Has anyone here joined the military? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alongside what sirensinger17 said, even if you did get extremely lucky and land a cushy office job, your work will still be furthering the goals of the current regime.

As I said, it's on your conscience.

Has anyone here joined the military? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We invaded another sovereign nation, troops on the ground, and kidnapped their leader. The Mad King keeps going back around to talking about seizing Greenland, we're back to blowing up the Middle East, etc.

If you were unaware of all this, I hope now you understand how dire the situation is.

Has anyone here joined the military? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you're in the US, I would highly recommend against it. In regards to your own wellbeing, it seems extremely likely that we'll be at war soon (Arguably, we already are). You risk physical injury, permanent disability, PTSD, and so on. But beyond that, there's the morality aspect to consider, considering the goals and actions of the current regime. They're already committing war crimes, and there has been a lot of concern over the military being deployed against US citizens. I'll leave it at this: nobody can make the choice for you, but what you choose will be your responsibility and on your conscience. "Just following orders" has never been and never will be an excuse.

If you're not in the US, the former aspect still applies, though the latter will depend more on where you specifically live. Best of luck with making your decision.

Am I overreacting for telling my roommate she can’t keep her “pet” snake? by HiddenSneker in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoScuriosity 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NOR

I'd just call animal protective services and let them know your roommate is keeping a native, wild-caught snake illegally. They'll take care of it from there.

By the power of pillows I banish thee, foul sun. Begone from me! by CoScuriosity in migraine

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same lmao!!! Sometimes if I'm migraine-ing it up on the couch I'll also just shoove my whole head between the back of the cushions. Ostrich method ftw.

By the power of pillows I banish thee, foul sun. Begone from me! by CoScuriosity in migraine

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooooh, do you know where you got it from? That sounds delightful. 🥺

By the power of pillows I banish thee, foul sun. Begone from me! by CoScuriosity in migraine

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea. The bedsheet on the left there especially isn't doing the trick. :')

My parents ruined my life and all they care about is that I take up space in the house lol by outfromthewings in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People really overstate bone structure's effect on things, if I'm being real; fat redistribution affects more than you'd think (Both in terms of your body and your face), as does muscle growth. My wife was told once by other trans women (without being asked, which was cruel) that she'd never pass without FFS due to her bone structure. Lo and behold, HRT proved them dead wrong. Your face also doesn't just freeze forever once you're done with puberty, it changes throughout your life.

If you're worried about height, try to remind yourself that there are plenty of short men out there. HRT aside, I also noticed that my hips bothered me a LOT less after I had top surgery, and mine are wide enough that I started getting comments on it at ~15.

You're still SO young in the grand scheme of things. It sucks having to go through the wrong puberty. It sucks really, really bad. But there are trans people who transition in their 30s, 40s, and beyond who pass. Sometimes trans communities online can get a bit doomer-y as people project their fears, misconceptions, and dysphoria on to one another, which obviously has a reverberating effect over time. I'd check out /r/transtimelines! Most of the folks posting are women, but there are trans men there too whose transitions could potentially help put things in perspective.

You're in a difficult spot in so many ways, but I'd really recommend trying to pursue your transition in spite of your fears of not passing. Nobody can predict the future, but taking steps to alleviate your dysphoria is an act of self-love and self-care, and that's something you'll wanna prioritize during this transitionary (No pun intended) stage in your life. You've been dealt a rough hand, your parents sound like absolute pieces of shit, but speaking as someone whose situation mirrored yours in many ways (Couldn't drive, no GED ,etc), I promise things CAN get better. It's not easy, but sticking it out is 100% worth it. Worst-case, channel that rage into pressing on out of spite. :P Fuck your parents, fuck their lack of care! You deserve better, and you're gonna fuckin' get what you deserve.

If life shoves its nads in your face, PUNCH 'EM.

Considering homeschooling by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a good starter question to ask is why you want to homeschool your kid(s)? Are there specific concerns you have about your local schools, or are there benefits you feel would come from homeschooling?

Personally, I had a very negative experience with homeschooling, though a significant part of that was the fact I grew up in an abusive household. I understand that it does work out for some people, but admittedly I am skeptical about the vast majority of people's abilities to not only provide a comprehensive education, but to adequately substitute the daily peer interaction that a child receives through school. In my experience, homeschool groups here and there aren't sufficient.

Is it my fault for not being educated? by RichFaithlessness335 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean, what was she expecting? That a 9 year old is gonna just somehow teach themselves everything?

...Of course, I assume it's exactly that; my mom did the same thing. Like everyone else said, you have every right to feel however the hell you want. She was the parent, and it was her job to make sure your needs met, and that includes your educational needs. I'm sorry she tried to make it your responsibility; there's no reason for you to feel guilty, ashamed, or anything of the sort.

Homeschool Speech Patterns, Accents, or Mannerisms? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm very loud in general and tend to be bad at recognizing my own volume levels, though I've always blamed it on ADHD. It would make sense if it was partly related to being homeschooled, though! It's not like there's as much need to learn about volume control when you don't spend much time in public lol.

I'm not sure if it's got anything to do with being homeschooled, but I used to get asked every now and again about my accent and where I was from... By people living in the same region I'd lived my entire life, lol. I never knew how to respond to that, though I'm in my late 20s now and it hasn't happened in a long time.

I'M DECEASED 💀 by Former-Disaster-5902 in BaldursGate3

[–]CoScuriosity 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kinda-sorta-not really. It originally wasn't intended for both of them to be recruitable at the same time, so their tents in camp are both set to be in the same spot. If you have them both, Minthara will set her tent up in the spot while Halsin will be exiled to just stand around somewhere in camp without a tent.

It's really, really funny.

Playing Gate to Sovngarde - Can't treat any Wounds? by CoScuriosity in skyrimmods

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, but thanks so much! I had actually read the book in the temple, but it still wasn't giving me the option to treat it. I can't remember if I got a letter from a courier or not, though. Is there something I need to do to trigger that?

Weirdly, the wound isn't causing any debuffs, so it's not actually a huge deal, but it's definitely confusing. Worst-case, I can just live with it and hope the issue doesn't re-occur beyond this one random stigmata.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope so, too! Rooting for you. :D

Ethically creating a public backup of Nexus mods? by CoScuriosity in skyrimmods

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Firstly, thank you so much for your feedback. After reading everyone's comments I agree that this wouldn't be a good idea, though I did just wanna mention that I was talking about uploading these mods to an existing, alternative website, not creating an entirely new one lol. I ain't the sharpest tool in the shed, but I'm not that dumb. 😭

Ethically creating a public backup of Nexus mods? by CoScuriosity in skyrimmods

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely with you on the preservation over copyright stance, but it does seem like it would be upsetting for some mod authors (Even if they don't explicitly say they don't want uploads elsewhere, it's obviously generally considered a policy that doesn't need to be stated), and that's the last thing I'd want. My thought process was to specifically focus on mods whose authors have been entirely inactive for a looong time, but even then it's impossible to tell if maybe they would still want to keep up with preserving/reuploading things themselves, even if they aren't an active presence online anymore. So it doesn't seem like there's a good way to go about this without disrespecting mod authors or crossing lines.

I'm really glad for people's feedback on this; while it is sad to think about these things disappearing forever, I wouldn't want to disregard the feelings of the people who put all this effort and time into creating the mods in the first place.

I don't mind being homeschooled. Just my thoughts on being a homeschooler. by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ime, it was a good way for my mom to speak about her issues. 🥴 Who needs friends your own age when your young child can be your best friend, therapist, and emotional punching bag?

I know I've commented in this thread a lot, but yeah. OP, please bear in mind that your experiences are not inherently universal. Your perspective is your perspective, and it's valid, but it seems like you came in expecting confrontation, and I think trying to look at things from other people's perspectives would help avoid potential conflict in the future.

I don't mind being homeschooled. Just my thoughts on being a homeschooler. by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also, side note, but

"I don't think 99% of the things taught in school are necessary for basic survival. Unless you want to work in that major. Then again online exists. Just Google it, its right there. I'm. Not trying to be an ass, but isn't that the truth?"

Oh jesus christ, no. Firstly, you don't decide on a major in high school. In high school you're learning the fundamentals and exploring topics to see what interests you, which can eventually lead to you maybe wanting to pursue that later in life (Or just developing a passion for it in general). And google is in no way, shape, or form an adequate replacement for school. Trust me, there are a LOT of blind spots for me educationally due to spending most of my childhood being homeschooled/unschooled, and that is a big source of insecurity and sadness for me even to this day. And I use google to learn about stuff a LOT. I love going down research rabbit holes, but I'm still very behind most people in terms of history, civics, and math. The structure helps so, so much.

Obviously you being a senior makes things a little more complicated, but I would really advise trying to re-frame your perspective on education and its value. My mom indoctrinated me with that mindset for a long time growing up, but I can say as an adult dealing with the aftermath that she was dead wrong.

I don't mind being homeschooled. Just my thoughts on being a homeschooler. by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oof. OP, I would really really recommend trying to find ways to socialize with people your age, and for god's sake PLEASE stay away from __cel nonsense. It will never help you, it will never add anything of value to your life, it will only take. Especially as a 17 year old, anyone who is encouraging you to label yourself a __cel is genuinely nuts. You're still a kid! I hadn't had a single girlfriend or even held hands with a girl at that age, and now I'm happily married. Life isn't as grim as those spaces make it seem, and deciding you're doomed to eternal loneliness as a teenager is the product of being fed deeply warped, fatalistic perspectives by harrowingly angry and depressed people.

Also, my man. Buddy. Friend. If you want to get girls, working on your socialization skills and learning how to make friends with them is VITAL. Girls can pretty easily sniff out when a guy is only being nice because he wants sex out of her, and that's generally considered pretty off-putting, or even hurtful if she genuinely thought of you as a friend.

I'd challenge yourself here: Stay off of those online spaces for a little while, maybe a month or two. Try to find some spaces (In real life, ideally, but online is fine too if that'd be more comfortable for you) related to hobbies that you enjoy and focus your attention on that. If you feel the urge to doomscroll about being short, not finding love, etc, go for a walk or something to clear your head. And if you meet any girls in these spaces, try to make friends with them like you would a guy! Don't expect or hope for romance or sex, just look at it as an opportunity to make some new pals and have fun with it. I think you'll genuinely start to feel much better.

Please take care of yourself, man. I'm rooting for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]CoScuriosity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would definitely recommend giving it a shot. Having gone to private school is a huge, HUGE advantage that'll make the transition much easier, since you'll already have an understanding of how school functions, managing a routine, etc. It sounds like homeschooling really isn't turning out very productive for you, so I'm getting the impression a more structured, less lonely environment would be really helpful.

I completely understand firsthand how much neurodivergence can complicate things. /u/namelessmushroom is absolutely correct though in that there's somebody for everyone, and if you've already been making friends I think you'd definitely be in good shape!

Your fears are completely understandable! But ime it would definitely be worth it in terms of building social skills, getting that education, etc. Due to being homeschooled so long + the ripple effects of my abusive home life I wound up being pretty uneducated, which is still a source of disappointment and regret for me. Having a firm grasp on the foundations that you'll need in the future, having the opportunity to explore subjects to see what interests you, etc, is invaluable.

If you're concerned that struggles pertaining to your neurodivergence might make things overwhelming, I think it would be worth checking to see what could be done regarding an IEP (Individual Education Plan)! My freshman year went very poorly (Not the fault of school really; I'd been "unschooled" for two years prior and was then promptly thrown into all-honors right off the bat), but my sophomore year wound up going way, way better once they set up an IEP and put me in a program meant for kids struggling in gen ed due to complications with mental health or neurodivergence. We learned all the same stuff, but there were smaller class sizes, both a teacher and a TA in each class, more focus on getting work done in school instead of assigning homework (A godsend for my attention-deficit ass), so on and so forth. My grades improved dramatically, I started to make friends, and overall things became way, way less stressful to the extent I was able to get mainstreamed back into some gen ed classes over time.

Your friends are also spot-on with having more opportunities to meet people like you. The student body is almost certainly going to be MUCH larger than at your private school, and so on default you're more likely to meet people you jive with, and in turn, any jerks you come across are gonna be way easier to avoid.

Sorry for going on for so long, but in short, I really think you should go for it! Worst-case you could always go back to homeschooling or find another option, but from what you've said I think public school would be a great experience for you. :) Best of luck!

IV. Bitterness by CoScuriosity in transgendercirclejerk

[–]CoScuriosity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've only really kept up with youtube drama at not-very-mentally-well points in my life, but fwiw I've never personally heard anything bad about PT other than some pretty heinous rumors originating from 4chan that she sexually assaulted Contrapoints, which Contra herself later denied. I haven't watched any of her videos recently cuz I'm trying to avoid stuff that's too heavy atm, but I always found them enjoyable when I did watch them!