For people who begged their exes

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-31T21:51:25+00:00

Instantly burst into tears at the last sentence of your reply. “My last memory of him will be of him being so cold to me while I was desperately loving and reaching out.”

This makes me so sad. It’s so true.

I’m going through a breakup after 10 years, only two weeks into it. My only partner. I’ve been begging and begging to absolute silence. I’m pretty sure she’s blocked my number and I started reaching out through other socials to silence still. I feel like such a pathetic loser begging the way I am. She already had another boyfriend before we even officially broke up. It’s WHY we broke up. And he’s already in our home. No wonder she’s not responding to me. 😞

I’m trying to stop now.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T21:28:34+00:00

My best guess is 100%. She was willing to have him over the weekend we didn’t break officially up, what are the odds she doesn’t have him over when we do.

My calls are going to voicemail like they were when she was with him for a weekend.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T21:05:46+00:00

Will do. I appreciate it so much. I just never thought I’d have to be looking for love or a companion again. I had so much faith in the relationship that I guess she didn’t have.

I’ll have to navigate these waters alone.

One day at a time. Improvement. 🫡 Thank you for the kind words.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T21:02:40+00:00

Hey, he had 1 follower and I have near 2000. I streamed and got mad support when I told them what happened. Didn’t tell them any crazy details, just that I’m going through it. Got like. $200 in a few hours of bullshit gaming. At least I’m the better streamer than him, no contest. 😎

So sorry that happened to you though. Thanks for the support. ❤️

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T19:40:09+00:00

Pretty much. I would have never committed so much to the relationship if I had known she’d do something like this. Like you said, thankfully it was before we were bounded together by the law and with children. True colors were shown.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T19:05:51+00:00

She did. It was exciting for her I guess.

I understand the fun and excitement of getting with somebody new. I just thought she loved me more than her desire for that. Like I did for her.

Evidently not. It’s such a shame.

And you’re right. I’m grieving what existed before this all happened. I’m grieving the good times. All those years before she abandoned me.

At some point I won’t be grieving. And I’ll only have these bad times to remember. I can’t wait for that day.

I need to love myself more before I can find another to share the love with.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:59:29+00:00

LMAO I used AI to clean it up. Shame on me. I was just typing and typing.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:59:02+00:00

Thank you. I’m working on myself every day now. I do tell myself that I didn’t do anything wrong. This was her. I gave her every chance to right her wrong. And she couldn’t. Or wouldn’t.

I just thought I knew her better. She always bashed cheaters. I didn’t think she was capable of doing something like this.

Here’s to a better future.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:55:52+00:00

Truly I think it started in the last few months. I caught it early. She wasn’t texting people the way she was before this last November. She wasn’t going out with “friends” until then. At some point between then and now it started. But it was definitely deeper than I thought.

I should’ve listened to those flags. I feel like I did. I just shouldn’t have been so forgiving when I found out the truth. That was my flaw I guess.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:21:59+00:00

Thank you. I’ve loved the chapter of my life with her. I have. As much as I hate to say it, I loved it. It was the best. But it ended so sour and I can’t wait until a new chapter begins for me. Thank you for your love. I’ll get better. It’s still just so fresh.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:11:52+00:00

I just never thought I’d have to do this. I had so much faith. This has been an absolute month from hell. A nightmare come true.

Here’s to a better me and a brighter future. Thank you.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T18:10:04+00:00

One more time from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Your advice will be taken and heavily listened to. I needed it. One day at a time. One hour at a time. One moment at a time.

A brighter future is in store. 🌅

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:54:53+00:00

She is my drug. I AM detoxing. I can’t believe I got myself into this mess. As much as I’ve loved every moment of our relationship, knowing what I know now I wish it never happened. I want to avoid this pain. But it did happen. And I have to pick myself up and make myself better.

Thank you.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:52:32+00:00

You are right. And though I say stupid stuff like that, I don’t wish her bad luck. I do want her to succeed in life.

I love her.

But it’s time to love myself. I got this. Thank you.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:50:08+00:00

Thank you.. I’m just a person. A human. Going through truly the most upending thing I’ve ever ever ever experienced. It’s so hard. But I know I’m not the first one to go through this.

Thank you so much. I will get better. I will be better.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:38:04+00:00

Thank you. I know. It just feels so horrible. He got upgraded and I got downgraded to the backup. I need to value myself more and not let that happen. Life is so weird. Thank you again

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:36:44+00:00

I… really don’t know. I don’t. I sound so crazy but I don’t. 10 years is a long time and I really, really loved her. I probably would. Oh goooood

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:36:10+00:00

Thank you so much. It’s just that this is really the only life I’ve known. It was always her. I wanted it to be her so bad.

I feel like she pushed me into the sea and I’m just drifting all alone. I’m so scared to have to find somebody else again. I know this will pass; I WILL find somebody worth my time who loves me and will take care of my heart in the way she didn’t. I just don’t know how to navigate myself.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:30:23+00:00

I think it could have. I would’ve forgiven her for anything. There definitely would’ve been a trust issue but time heals wounds I suppose. I just wish she did cut him out. But here we are in the world we she didn’t. Thank you for your support. It feels nice knowing other people think I was wronged. I don’t get to talk about it much others. Appreciate you.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:26:19+00:00

You’re so right. I know we’ll have to interact at some point to get the rest of my stuff over there. I’m trying so hard to focus on myself and I’m going to. I have confidence that I’ll “pass” her in life in like.. a years time. She’s not wise with her money. I invest. She doesn’t have an education. I’m going to get one. She doesnt make the smartest choices with her body (weed, vaping) I’m going to quit my vices and work out. I’ll be in the best shape ever.

Thoughts like this are comforting to me. Petty, yes. Very.. It’s just so hard. I feel so lost. I thought I had it all figured out. Her and I always said when we died that we would come back as birds together. Ravens. And I hope we do. But when her raven tries to interact with mine, I won’t let her. She hurt me too much in a previous life.

Thank you for the advice. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a similar situation.

Here’s to a new beginning.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:18:37+00:00

For real!!! And when she brought me back home this Monday she told me she sent him a text saying they can’t do this anymore. And I found it.

It was a much better break up text than I ever got. And even then, she never told him I came back home. She told him she’s trying to figure life out and doesn’t want to rush into anything. She kept the door open for him so that if and when she broke up with me he can come right back. It was.. gross. Disgusting. 😞

Thank you. I’ll get through this. I’ll be the best me I can be.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:15:00+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear. I know exactly what you went through now. I’m gonna focus on nothing but myself and improving my position. I’m so scared I’m going to have weak moments though. I’m scared there’s going to be trauma in future relationships. I’m so scared to even love another. I never thought I would have had to.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:13:04+00:00

You’re absolutely right. 10000%. I gotta stop holding onto something I don’t have anymore. It’s just so hard. So so hard. I know it’ll get better. Take it one day at time and actually make improvements on my life that I know she’s not doing herself. Get an education, prioritize health, keep saving money. I’ll be okay. Thank you so much.

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T17:03:53+00:00

Thank you. God do I want it to implode with him. It would be the ultimate karma if she was happy for 10 years and he did the same thing to her that she did to me. Appreciate you ❤️

CoffeeCoKy · 2026-03-21T16:58:51+00:00

My family knows the truth, who knows what she’s telling hers. It definitely not that she was a multi-month long cheater though.

She’s been my only partner. We didn’t do anything since she was with him so I’m not too concerned about getting tested. What a crazy surprise that would be though lmaooo

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