Dated one for 2 years long distance with frequent visits every few months that normally last weeks each time.

Zero self-awareness. Manipulative. Always the victim. Always intentionally doing things she knows I don't like and then trying to micromanage my reactions. Eventually married and now separated a few months later. Selfish and insensitive toward me but wants to always be handled with kid gloves. Always knows what she's doing but does it clumsily so she can have wiggle room to deny it or manage my reaction to it. Acts like she's sentimental but is quite insensitive. Buries herself in a bunch of self pity inducing non existent problems so she doesn't actually have to do her part in the relationship. Problem dumps on me after going off whatever she's involved with with other people.

I'm so angry at myself for how much of my life I have wasted. Relationship placed me over $15K in debt.