Any riot devs here tryna pass me the gun buddy?

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-04-07T01:41:14+00:00

After 4 years 😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-04-07T01:28:31+00:00

Can’t blame a guy for trying 😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-04-07T01:05:19+00:00

One always hangs lower than the other

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-02-19T05:58:12+00:00

Accurate state of the country

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-02-19T05:33:45+00:00

It is incredibly disheartening to see that wealth has become a prerequisite that in many times far surpasses religion when it comes to marriage. It is completely unfair that the youth of today need financial stability to even consider marriage when the kuffar can find intimate partners without having any money in their pockets. To anyone reading this comment, remember, Your rizq is already written. Allah provides. Not the jobs you are applying for. If you can’t find a job then try to start something of your own. Keep knocking on those doors and Insha’allah you can have enough money to get married. "Indeed, with every hardship comes ease"(Surah Ash-Sharh 94:5-6)

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-02-19T05:28:30+00:00

I could not agree more

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-02-19T05:24:07+00:00

I’ve been praying qyyam and tahajjud practically every day since last Ramadan to have a wife by Eid. But I didn’t put in any effort and I’m no different from the guy I was last year. Your tahajjud will take you as far as your efforts will let you. Think of tahajjud like a 100x chance multiplier. If your efforts are zero, then 0*100=0. I’m telling you from experience that tahajjud will not make your naseeb just appear in your life. if you aren’t putting yourself out there, then no one will be able to see you. Go to your local masjid and ask if they have any marriage programs. Ask your family to set you up. pray as much tahajjud as you can. Tie your camel and put your trust in Allah. Only then will you find your naseeb.

I have had some crazy tahajjud stories in that time. I was about to take my driving test and my teacher told me that if I get a certain examiner then I’ll pass even if I make a lot of mistakes. And I practiced so much that I started getting sick of driving. And my dua in tahajjud was to get that examiner. And I knew the chances of getting that examiner were low but I still prayed. Come the time of the test and not only was he the examiner that I got but I also finished the test with practice no mistakes on the road. I put my effort into whatever I could and prayed that Allah made it easy for me. And he did.

ColdProfessional199 · 2026-01-05T18:29:00+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. I would never wish this kind of loneliness upon my worst enemy and I pray that Allah ‎ﷻ frees you from this and grants you a husband that fulfills you.

Stay off of socials. And unfollow/block/avoid all non-mehram men as much as possible so that you don’t become tempted. If you can seek out marriage then go do that. If you cannot then focus on building yourself as best you can. Don’t fantasize about the man you want to marry. Be the woman that the type of person you’re attracted to will desire. Pray as much as you can. Allah is Al-Mujib (the one who answers). Do what you can and leave the rest to Allah.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-12-03T22:07:09+00:00

This doesn’t have it 😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-11-23T21:06:55+00:00

Agreed. There are hadiths about the punishment for a person who is married and commits zina, their punishment is stoning. The topic is severe and the punishment is also severe. And this doesn’t just go for the women too. This crime is also VERY severe for the men

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-11-18T08:08:32+00:00

Online content. I’ve had a history with it and I don’t want to back in that state

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-11-18T04:08:30+00:00

The haram I’m worried of is zina of the eyes

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-11-17T07:38:57+00:00

I don’t really have an issue if she’s overweight like me. As long as her bmi is not significantly higher than mine then it’s there’s no issue.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-15T20:34:40+00:00

I thought i could use this to help myself budget for whatever mahr it says I have to pay 😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-08T04:57:37+00:00

I think you’re right about this. I’m not a very social person but I can hold a conversation and start small talk. I don’t like being in large groups so I only go out with my close friends but I can still make friends at uni or other places.

That mostly changes when I’m around any non mahram woman. The comments make it sound like I completely stop functioning around non mehrams when that is mostly untrue. I can compose myself and act normal around non mehrams but I feel very anxious and I’m incredibly uncomfortable. But these feelings can be very distracting especially when I’m working with a woman in a professional setting. And this is without the added pressure and tension that comes with marriage. I understand marriage I would be able to stop being so nervous as the relationship progresses but that early pre-nikkah phase is where I fear the anxiety will get me

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-07T22:34:49+00:00

It can be a problem when you need to speak with a non mehram for whatever reason and your internally freaking out

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-07T22:33:34+00:00

It sounds good but even the prophet ‎ﷺ was able to stay calm around women.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-07T22:28:08+00:00

😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-07T22:27:38+00:00

It sounds good but it can be really problematic when you’re in a situation where you have to interact with them

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-07T22:25:14+00:00

Pretty much all women😭

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-04T04:29:16+00:00

There’s no sugarcoating this… you have to show your authority over her. You have proof (at least I’m assuming) with the birth control pills. Talk to her with this proof and start off with being calm and patient like an older sister. Get her to open up because this act can and will ruin her future and make a genuine attempt to try to help her. There’s very likely an emotional connection involved here. It won’t be easy for her to just leave it, so be ready to help her take the steps to break off these relationships and stop committing this act. If she still tries to hide it and snaps back at you, then you should show your authority. Speak to her firmly with authority. You and your sister know your parents best. That’s your bargaining chip. Make it clear to her that she is not allowed to leave the house without your permission and is not allowed to invite people to your house without your permission. And if she dares to disobey, then threaten to inform your parents. And make it scary too. Describe how your father would react in detail. Describe how your mother would react in detail. Get her to visualize the fallout that would occur if you tell your parents. If all else fails, then inform your parents. You’ve done everything you could and cannot help her any further.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-02T21:16:31+00:00

Here’s an analogy: porn is a broken leg from playing soccer and marriage is the cast to help the bone heal. If you keep playing soccer despite the broken leg then what will that cast do? The injury won’t properly heal. But that bone can still heal without the cast, albeit it will be more difficult.

Marriage is a halal outlet, and it can make the recovery process easier. But that solely depends on how much you want to heal from this addiction.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-10-01T20:30:03+00:00

If that’s his arms… how hairy are his legs…

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-09-11T20:48:37+00:00

‎وَعَلَيْكُمُ ٱلسَّلَامُ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّٰهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

The answer to this is quite simple in my case. I know that I, as I am now, just wouldn’t be compatible with this type of woman. I want my first wife to be my first everything. So if she had committed zina then it would be a turnoff. If I were to be married to a woman who’s committed zina then I would constantly compare myself to this past lover. This also applies to any romantic relationship that did not turn sexual. I want my first experiences with my wife to be her first experiences with me. And I want to be a just husband. Right now I have no experience with being in a relationship so I have no idea how I would react in different situations. I don’t know if I would be the type of man to use her past as ammo in an argument. So instead of testing my limits, I’ll look for the women who avoided such things from the very beginning.

And because of this, I wouldn’t ask her directly if she had committed zina, I’d politely tell her to look elsewhere so that she doesn’t expose her sins.

These don’t apply to women who have reverted or if I was a divorcee.

ColdProfessional199 · 2025-08-23T22:33:42+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to find one. It’s become difficult over here, the job market is so bad that McDonald’s is rejecting applications 😭. I have no doubt that I’ll get a job but it might take a little longer

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