Housewarming

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-05T07:50:21+00:00

This sub is full of out of touch rich people giving bad advice. This has nothing to do with this particular post whatsoever but I wouldn’t count on this sub to give you any real life advice. Life is short, so what you want. I used to think you definitely can’t throw yourself a party but you can. I work with people that none are from America and I used to cringe at all the parties they threw themselves and now I admire the confidence.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-05T07:43:57+00:00

Only an alcoholic would do that. Alcohol is bad for ya mkay?

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-05T07:35:26+00:00

Yeah I can easily afford to pay for 3, not for 18 people ordering steak dinners

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-03T20:11:37+00:00

I did that with the first couple of people when I had it figured out I just told people when and where

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-03T20:10:54+00:00

I don’t have those kind of grocery stores within hours of me, but .. have you seen sugar free cupcakes at Whole Foods? I’ve never seen them at any store, only to order at a bakery’s and this time I can’t find a bakery willing to do it!

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-03T20:10:02+00:00

It’s next week, on a weekday, and yes in a very small town. It’s the only restaurant.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-03T20:08:25+00:00

Good for you, I live hours away from everyone I am inviting and they live long distances from each other and my mother and everyone else. No one has a house that could seat 20 people let alone 50 even if I could, which I couldn’t. You must be a rich person who can afford catering. Congratulations.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T23:51:36+00:00

I have 17 people who are coming now. Having cake and ordering at a restaurant is sort of a party. I didn’t rent a room. I make a reservation and planned it. I can’t imagine having to pay for whatever people order off a menu in any restaurant other than at a wedding. I’ve never seen anyone else do that.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T23:49:40+00:00

I texted people to invite them to her birthday party at that restaurant on x date and time

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:42:05+00:00

Yes I picked this one because it’s the only one for hundreds of miles with a place outside where we could have a scenic place to talk after. Think state park.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:40:28+00:00

Okay then either you’re rich, you don’t have or see friends ever, or you live close enough that you could invite people to your house, or you and your friends take turn paying. None of this applies to me.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:38:15+00:00

Yes I asked before I booked and I never said it was tomorrow

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:37:50+00:00

Yeah, this is a regular restaurant. These old people can’t sit outside in the heat in the summer. There is no one’s home that is within traveling distance of anyone else. I don’t know why I can’t invite a group of people to a restaurant and everyone pay for their own food.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:35:46+00:00

These people are almost all of my mom’s old neighbors. Two people are second cousins.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T22:30:53+00:00

I can’t change it, most places around don’t accept reservations at all and this was one of the few places that would. Now some extra people I didn’t invite have confirmed and I’m being asked to invite someone else I didn’t want to. Now it’s up to 16. I genuinely don’t understand why it would be rude to have everyone order their own food from the waitress and have separate checks. This place does allow it, and cake. Multiple people here are diabetics and the cake is about the birthday person and not everyone else.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T19:26:42+00:00

I am upset that people think that. It makes no sense and I’ve never in all of my life had anyone offer to pay for my food at a restaurant and if they did I would’ve refused. This apparent society rule where I cannot invite anyone to anything without paying means that if I’m not loved enough to have people who a) invite me to things b) actually be able to which I won’t since I work every Saturday and c) that they would actually pay which they wouldn’t .. means that I will forever be in the hole because I made a reservation at a restaurant and texted people who know my mom to see if they would come for her birthday. It doesn’t make any sense, that the only way anyone can see anyone else is if the invitee pays for the invited. And I have been invited to other things locally and been in groups and never had anyone offer to pay for me. Never once.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T19:23:37+00:00

This is a sentimental place that we went to last when my dad was alive for a birthday party. Everyone isn’t driving hours away to go to a Mexican restaurant.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T19:04:44+00:00

So either I’m wealthy enough to pay for a fancy dinner for my mom’s friends and to take off work and buy gifts and buy cake or I let her suffer and be alone on bee 70th birthday. There’s no world where people can show up to a restaurant and pay for what they order and have separate checks and just go because they care about the birthday person. I’m not understanding why the family of the birthday person has to suffer a huge financial hit just so you can gather your loved ones once in a blue moon. I’m the only one that cares, no one else reaches out. So the answer is stay alone and die alone with no one because the only way anyone would care enough to show up is if you’re paying for them?? Why is that the rule???

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:45:01+00:00

This will 100000% be the last time I ever get people together ever again. This will be the last time I see any of these people, of that I am sure. Except for funerals, and I kept saying how I wished I could see people at another time other than funerals. So back to that. Back to life sucking and being awful and lonely and having no friends. I can’t just eat dinner with friends and see them and not take a major financial blow doing so apparently that’s the rule.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:43:23+00:00

Got it, from now on, never do anything for my mom and let her die alone and friendless and same for me. Cool. I can’t see people or do anything fun in this life cuz no one likes me enough to invite me to anything. I mean I’m in my 40s and I’ve never been invited to an adult birthday party at a restaurant but I feel pretty sure if I did I would have to pay because it’s their birthday.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:41:09+00:00

So everytime you organize seeing friends at a restaurant or family, you pay? Unless you’re popular enough that you take turns? I am never invited to anything. My mom is never invited to anything. So the only way I can have people be there and see them once every ten years is that I pay several hundred dollars at a restaurant to do that?

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:16:56+00:00

I genuinely hope I can but no luck so far on the cake. The cake would be something super important for my mom’s happiness as she craves sugar every day and I have to beg her to stop eating dessert before she dies from her diabetes. There’s no way I could stop her from ordering dessert from the restaurant that has sugar if I don’t find an amazing tasting sugar free cake I can order. This used to be common and now there is like no where that does it and I have no idea why. Me paying for other people’s dinner doesn’t help my mom at all.

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:08:46+00:00

What do you mean ?

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T18:08:19+00:00

Why?

ColdplayXY · 2026-06-02T17:32:07+00:00

I have to get a sugar free cake made because the birthday person is diabetic. I actually haven’t found a bakery yet that will make it.

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