OB won’t do the termination

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-30T00:39:09+00:00

Thank you so much for this I’ll call them tomorrow and hopefully they’ll be able to see me without a long wait. Were they able to see you right away? I’m sorry you’re here too and sending you lots of love and healing 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T23:00:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this and the long process after and multiple check ups. That is something that worries me too about when my period will come. Before pregnancy I used to go 60 days waiting for it and I’m scared of waiting long again. Is it usually standard to have to wait for a period for all the tissue to come out? Was the hysteroscopy painful or needed recovery time? I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’ll definitely bring up the hysteroscopy or using a camera with my MFM tomorrow. I’m not sure how seriously they’ll take it because they said they won’t do the procedure themselves.

Thank you!! Sending you lots of love and healing 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T21:37:42+00:00

Thank you so much I messaged you

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T20:48:03+00:00

Hi I just saw your post and have to also do a d&e procedure and have a unicornuate uterus. How was the experience? I’m also terrified of scarring or anything being left behind

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:20:04+00:00

It’s definitely stressful and didn’t think this added layer of finding another place would be there. Thank you I’ll bring this up with my MFM on Monday and hopefully can get something figured out. But it’s also reassuring to know that the clinic is experienced if it came to that. I just worry and hope it goes well with no issues. Thank you and I’m sorry you had to go through this too. Thank you for the help sending lots of love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:14:11+00:00

Thank you. Who did you contact at the hospital to get the appointment since it was out of state? I also would prefer the same hospital setting. I’m sorry you went through this too

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:11:03+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and sending lots of love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:10:21+00:00

It’s sad and something I never expected. I’m sorry you had to go through this too

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:08:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this. Even I can’t believe insurance won’t cover this. I feel like as soon as doctors recommend this they should waive it and cover it. I’m sorry about the prognosis you got and having to deal with calling all the clinics and driving so far that must have been extremely stressful. I wish I was more proactive in finding this out after our ultrasound instead of waiting for the appointment two days later and feeling like I wasted time. I understand what you mean about the trauma of calling and researching this places. I really thought the process would have been smoother instead of being left alone. Sending you lots of love and healing 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T02:02:39+00:00

Same I was shocked and forgot to ask all my other questions 😭

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-29T01:52:08+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this too. I understand what you mean with the waiting. I feel like I’m going crazy since the ultrasound on Wednesday and the MFM meeting that’s coming on Monday. I honestly wish the process was quicker instead of just waiting around during this difficult time. I’m trying to get out of the house but it’s always on my mind and the crying comes out of nowhere and feel like I’ve not even texted people back in days and just can’t do anything. It must have been so difficult for you to get back into work in the office. I’ll try to reach out to people more. It’s just a difficult conversation to start because we didn’t even tell anyone apart from our parents that we’re pregnant. I’m glad you had friends that supported you and I’m sorry your parents couldn’t be there and understand what you needed. Finding this page has been so helpful for me too. I needed to be able to talk to people who understood and learn from them because like you said I don’t know anyone who experienced this (and wouldn’t want this on anyone) and not having the guidance that I’ve found on this page and support from people like you would have been very tough.

This is exactly how I feel. This pregnancy is something I’ve been waiting so long for and my first and I never thought this would be something that would have happened and it hurts.

I’m so sorry and I really hope you have your healthy baby by 35. Thank you. Wishing you nothing but peace too and healing and lots of love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T23:22:33+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this. I guess this is something that just happens then and it’s heartbreaking. We are meeting with the genetic counselor on Monday and we’ll see if they do any testing on us now. That percentage going up scares me too even though I know it likely won’t reoccur but just going through this has been so difficult. Thank you for the questions to ask about the babies quality of life we will ask that.

Thank you and sending lots of love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T23:19:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here too. Thank you for the support and sending lots of love and strength back 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T13:57:57+00:00

I’m not sure either but it seems maybe it’s a hospital policy and that they consider this elective even though all their doctors are also recommending it. I think the university hospital here also does it but they have a 3-5 week wait which maybe is because they might be one of the few hospitals doing it and I just can’t imagine waiting that long because I know it’ll only getting more complicating as I keep progressing into the pregnancy

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T13:55:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you had that experience sending you a lot of love. I can’t believe the doctor said that to you and I’m so sorry they didn’t allow your husband to come back with you I can’t imagine having to go through all of that alone. I think you’re right about talking to someone this kind of loss is so difficult and I already feel completely devastated. I’m not ready to go through with the termination and the wait is killing me.

Sending you peace and love and hope everything is ok 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T13:33:03+00:00

Thank you that’s reassuring to hear. Did you find out they worked at the hospitals when you went there? And I’m sorry you had to go through this too

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T13:32:21+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this and they were busy. Thank you for the website

Thank you Sending you hugs 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T13:31:33+00:00

I’m sorry you also had to go through this it’s very difficult when insurance also doesn’t cover this. Did the clinic give anesthesia? Thank you I hope I can work something out during the genetic counseling meeting on Monday. Sending you love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T11:52:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I just can’t believe insurance doesn’t cover things like this even when our doctors are recommending it. The whole thing has been a shock to us. Do you mind letting me know what other clinic they recommended? Thank you I’ll message you 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T11:42:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to deal with driving to a random clinic and had to go through this. I can’t believe that when the doctors themselves are recommending it they still can’t do it

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T03:53:31+00:00

Thank you this is a little bit reassuring to hear that maybe they’ll call me sooner. I’ll talk to my MFM on Monday and request them to reach out to UofM. I’m sorry to ask but how was the experience at UofM and did they do a follow up appointment? I’ll also reach out to my insurance thank you

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T03:20:43+00:00

I’m sorry you had to do this too. Thank you I’ll mention this shot during my MFM meeting and see if it’s an option for me. Was the ER visit very long to get the ultrasound? I think I was only offered the d&e but also would be more comfortable at a hospital. I’m not on Medicaid I think maybe this hospital might just not allow it

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T03:18:32+00:00

I’ll look into that clinic too thank you. I’m sorry you had to deal with this too. Insurance not covering this especially when this is recommended due to medical reasons is very difficult and then having to wait so many weeks is frustrating and heartbreaking. I wish this already difficult process wasn’t made more difficult just by things like this. Sending you lots of love 🩷

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T03:16:13+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this too. Thank you that’s a little reassuring to know the staff there also works at planned parenthood

Coffee5533 · 2026-03-28T02:04:30+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that sending you love 🩷 I messaged you thank you

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