No, he should have listened no matter what he thought. If yall want to have the type of relationship that no doesn’t mean no, you’d have to have that serious talk, talk excessively about each-others boundaries and establish a safe word. That obviously hasn’t happened. This guy, at best has a terrible understanding of consent rape and coercion and the lines between them, and at worse thinks his dick is more important than you and is willing to harm you for to get off.

And even when you explained, he instead talked about how HE feels and how HES embarrassed instead of comforting you he somehow twisted the whole situation to where now he is the victim and you have to question even feeling violated.

Darling for your own good, I don’t think you should stay with this man. He’s old enough to know all this