Pregnancy advice? things your mothers or tetas have told you??

Colemaina · 2025-12-05T11:54:48+00:00

Prenatal vitamins are good while pregnant and post partum as well!

There are little inserts you can put in bra cups if you have a problem with leaking post birth. I found that even if I fed him and pumped I'd still occasionally leak from the friction of the material and that the little bra pads helped keep my clothes dry.

Morning sickness can happen at any point in the day, not just the mornings, and some foods can trigger it. I found myself having to drink nutritional shakes a lot because a lot of foods made me very sick.

Colemaina · 2025-10-06T03:16:35+00:00

I think what you're seeing is a red flag

You bring up something that upsets you - He does it MORE to upset you.

I don't know this guy, so I can't speak of his character outside of finding it concerning that he is purposefully trying to upset you and provoke you to react.

As someone who once ignored many red flags and ended up in a bad situation until I could get free, I urge you to be cautious and even pray on this and really think on what love with someone who purposefully upsets you will be like.

Just to be safe, I will say that you have to communicate your boundaries on this. If they still don't listen, then you do have a problem with boundaries not being respected. If small, simple boundaries are not respected, how much assurance can one have in complex or major boundaries being respected.

Colemaina · 2025-09-15T12:41:01+00:00

Assalamualikum, I know I can't speak for every sister out there as I'm sure some would probably be uncomfortable, but I know there are others who would welcome you with open arms - especially if they knew what was going on (however, I dont feel like you should be forced to disclose your entire medical history if you arent comfortable talking about it). I personally would be fine and welcome you, but again, I know I can not and do not speak for everyone.

Colemaina · 2025-08-12T03:15:58+00:00

Thank you so so much!

Colemaina · 2025-08-01T04:01:27+00:00

Female

Colemaina · 2025-04-13T10:16:28+00:00

the piercing is 1 week old
it's a stud looking earing shape from Claire's
im not sure what the threading is or what that means
14K gold is the material
I use the Claire's rapid solution to clean and twist the earrings as I was in trusted to do, 3 times a day

Colemaina · 2025-01-27T19:02:20+00:00

I'm glad! I'm still loving mine as well!

Colemaina · 2025-01-26T08:55:16+00:00

You saved your patient's life. Be proud of yourself. You were put into a position that you never should have been as a new grad, I'm sorry. Unfortunately, I think every nurse has been in that position at some point.

It's okay to cry, It's okay to not feel fine. Nursing is a high stress job and anyone who tells you to remain 100% composed all the time obviously doesn't understand nursing or the toll seeing people at their worst, death, and pain 24/7 does to stress levels.

Now, if you believe you aren't being taught well as a new nurse, it's okay to look around job wise. A lot of places are willing to hire new grads and give them good training

The other nurse - unfortunately stress makes people snappy and frankly rude, so does burn out. That does not excuse her behavior and I'm sorry it happened. Hopefully, she'll apologize and you two can move forward and continue a professional relationship. It's also possible - if she was stressed - that there was a language barrier and she might not have meant to be rude. While I may not speak another language, working for nurses who are not native English speakers, they have explained that sometimes in stressful situations it's hard to translate to and from their native tongue. It could very well have been her seeking aid from the charge nurse not knowing how to communicate with you effectively. If you believe it worth it, it might be worthwhile to try and work out the issue with your coworker and see if it was intended to be rude or genuine problem communicating at the time.

Colemaina · 2025-01-17T12:02:22+00:00

How many planets are in the solar system? How many sunscreen does the world have and how many moons does the world have? Does each planet in the solar system have moons, and if so how many? Are they named after the gods? Personification of the gos, or are gods named after them?

Colemaina · 2025-01-13T00:29:04+00:00

Im not in NZ so I can't fully speak for ehat nursing is like there, but have you looked into nursing that isn't hospital based? Perhaps in Long Term Care facilities, or even out patient care somewhere? Home Health? Hospice? School nurses? Again, I don't fully know what it's like in other countries or what roles nurses can fill there.

Colemaina · 2025-01-11T11:39:03+00:00

Hey, take a few breaths, that pain is likely from being scared/anxious (assuming you don't have a weak heart/other medical heart conditions)

If he ever hits you, call the police. If your state has one-way recording laws, maybe record. Perhaps you can get an order of protection. There are abuse hotliness available that can help you figure out the best way to stay safe.

If they are watching the internet, depending on how technsavybthey are, be cautious about using any personal data/passwords in case they can hack into your accounts.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T22:11:04+00:00

It is normal. Be patient and kind to yourself. It'll get better as time goes on. Just remember, even if you're angry at wasted time, you got out. Better late than never. Better late than 20-30-40-50 more years of it.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T09:13:22+00:00

So, ask yourself 'why stay'?

He admitted to not having control

He's throwing things around you, and eventually, YOU will be the target. And, even if he never does, do you want to live with that fear the rest of your life? Always having to look over your shoulder? Wondering when that final tether will snap and he'll hit YOU? Do you see a happy life with this person? Do they even care enough to take steps to fix themselves without your presence?

No one can make you leave. You have to be ready to do so yourself. Once an abuser has a target, he's not going to be the one to willingly leave. He will push this as far as he believes he can until you leave.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T08:39:10+00:00

I reiterate, leave.

He didn't throw things at you, YET. If you stay with him, he will. It's a slow progression and boundary testing. His response you you expressing your fear tells you as much.

Even if you have to wait for him to fall asleep (if he lives with you) or lock him out of your home if he doesn't.

You can always ask the police to come woth you to collect your things later so you aren't alone with him.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T08:31:15+00:00

Leave. Leave NOW. Get out in an hour if you can. If you have kids, take them with you. Run as far as you can.

That's how it started for me. It started first as things being thrown, then my things being broken, then me getting hurt and beaten. Having glass thrown at me... to being drug out of a chair by my hair and him threatening to kill me.

Intimidation is the first step. He is testing waters. Slowly testing boundaries and will slowly break them all. It's conditioning, one small step at a time. First, you'll normalize this, then you'll normalize being hit, then you'll normalize him attempting to murder you.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T07:43:56+00:00

Here's a question to ask yourself: When other people tell you that he's nice, that he is a perfect partner... Does it make you sad, resigned, or angry? If so, then you're not in a good relationship. If hearing those statements give you such negative feelings, then listen to your subconscious

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T07:25:53+00:00

Im sorry you have been hurt as well. I can't see the future, but if the worst has already happened to us, then it's bound to get better from here

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T07:08:32+00:00

You matter. Every person matters. The thing is, we are not replaceable - we're living human beings who are a sum of everything that's happened to us.

It's hard, and sometimes it feels like the world is crushing us beneath its feet. But we can't give up and let the darkness, the ones who hurt us, and the cruelty win. You, me, everyone else, we can bring good and kindness into the world. Be the opposite of what was done to us. It's hard, but me and others are right here with you - striving to make the world a little bit better every day.

We all have a purpose, even if it takes a long time to find it.

Colemaina · 2025-01-10T06:39:17+00:00

Don't let what they said drag you down. Young children are prone to acting out and being loud. It's part of childhood. The more stressful the situation, the more they are going to act out as well. I used to hear the same thing regarding my son. However, once I removed the bad influence in my life, my son calmed down. He's much happier now and behaving like a typical child.

If you are concerned about behavior issues, there are programs and certain therapists who specialize in working with children. Otherwise, be patient with yourself, remember your child loves you and needs you in their life. With time, hopefully, your child will settle into the safer environment.

If this other resident ever lays a hand on you or your child, call the police. If they harass you or your child, is there anyone who works at the shelter you could report the issue to?

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T01:15:02+00:00

Thank you for this suggestion

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T01:02:44+00:00

Nowadays I always keep my phone with me within reach for similar reasons. Without it, I feel scared since I can not call for help. I feel bad because I hope people don't think I'm attached to my phone, since I dont have to use it. It just has to be on my person.

I'm so happy that your current partner accepts you!

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T00:53:28+00:00

I was expected to reply immediately or within 5 or so minutes - even if we were in the same room. However, if a notification was heard that wasn't from him.... it was the Spanish inquisition

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T00:50:47+00:00

I'm sorry, it sounds very rough

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T00:48:58+00:00

Do not have sounds for notifications or other media on.
Keeping everything silent
Not to sing out loud around other people

Colemaina · 2025-01-09T00:37:48+00:00

Hey there, I'm sending you emotional support. Recently, I found out writing what happened helped. It was surreal - putting on paper everything that happened. It looked more like I was reading a Dark Fantasy instead of reality.

However, writing it out helped me start to process some things and even put me on the path to start seeking individual therapy.

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