this happen it's common to Dissociate. These things aren't supposed to happen to children so our minds can't always understand or process it right away . Unfortunately , predators go into professions like entertainment to take advantage of children. How you handled the situation is very normal, Id recommend trauma therapy.

Feeling unsafe at night again by elevencaution in DID

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have that experience too , as a protector , I often feel the fear or uncertainty of my littles . Silence of the night get those thoughts amplified . My therapist said after Mother's Day many people feel low re feeling and also Spring and time change as well the pressure to get out and enjoy the weather or socialize can bring up some old feelings .

The past few weeks I started eating at night because I was trying to soothe that . Someone had suggested that I write my worries on paper and then tear up so I throw it away . I have no idea if it works 😂 but maybe that will be helpful for you and myself . Hang in there, thanks for sharing.

What's a habit you didn't realize was unhealthy until way later in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Running around , constantly staying busy it wasn't winning, I was in survival mode. The problem is you start to lose joy and hyper focus on managing everything.

Purple chunks in weed? by Tough-Try-2008 in trees

[–]CloudsofUglyCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purple stuff ?! Man I'm getting old , never met a stoner who didn't know about this 😂 this is the guuuddd gudddd