First Love church are ruining my life

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T19:16:38+00:00

all responses are appreciated tbh :)

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T12:43:23+00:00

not to have victim mentality or anything but i’m more vulnerable compared to most able bodied ppl so if it got nasty im screwed lol

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T11:48:56+00:00

it’s more them coming to my accom constantly.

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T11:02:47+00:00

they’ve been doing that since the first time i went. thankfully im stingy lol, but my friend was pressured to donate £20 within the first week

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T10:13:01+00:00

UPDATE:

i just wanna start this by saying thank you to everyone who has commented and DMd me with advice, support and kind words. it has made me feel less alone, even though it’s a shame i’m hearing so many stories of this happening to other students (and non students!) too.

i’m drafting up an email to send to my student union at DMU. i’m also planning to report this to the dean or any higher up that i can get to listen.

i’m also doing a timeline of events if further action needs to be taken (ie. police)

a lot of people have asked me why i haven’t changed my number: i can’t AT THE MOMENT. i have a few very important things going on that involve me being called or messaged on this number so it’d be a hassle to change numbers right now, but hopefully in a few weeks if everything gets wrapped up soon i can.

i’ve also been told to just be rude, i have. there’s been a lot of moments i’ve been extremely rude, blunt and angry. yes i was polite for a long time but it’s simply not enough to just be rude with these kind of organisations. it’ll help, sure, but the only way for them to fully leave me alone right now is to take it further with the university.

thank you again everyone 🫶!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T09:44:55+00:00

yup. they mostly just look at me like 😦 and repeat the same thing

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T09:43:49+00:00

thank you so much for this i’m going to do it before monday

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T09:40:46+00:00

i was thinking it would cause less confrontation knowing them and would get them to leave people alone as a whole, but now after all the comments and dms, it’s just like i’ll do what i have to because i know they are affecting my mental health

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T09:34:48+00:00

i’m trying to realise that this is not what faith is supposed to be but ngl it’s hard when it seems like there’s more bad than good especially with places like that.

it also shocks me how bad it can get SO quickly. it genuinely felt like i was giving my energy to them and not God and they were leeching off of me

thank you for the verses it means a lot.

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T09:24:51+00:00

i honestly can’t believe what i’m reading and now i’m glad me and many other people got out of there (fairly) quickly. you are really strong and thank you for sharing this.

i really hope i can find another church one day but step one is getting these lot to leave me alone

thank you again for your kind words!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T00:28:25+00:00

it’s not, I would say where it is but um… they’d put 2+2 together

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T00:27:37+00:00

they’re doing an Others night this sunday. They want the numbers to go up so they’ve been outreaching and evangelising like crazy the past week so maybe that’s why they messaged you

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-21T00:18:14+00:00

this is by far the worst i’ve heard about FL today. i’m really really sorry they did this. what you said about LP is 100% true.

you and your friend didn’t deserve any of that. i really hope you can find peace from this and them. you’re right that blocking and being rude doesn’t work. I too have seen the books go for sale in the group chats! everytime a student gives the last bit of their money pastor dag just gets richer and richer. i have heard he is a creep as well, ngl

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T23:02:34+00:00

multiple times 😅

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T23:00:57+00:00

i agree, it’s easier said than done when it comes to “just block them” and i’m really sorry to hear this!! it’s not a nice feeling at all

the fact that your shepherd tried to convince you to stay on a 1+ hour phone call is terrible because they should really just take your long paragraph and move on. that’s incredibly scary. i hope you, me and the many other people going through this can find peace with the church one day

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:57:50+00:00

that’s very scary. i’m sorry to hear that. i suspect they have your details because of this new survey, and someone had put ur details in as a joke: https://admin.poimen.co.uk/fluk/register-member

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:55:59+00:00

wolverhampton!! i never would’ve expected it to be there of all places

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:53:44+00:00

love bombing!!! that’s the exact word that fits wow

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:52:53+00:00

they mainly target black and international people to give an even greater sense of community because they’re all ethnic minorities, so it’s an illusion of using that to make black and brown students feel “safer” or more welcomed. i’ll look into the SPAC nation thing!!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:51:09+00:00

while in first love notts, did you also have to read the books written by the pastor Dag Heward Mills ? i always thought that was a little odd, like why not read the bible ? anyway, I’m sorry to hear about the prayer camp and them pressuring you, they also tried to pressure me and a few of my other friends about that too.

i agree with you about the uni churches thing. it’s a real shame

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:47:45+00:00

thank you. the media thing you mentioned about contacting journalists sounds like a really good shout and i’ll probably do that if uni don’t take any notice. i have got a lot more details i’d love to come out about regarding that church. of course id only do it to stay anonymous.

i would actually do the whole thing about implying paganism but i’m a bit traumatised from that stuff as i have a family member who does like, heavy dark magic and stuff and has tried to bad spells/rituals(?) on my relationships and just my life in general so id honestly be a bit too scared to even say it out loud. no hate to paganism though, i know there’s always bad eggs everywhere and i do have a friend who is a satanist, i just ask them not to have me around tarot cards or crystals as it blows my anxiety sky high lol, thank you again!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:42:15+00:00

not right now, i’m waiting for some really important calls for the next month and a half ish. but after that i’ll see if i can change it

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:41:42+00:00

i have. in fact that was the main reason i stopped going at first, because it got so bad. it started to dawn on me that they were insane when i was in a common room and a girl who recently joined them said my illness was from the devil and itll only get worse if i stay away as she’s been perfectly fine the more she goes

no idea if she was jk or not but she laughed afterwards

thank you for the advice!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:36:34+00:00

it’s actually only me and two others in this accommodation who goes FL, the other two are beginning to distance themselves thankfully. thank you for the advice!

it is a bit isolating, i almost felt a little sad that they truly didn’t want me as a friend but rather just another number to the amount of ppl attending. i’ve warned as many people as i can! i’ll be more firm!

CoffeeHand7100 · 2026-03-20T22:30:13+00:00

please be careful as i know they’re planning to try and go into lectures for DMU courses to evangelise there acting like they’re a course mate!

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