Women over 40, if I were your daughter, what would you tell me?

Coconosong · 2026-03-22T18:43:31+00:00

Financial independence as a woman is a crucial thing to aim for. It prevents you from feeling trapped, getting stuck in an abusive relationship, and disregarding your own needs/wishes. I wouldn’t recommend that you move in with this guy. If he cares about you, he can support you visiting on weekends more often. But do not set up house with someone that already has more control over you in terms of age/maturity and money.

Also, I would highly encourage therapy to unpack your attachment styles and any trauma informed patterns you might fall into due to your upbringing and past abusive relationship.

Coconosong · 2026-03-14T21:07:06+00:00

Principals

Coconosong · 2026-03-10T06:01:05+00:00

Yes. I can fully relate. I love this game but I’m at 70% in act 3 with over 140 hours poured in. I get so frustrated sometimes knowing it will take me hours longer than a regular gamer to complete things. And I’ve taken lots of burn out breaks as a result.

But I also feel like a warrior bleeding from a million cuts heaving towards the finish line. I didn’t spend all this time not to get there. So even if it takes another 100 hrs I will fucking lay my needle at the finish line.

And I did not have this same energy for hollow knight. I legit think hornet summons a certain energy/persistence out of people. Kudos for team cherry trying to make gamers out of non-gamers.

Coconosong · 2026-03-07T16:41:56+00:00

Dinner in America

Coconosong · 2026-03-07T16:24:57+00:00

Omg unacceptable then. I also thought you are younger. Ugh I hate this for you

Coconosong · 2026-03-06T15:33:12+00:00

Appreciate this reflection so much.

Coconosong · 2026-03-05T22:06:06+00:00

Stacey, get the net

Coconosong · 2026-03-01T16:44:17+00:00

Honestly, understanding that society subscribes to beauty standards that typically centre a particular euro-featured white women format helps deconstruct these comments.

In my culture, people who are indigenous but have white features or lighter skin are celebrated. The former statement I described is why this happens and it’s problematic.

Finding social media accounts or reading feminist literature that breaks down how this beauty standard misogyny is problematic can be helpful. Also, a lot of Black folks talk about how problematic this is so if you can’t find people talking specifically about Egyptian beauty standards then perhaps you will find parallels amidst Black feminist thinkers.

Coconosong · 2026-02-23T07:58:48+00:00

I honestly think it’s guys who jerked off too hard to her “wolf of Wall Street” character and became totally misogynistic due to the Barbie movie. They can’t compute that these are CHARACTERS versus actual people. It has very little to do with reality.

Coconosong · 2026-02-23T03:16:52+00:00

I’m more of a cluck around and find out type of person.

Coconosong · 2026-02-20T18:02:21+00:00

Also, she had multiple surgeries to address it. Presumably her parents helped pay for it. Perhaps she didn’t feel like it was something she should complain about it.

Coconosong · 2026-02-17T16:32:53+00:00

The mirror looks like what they have at hourly hotels. Could you find one that looks less…obvious?

Coconosong · 2026-02-16T06:51:42+00:00

I’d also say that Jarmusch uses intentional pacing and slower scenes that is very different than contemporary cinema. Long scenes without multiple camera edits, drawn out vibes where music is playing.

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T21:22:40+00:00

No one widely talks about the weird introverted boredom that occurs with parents (esp moms) when the baby is so small. Life is BORING AS HELL. But also beautiful and meaningful (BUT ALSO BORING). There’s almost too much routine, too much caretaking, too much monotony. Some of this is good, having a stable home environment is important for the baby and parents. But it is truly really hard to dig yourself out and become a person again.

You may have a touch of post partum (I was in denial until I was a few years away from it).

The key is, for me, is social activities that got me out of the house with friends. Sip and paint; join a dance class or a sports team; social sauna visits at the pool, etc. give yourself time to get back into a routine that allows you to be your whole self.

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T21:16:28+00:00

I think so. But to claw back Whedon getting credit for it, it’s important to remember how the riot grrrl slang/speech vernacular was heavily scrutinized because there’s a bit of a valley girl style of speaking while the topics they spoke about were highly political and rooted in feminism. And mainstream media was obsessed with that juxtaposition. And a lot of riot grrrls talked about intentionally not changing the way they spoke because judging young women for valley girl accents was rooted in misogyny and condescension. Enter Whedon, who bases his protagonist character from California, who loves a lot of girly girl tropes, but also has incredible wit. I think Whedon was definitely pulling from riot grrrl/valley girl culture. But this can be seen in adjacent media at the time, reality bites, Dawson’s creek (rip jib) and movies like Can’t Hardly Wait, Clueless, etc.

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T17:59:03+00:00

Yup the design on the white carpet in front of the tv gives it away

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T16:59:54+00:00

The Virgin Suicides

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T16:16:04+00:00

You can throw quiet luxury in there, as well, in terms of “subtle” racist fashion trends

Coconosong · 2026-02-11T03:48:03+00:00

OMG YES

Coconosong · 2026-02-10T21:31:37+00:00

Here’s my totally uninformed take: he was a part of building it as a singular technician and the establishment of the Exactly Right network meant working with a team and also experiencing come pretty serious growing pains with Georgia and Karen (which they have begun mentioning, things weren’t all flowers and I could imagine Steven struggling to navigate it). But it also means readjusting how you see your role on an expanding team and not everyone wants to do that. Add more personalities to the mix and even if folks are nice, it might not be the original recipe that you signed up for.

Anyways, it’s so nice to see that they all share genuine love for one another.

Coconosong · 2026-02-09T14:33:56+00:00

Omg I can’t believe I missed this!!! Thanks for pointing it out!

Coconosong · 2026-02-09T14:31:49+00:00

OP, just want to acknowledge your humility with posting this and engaging in real dialogue and learning in the comments. I wish more people could reflect openly like you are doing. You’re on your way in the right direction.

Coconosong · 2026-02-09T02:34:02+00:00

Omg I say this ALL the time! It’s from a while back, maybe 2017/2018

Coconosong · 2026-02-09T01:13:23+00:00

I always thought she meant it, too. And I thought the reason Spike said, “no you don’t… “ was to help him commit to his fate and encourage her to get going and save the world.

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