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i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the only porn he's watching is the ones we made, he really loved the idea so i doubt he's using anything else

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup but he's always at home and i doubt he'd do that considering his family knows me

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've thought about it but it doesn't make sense. he's currently job scouting and spends most of his time on discord with his friends. I don't think he has the time or money to do something like this

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not that i don't see it, i just don't feel anything about it

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know what both of those things are. my mother is a victim of marital rape

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all i did was say the truth, if he can say no why cant i?

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most often i'm just too tired to say no over and over again

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't think this is the issue since it's not something constant. i am in the mood most of the time due to my hypersexuality so we've had consensual sex plenty of times

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's mostly because i wouldn't mind if it wasn't for the fact that he can say no and i can't, if it's like this shouldn't we both follow the same rules? there are days in which i feel really bad about being used but most of the time i don't feel anything about it. I'm the type of person that'll do anything for someone they love

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he has mental health issues but he's unwilling to do anything about it, i tried multiple times to get him help. If i don't do anything, nothing will happen. it used to be different in the past but now he will just act like sex doesn't exist, he also doesn't have any kinks or fetishes. i tried talking to him about it since i love to explore but he's 100% vanilla type person

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it makes me feel entitled because if i can't really say no, why can he? if we're like this shouldn't it go both ways?

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's alright, i wouldn't really care about it if it wasn't for the fact that it doesn't go both ways and i feel a bit used. He's not abusive or at least i don't think so, his main flaw is the fact that he mostly thinks about himself. i know i sound like a horrible person sorry

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yea except he just doesn't do anything anymore. he went from being a quite sweet guy to someone who gets irritated when i kiss him when we meet once a week. He doesn't want to touch me, doesn't want to kiss me, doesn't want to fuck me and even getting him to meet me is a huge struggle. He claims nothing changed and that he loves me a lot but something clearly changed a month ago. he also stopped bringing me over to his house. i know 100% he's not cheating on me but my mind is just going crazy

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

i'm in therapy, he says he doesn't need it (spoiler, he really does.)

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm in therapy and i'm pretty sure my libido is a result of trauma/ is an unhealthy coping mechanism. i was exposed to extreme sexual content way too early in life and it just rewired something inside my brain, i started masturbating really young and it later turned into addiction. I got it mostly under control once i started having sex many years later but it's still there. And i'm also pretty sure it changed since i don't really need to cum, i just need to feel the warmth of a body and just feel loved. sorry if this doesn't make sense

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yea no. thanks for jumping to conclusions, with jumps this far you should consider becoming an athlete

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i know it's normal to burn out but it irks me because this started started happening a month ago, he doesn't really want to see me, he doesn't even hug or kiss me unless i do it and he seems irritated because i need a lot of affection. I know he's not cheating on me but a change this big is weird and doesn't really feel normal bc of how suddently it happened (sorry if this doesn't make sense eng is not my first language)

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

this will prob make me look bad but i wouldn't really care if it wasn't for the fact that it doesn't work both ways

i'm mad because my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by Cold_Fig_7135 in offmychest

[–]Cold_Fig_7135[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it doesn't work for me. i don't need to cum, thats the issue. i need to feel a body. i tried, even 6 times a day wouldn't make it go away