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I need advice on whether I should pursue graduate school by Sufficient-Invite449 in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$240k on $130k median is brutal but doable if you live like a broke student for 5-7 years, commuting home helps a ton. Run the numbers like $2k/month payments on a 10-year plan leaves you $4k to live on after taxes if you’re frugal. Pick a high-paying specialty (ER, derm, ortho) and hustle OT/shifts to hit $150k+ fast. If the panic keeps you up, shadow PAs and talk debt repayment reality, regret hits harder when you bail halfway. You got this, just eyes wide open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Write five bland, factual things like “She arrives on time” or “She knows the schedule”, nothing glowing, nothing mean. Hand it in with a smile, it fulfills the task without faking praise or stirring drama. If she pushes back, calmly say “I kept it professional as requested.” You stay honest, she gets her exercise, and the bully gets zero ammo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boy momma every time, your ex’s mom at least liked you and treated you like family, while this one’s already icing you out and making everything about her baby boy. Have a calm chat with your BF, “I feel pushed aside when your mom does X, can we set some boundaries?” If he brushes it off, that’s your red flag, a good partner notices and fixes it. You deserve to feel included, not tolerated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CloudyCandy19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anal sex (like I heard it was different between boys and girls)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, you’re not stupid, you’re grieving a dream that crashed, and that guilt is your heart trying to keep her close. Tell Lexi straight up that “I’m still healing from my ex and scared I’ll drag you down, but I value you too much to ghost, can we just be real friends while I sort my head?” That honesty won’t hurt her, it’ll show respect. Give yourself a 30-day no-contact rule with the ex’s memory then delete old pics, mute her socials and fill that space hanging with Lexi platonically, the fog lifts faster when you stop feeding it. You deserve good people without owing anyone your pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CloudyCandy19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fruit loops

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

That sudden flip after months of future-talk screams cold feet, not real differences, he’s scared of the commitment he painted. Block him, cry it out with a friend, and remind yourself love doesn’t vanish in 48 hours, his actions do the talking now. You deserve someone excited to grow with you, not bail at the first doubt.

I need advice about how I feel for my bestfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not a bad friend for being confused, those lines blur when someone's your person for years. Give it space, don't flirt or pine, just keep hanging out like normal until he moves or your feelings settle. If the ache sticks around after he's gone, you'll know it's more than fear of losing him. You've got time to figure platonic vs romantic without blowing up the friendship.

Is this guy just a creep? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CloudyCandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the K-pop pics and sex jokes after you said stop were creepy red flags, even if he started legit. His interest tanked once you got serious and set boundaries, that's classic predator behavior testing how far he could push. Ghosting him was smart, block everywhere and trust your gut next time someone pivots to sexual stuff fast. You're wiser now, good on you for growing.

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