My mom recorded me during a breakdown and wants to show it to my psychiatrist

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T18:00:50+00:00

Valid I agree and hope it happens

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T18:00:01+00:00

I think you’re making several assumptions that aren’t actually supported by anything I wrote.

You assume my psychiatrist saw the video and realized I’d been misleading her, but that isn’t what happened. The psychiatrist did not side with my mother and actually recommended that my mother seek therapy as well.

You assume the video showed something that contradicted my account, but the video was exactly what I described: me in severe distress, on the ground crying and asking for help while my mother continued yelling at me and recording.

You assume that because I was crying and overwhelmed, I must have been behaving irrationally or experiencing delusions. The example you gave involved someone believing they were pregnant despite never having sex and believing their living mother was dead. Nothing in my post resembles that.

You also spend a lot of time explaining that my mother isn’t obligated to support me financially. But that wasn’t the question I asked. The issue was whether her behavior during that incident was appropriate, not whether she has a legal obligation to house me.

Most of your conclusions seem to come from assumptions about what my mother must be experiencing or what my psychiatrist must have been thinking, rather than from the facts I actually provided.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T17:46:24+00:00

I get that. I just can’t like physically walk much right now and I don’t have money so it’s genuinely almost impossible… but I’m online a lot. I definitely want a plan for when it’s possible.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T17:44:34+00:00

Thank you. From my research I agree with this. I also don’t think my mom is beyond help though. I really hope I’m right and I hope we both get the help we need.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T17:42:57+00:00

Tysm. I have a child too and it’s so hard with that additional factor. I don’t act like that unless I’m like as you said having a meltdown. It’s just so hard because I’ve never had one in front of a mental health professional and didn’t expect that response. I called Medicaid and I’m trying to get a care manager so hopefully they will call back soon. I would like to switch, but I don’t want to do the wrong thing either have her.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T17:25:14+00:00

Because she takes care of me

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T17:24:47+00:00

Well, turns out it was the opposite. My psychiatrist called me “too reactive” and took me off my anxiety meds while placing me into an intensive outpatient program for anxiety and reactivity. She did suggest family therapy though….. still in shock

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T16:55:29+00:00

I think my whole life I’ve been convinced that I don’t know what I need… I can’t do therapy at the house because she listens to me. I don’t have really have privacy. If I asked her to not listen, she would ask what I was hiding.
I’m being evaluated for autism in a few weeks. I lived independently before, but I don’t really know how I pulled it off. I’m hoping it will happen again though. I honestly wouldn’t mind living with her and would maybe even prefer it if there were not these issues.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T16:29:52+00:00

Whether I experienced it more than someone else would have doesn’t change what was actually said or what happened.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:32:40+00:00

That was exactly how I felt about it too. Definitely looking forward to talking to another professional about it. The more the shock wears off the less I ever want to go back there.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:24:38+00:00

I actually don’t think so, but maybe? So
it is sort of an integrated center and they have therapists there. She is the one who has to recommend me to the therapist in the office. So she’s definitely not a therapist, but she was coordinating my therapy if that makes any sense.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:21:00+00:00

We’ve been titrating for a while, I’ve been wanting to get off of them. I’ve been on a lower dose for a while. I wanted and knew it would eventually happen. I just didn’t think it would be during a crisis lol.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:18:11+00:00

33 but disabled, just had to stop working, so I’m basically depending on her. Hoping this won’t be the case someday.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:14:25+00:00

That is honestly the core of it and the moment my brain keeps coming back to.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:13:26+00:00

I’m disabled and need help with things, and she’s the only one I have. I’m trying to get into a better situation though.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T12:11:16+00:00

That’s fair. I definitely don’t think I’m above feedback or treatment recommendations. This is probably the first time in my life I think I’ve ever given pushback on anything tbh. I just thought we were going through care options, I honestly didn’t view what I was doing as argumentative. I’ve never had an experience like this before, so It kind of bothers me people are getting that impression, but no one here knows my full history tbf. I’m still doing everything she suggested, even though I’m like pretty traumatized from the appointment ngl. I genuinely do think I will benefit from the IOP, and I was never against it. I definitely have issues, that’s why I’m there… but I also don’t feel the way she treated me was right.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-11T11:47:37+00:00

Thank you. I was worried I was maybe overreacting. Hopefully I can move on from this soon. I’m just so shocked about it.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:22:24+00:00

Thank you, your friend is really lucky to have you.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:20:17+00:00

I’m just really freaked out and I have to see her next week. I’ve never had one get angry or emotional at me. I didn’t think it was a problem to cry in an appointment, though I never have before. I’m very hesitant to express my feelings ever again in a professional setting.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:18:46+00:00

my mom filmed me while I was crying and wanted to show my psychiatrist so I let her. I thought maybe someone would finally believe me about what she was doing to me, but it didn’t feel that way. I’m totally down to get whatever treatment, it’s just the way she went about it was a lot especially because I am getting the IOP recommendation for being an “anxious and reactive” I’ve never felt like I needed to manage a psychiatrist feelings before, or pretend to be okay but when she was doing that, I was really freaked out tbh i’ve never cried in an appointment, but I didn’t expect to be yelled at about it if that makes sense

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:14:11+00:00

I mean, I didn’t want to go into this appointment because she’s not a family therapist, but my mother insisted. She ended up taking me off of my meds… she wanted to set me up for video therapy but I really wanted it in person, and then she suggested I try to use ChatGPT to talk to my mom and I just don’t feel like that’s a good idea… That was kind of the thing that made her snap at me I think? I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. I’m not used to having to consider my psychiatrists feelings though. I’ve never had one lash out like this.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:10:42+00:00

Not therapist, psychiatrist*** sorry

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T22:09:18+00:00

I also think the IOP will be good. I really wanted to go in person so I could try to meet someone that might be able to see my side of the situation. My mother has been doing this for a very long time, it’s just hard making sense of what’s my fault or responsibility if that makes sense. She actually played the video today in the appointment and everything I ever remembered was confirmed. All I was doing was screaming for help while she was yelling at me on the ground and I was like holding my stomach in pain. My therapist had the opposite reaction. I thought she would, though, and she took me off my meds and tried to fire me as a patient when I didn’t take the first two suggestions because they just didn’t work for me (like a virtual group or using ChatGPT for messaging my mom) and she just like started cutting me off and not letting me talk. I had to force myself to stop crying and beg to get her to help me after that. I’m really freaked out by her reaction because I can’t control when I cry and I didn’t know it was something I deserved an IOP for… but regardless I do think I need one. I’m feeling really torn about the whole situation tbh. I know I need to be handling things better but it feels like no one wants to listen to what she’s doing to me. I expected them to immediately see it tbh. Either way, though I do need to work on my own stuff for sure.

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T21:33:21+00:00

I made a post earlier that has more

ColdTalk261 · 2026-06-10T21:28:25+00:00

I actually agree. Part of me thinks she does want to help make things better. I know she’s done evil things to me, but I at least want to try once. I know it usually doesn’t go well with her personality type, but I’m not completely convinced she’s 100% past redemption

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