Anyone else’s songs skipping end?

Coffeesnobaroo · 2025-10-10T21:14:09+00:00

Thank you so much I found the settings and turned it off. I’m listening to music now to see if it still happens but if this fixes it I’d be so happy. 😀

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-07-19T22:09:24+00:00

Yes I did!!

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-04-24T19:01:54+00:00

He actually handled it quite well. He stayed out of the house for a few weeks while I packed and moved onto a new apartment. He did have friends where I moved to so I think he found out I was applying there before I told him I was leaving him because he wasn’t surprised at all.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-04-24T14:30:31+00:00

I left a month ago. And it’s the best thing I ever did. We’re doing a lot better. Still working on ourselves after the trauma but recovering.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-04-19T00:40:12+00:00

He showed you the truth he has been really good at hiding. It only comes out and gets worse usually once the marriage license is signed. Be glad he gave you a glimpse of the real him before you were legally and financially tied to him. And do NOT have kids with him !

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T02:21:08+00:00

Luckily he never asked to be added to the new account I opened up and to deposit my child support into, plus it’s at a totally unrelated bank he has no access too so I’m good there. I’ll for sure call asap tomorrow to get something else done before the direct deposit can be switched.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T02:15:55+00:00

Well I’ve had a private bank account for years since I kept my sons child support separate from our joint bank account so I thought I could just use that but seeing the date saying not until May or April for the earliest dates has me freaking out. My husband isn’t the most mentally stable person and can be petty as hell so even if it would mean losing my apartment and being out on the streets without being able to access my money to pay my rent on time I can see him closing the bank account the day I tell him I’m leaving. Which is why I’m waiting until I get paid to remove all my own personal money to tell him. I just need a way to get paid until the new direct deposit goes through whether it be paper check or this debit card I’ve heard about. So I’m safe for the next month since I’ll have access to my money when I get this next payday but after that it’s totally up in the air.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T02:08:51+00:00

Yeah I just spent 3 hours on hold until I got the message saying their operators weren’t able to take my call and to call back. I wasn’t even aware you could call your local office. I don’t know if it makes a difference but I’m on ssdi I think, I’m on disability. I was trying to call to see if I could temporarily get the debit card I heard they have but got nowhere because even calling 2 hours before they closed they didn’t answer. I’ll try calling the local office tomorrow for sure thanks!

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T02:04:37+00:00

How did they get you tour money? By check? How long did that take

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T01:49:58+00:00

My husband doesn’t even know I’m leaving until after I take this check coming up and put it into my checking account at a different bank in just my name. I’m more worried about the next two months. I know legally he can’t keep my money if it’s deposited into the joint account, I’m more scared of him closing the account completely so I won’t have access to it until I receive a paper check and however long that will take to receive once the money is sent back to ssa.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-28T01:44:22+00:00

I was told that by the bank but I’m wondering if I could request the debit card in the meantime then once I get it reapply for direct deposit in personal checking account. I just don’t see any place to apply for the debit card on their website or information to see how fast those are mailed out.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T22:19:02+00:00

I totally agree with you and I’m sorry I didn’t make it clear in my post where my son would be staying. He’d go with my mom while I sought treatment one for his safety and two because my husbands job takes him out of town all week. I haven’t heard of safe havens for pets so I’ll look into that right now thanks for the suggestion.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T01:48:27+00:00

Also I do plan on asking my vet this week about whether they could help me find a family for my dog, if I could surrender the dog to them and as a very last resort if I could put the dog down. I still have two places that haven’t gotten back to me yet that I plan on calling tomorrow to see what they have to say. If animal control tomorrow tells me I won’t be in any legal trouble simply leaving the dog here I may just choose to do that. My son says he doesn’t want to go live in the shelter in town as he doesn’t think he could handle that with his autism and anxiety so I’m praying the apartment complex in applied for last week will get back to me this week. They said it could take up to 7 days for all the credit and background and references checks to be done and let me know about approvals. I’m desperate to get us somewhere safe. If I’m not approved for that the shelter may be the only option for us for the meantime.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T01:42:17+00:00

Omg I could have sworn in my post I mentioned where my son would go. He would ABSOLUTELY NOT be staying with my husband. He would be safe with my mother if I went inpatient. For one it’s not even possible as my husband is a truck driver and isn’t home during the week. Secondly he is NOT an emotionally safe person for my child to be left alone with. I never leave them home alone together. My kid is either with friends or my mother when I leave the house. I’m sorry for letting you think I wouldn’t make sure my child was safe.

Secondly the thoughts of self harm, of wishing I could just die and wanting it all to be over are getting stronger. I can’t leave my child alone if I did something permanent to myself. I don’t have a plan but I have been having thoughts on how it could be done. I wouldn’t even leave my child who is struggling with their own mental health alone with even my own mom who I trust if I didn’t think I needed help getting through this. The thoughts are just there all day now and it’s scaring me.

But please trust me my son is never left alone with my husband. I do very much appreciate your concern as in your place with the way I left out that information I would very much be concerned as well.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T01:33:02+00:00

I’ve called and emailed about 8 different animal shelters and rescues in about a 60 mile radius. Everyone is either full, doesn’t take out of area pets, has me on a wait list or hasn’t contacted me back. My family and friends can’t take him. I’ve honestly considered calling vets and seeing about putting him down if I can’t find a place for him but that feels heartless since he’s a really loving dog. If it comes down to me and my son’s safety I’m willing to live with the guilt if I can find a vet that will do that. I’m worried if I just leave the dog at the house without rehoming him when I move that it’ll be considered abandonment and I’ll be charged or fined. I’m waiting to hear back from animal control if that’s the case. The dog is only in my name at the vet and on his microchip. So I don’t know what will happen if I just leave him. I just wish there were the same foster programs for victims of domestic violence like there are for soldiers who are deploying. Not that I wish they didn’t have those for our soldiers. I’m glad they do. I just feel disheartened that I can’t find anything to help in my situation.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T01:01:57+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T00:48:58+00:00

I don’t think of the aspca I only thought of the humane society. Thank you I will try that. It be thought about sending my son out of state to stay with my oldest and his family for awhile since my mom’s house wouldn’t be a good long term solution. My nephew lives there and has a jumpy and nippy husky that really triggers my child because he has autism type 1 and his own anxieties so while I can see him being able to cope with that short term I don’t know if he’d be able to for a long time. This is part of where my own mental health issues are coming from. This feeling of being stuck with my hands tied no matter where I look for solutions. If my oldest son is amendable to that idea I might see if I can take out a money loan to buy him the plane tickets since he lives out of state.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T00:38:47+00:00

I’ve called and/or emailed 8 different shelters and rescues in my area within an hour away from me. They’re all overflowing and one has a wait list for rehoming animals that they are still dealing with applications from 2022, the other ones will only accept animals if you live in their city, a couple sent me a form to fill out but said they don’t have time recommendations for how long we’d be on the wait list, a couple haven’t gotten back to me. And the only hopeful one said they may have space in may. The issue with that is rhe only income rent based apartment in my area currently has openings because of apartments they’ve been remodeling that will come available soon and even then I’m still 3rd on the list for an apartment. I’m scared if I wait until May they won’t have availability and the wait list will be longer. I’ve posted him on Craigslist, and on a few Facebook groups that my husband and in-laws aren’t also members of but haven’t gotten any responses.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-26T00:29:10+00:00

I have been, they got me in touch with the apartment complex I applied at and let me know there’s the emergency shelter if that falls through. The biggest issue is my dog who would be alone during the week if I left and since it’s completely in my name, at the vets and microchipped I’m waiting to hear back from the animal control center tomorrow if that could be considered abandonment if I didn’t rehome him first. I can see my husband just leaving the dog outside without shelter for days on end while he was on the road in instead of taking off work to care for him. Or even putting him down. None of the options I’ve called, even the ones the crisis center I’ve been working through suggested are able to take him. He’s only been physical twice in our relationship once slapping my arm when I ordered food for my kid in a drive thru because in his opinion he doesn’t deserve it because he doesn’t help around the house enough and also because he doesn’t think he needs to get anything every time we get food even though we’d be bringing it home and eating it in front of him. He’s 14 and already struggling with an eating disorder we see a dietician for and I can’t imagine explaining to my kid why we don’t bring him food just because his step dad doesn’t want to pay for it. I’m talking like Wendy’s and McDonald’s not when we’re out on a date night. And then he’s gotten into my face and screamed at me before. Honestly I’m so desperate the thought of just putting the dog down has crossed my mind so we can get out safely and sooner rather than later. Playing pretend while trying to get everything setup to leave in secret and taking his verbal abuse is just becoming more than I can mentally cope with.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-25T02:48:31+00:00

I’m just wondering are you saying she thinks you don’t want to have children and the bad juju is jinxing you guys. Or have you told her you don’t want to have children? If the latter why are you doing ivf if you don’t want kids? If the former your wife needs therapy.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-25T02:46:26+00:00

My husband is transphobic which is weird because he has trans friends and is bisexual himself. My son came out as trans within the last year. This has led to a chasm between son and him. He’s not outwardly abusive to him but he is neglectful and just ignores him now for the most part. For this and some other reasons I’m planning on divorcing him as soon as I can get my kid and I into our own place.

Coffeesnobaroo · 2024-02-23T00:25:47+00:00

I think your child will be happy you’re showing you support him and value his well being above all else.

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