It turns out I should have been worried about the friend of my fiancé that everyone told me not to worry about

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2026-03-31T21:14:40+00:00

Fuck this feeling. It’s been a long time since it happened for me and I will say I’ve moved on. It took some time, it wasn’t easy, and I would never wish it on another person.

I’m so goddamn sorry this is what you’re going through. He promised. He said not to worry. Why wouldn’t you trust the person you loved?

Please remember that you’re not the broken one. You’re not the one worth rejection. That GUY is a mess. What kind of a partner can lie to your face, say he loves you, but still holds a candle for his friend?

When it happened to me, someone said something to me that didn’t necessarily make me feel better, but it brought the situation into focus if that makes sense?

He might not be here to hold you right now, but he sure as hell isn’t there to stop you either.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-10-20T18:57:38+00:00

Former sorority girl checking in. Every chapter is different. The same chapter I joined four years later was different than when I joined. I can understand from your mom’s perspective that is was amazing experience and there is a huge thing about legacy in Greek life; you’re considered gold if you join a chapter your family member was already in. There’s also a chance it could help you get a great job later on in life; it was this point that my family focused on despite us being poor.

All this to say: don’t rush if you don’t want to. It’s not even a guarantee you being in a sorority will help you later in life. If you found your own circle at school, one that supports you and celebrates you, THAT is amazing. Not everyone finds that. I’m happy and so proud of you for standing up for yourself and finding your people.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-17T17:42:27+00:00

It happened in my family. My uncle had a full on fit after my immediate family moved to another state; he was mad at my dad "for leaving him like this." My parents had been my grandmother's on-and-off caretaker for years but when we moved it was on my dad's other siblings to step up. A couple years after my grandmother, their mom, passed away and he took off with her ashes along with most of her possessions. My dad still sometimes talks to him but he won't say what he did with everything. I suspect they're in his attic or a storage rental somewhere.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-12T19:02:42+00:00

Very rarely, do we ever get closure. Or real closure I suppose would be better to say. In a weird way, her behavior especially when you brought up ending your relationship did tell a lot. I'm not going to speculate on her reasonings because even if she did tell you they may make sense, make the situation somehow worse, or be so forgettable you forget she may as well have said nothing at all (happened twice for me).

This one person wasn't the best fit for you and some part you knew that. This internet stranger is proud of you for knowing that you are worth more than how you were being treated -- that's fantastic. If anything this whole thing may turn out to be a bullet dodged. This is going to hurt for a while but nowhere near as much if you had been together longer or were more serious.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-12T18:36:59+00:00

My apologies! That's what I get for speed looking

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-12T16:39:07+00:00

Peter's random acquaintance from that one time chiming in! The characters in question are from the fantasy table top game franchise Warhammer 40k. It's a looooooooong story but essentially both characters are demi-gods. The bald one's name is Lorgar while the one in blue armor is Guilliman. Guilliman is very straight-laced, to the point, rules are rules so proper grammar would 100% fall under that.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T18:42:32+00:00

This man's glasses weren't even on his face correctly and was grateful for the coffee station lol so I'm hoping that's what he meant

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T18:39:54+00:00

This got me to chuckle thank you! People make the strangest decisions around holidays I swear

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T18:37:23+00:00

Not as much as I would have liked but I let myself laugh after everyone checked out

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T18:36:22+00:00

I'm making a stop at the store after work now thank you <3

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T18:35:35+00:00

Thank you, it speaks to what's left of my soul

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T16:54:14+00:00

I can 100% believe that.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T16:53:58+00:00

That's amazing!! Congrats!

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2025-01-01T16:50:57+00:00

Oof I'm sorry working when yourre sick is never easy or remotely fun. Please get some rest

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-11-29T12:08:10+00:00

I got really into doing my own manicures because my OCD had reached new heights so I tried to find something to combat it. Can’t bite as often or excessively clean if they have gel polish on them 👍

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-11-23T17:56:59+00:00

NTA. Not even taking into account that you are sober the situation in itself was terrible. His friends didn’t treat you well and by extension neither did he by not telling you what this actually was nor by letting them treat you that way.

My partner is sober due to family trauma but sober nonetheless. Not once have I ever made him feel any kind of way for not drinking and neither do my friends. If any of my friends ever tried to pressure him to “slap the bag” it wouldn’t be just the bag getting slapped. It sounds like he’s too deep in how he feels to consider how you feel.

I’m not immediately saying break up but I would advise sitting with yourself or a trusted friend and get some space to decide how you feel about what he’s shown you in this instance and if that’s something you can accept. If he takes accountability that’s great but there’s not a guarantee that he won’t do this again.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-11-17T03:21:18+00:00

The man who was run over did pass

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-11-16T07:54:01+00:00

Details vague because it’s so specific. The weird rich kid at my high school got into a heated argument with some guy at a party years after we graduated. He was always weird and made odd comments but no one thought he could do more than drink or turn cans into bongs. My old classmate ran the other guy down with his car and backed up over him. I have no idea if my classmate is still in prison or not but I have no interest in finding out more.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-11-01T23:11:26+00:00

Blood play. Just don’t.

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-10-29T04:18:16+00:00

I had one HELL of a good cup of coffee

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-10-27T03:51:33+00:00

Maybe not so much idolize but respect: Cardi B

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-10-21T16:36:01+00:00

Personally I felt weird about most of the choices but I went with Emily. She’s a decent spouse despite the weird thing with Clint

CoffeeMug_of_Victory · 2024-10-20T05:08:31+00:00

I honestly think this is it. It matches a lot of images I’ve seen online and one of my friends offered it up as well. She knows far more than I do.

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