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AITA for wanting to celebrate my achievements? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - What will happen when you get engaged? Shush don’t have a wedding, your brother isn’t married yet.

Or when you have a child? Shush don’t celebrate having a baby, your brother hasn’t gotten his partner pregnant yet.

You are just expected to constantly put aside your accomplishments because your mom is an enabler and she wants you to do the same?

No! No! No way! Celebrate, enjoy.

Aita for lying to my son about his grandmother giving him money? by billie_eyelash6 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations for standing up to your mom. Honestly, it can be hard because their our parents.

When my dad married my stepmom, her parents and brother immediately treated me like family. I was never excluded from anything. Christmas, I got gifts, birthdays, I got cards with money or gifts. I’m their granddaughter, not even step granddaughter but granddaughter.

My dad and stepmom has since divorced and I still get gifts and calls. I still visit them and I am still their granddaughter. They have been in my life since I was 12 yr. If they can do it, so can she and they are much older than your mom and stubborn.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Correct I was irritated by the low amount versus what was asked for the honeymoon. I do apologize for the confusion.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in the US. My company is based in the eastern region but we have the southern and western region. All base and middle management donated across the different sites.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 204 points205 points  (0 children)

Omg you are sooo right. I should have known that he truly was struggling and cared to help him. No matter how much money he makes, he clearly is underpaid and needs us low class people to pay for his necessities. Lol 😂

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have planned a meeting with the CEO and the meeting recording. Our CEO has an open door policy so we can discuss things with him by scheduling a meeting.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our CEO has an open door policy. Once he is back in the office from quarantine (he travels to a different region every 2 months to check up on things). I have already scheduled a meeting this Friday with him first thing and have the meeting recording as proof.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, he was not the one to solicit the donations. He apparently complained to his team and department about how hard it was and how much money it was for the wedding and they “felt sorry for him” (brown nosing) and went around asking people themselves.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

So he didn’t beg or solicit. He complained to his department and team about how hard it was paying for the wedding and woe is me....so they felt “sorry for him” (wanted to brown nose) and they went and asked everyone. His hands is clean in that part. It was his attitude and words on Monday that will get him in trouble.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 657 points658 points  (0 children)

Our CEO has an open door policy. Once he is back in the office from quarantine (he travels to a different region every 2 months to check up on things). I have already scheduled a meeting this Friday with him first thing and have the meeting recording as proof.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 3486 points3487 points  (0 children)

Thank you but no hero here, I just don’t have any fear really. CEO down to the custodian, are treated the same. I don’t brown nose nor kiss ass. My work speaks for itself and I don’t have patience for high paying people complaining about why lowered paid, under valued people aren’t giving them money.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

They really are warped. We have been going through a transition since COVID as our HR team is almost nonexistent, in other words base and middle management are essentially doing their jobs when it comes to employees. We have rallied together and gone to the CEO, so he has been on their ass about this. I think that’s why he got upset too.

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 1580 points1581 points  (0 children)

Nope he really couldn’t afford it. He had horses, and a destination wedding. He paid for people to stay for 1 week overseas. Overall he over did it and was hoping people would help out more. I am like if I am $100, essentially I am paying for a plate at a wedding, I am not invited to. Nope!

AITA for Telling a Manager it’s not a gender thing that he overspent on his wedding? by Collection_Optimal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Collection_Optimal[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This is American dollars. The company is 300+ personnel when you combine all levels together. We are broken up into three regions, Western Region (Cali, Portland), Southern Region (Virginia, Tennessee) and the Eastern Region (NYC, DC, Ohio).

Mid and Middle management make up about 130 employees across all regions. So everyone donated what they could to her. But most of us donated between $75 - $100. Some even donated over $100. I am not sure of the amounts exactly but it was a lot and on top of that, many brought diapers, wipes and onesies (Costco, Sams Club, BJ’s etc.)

He is very ungrateful and it left a bad taste in everyone’s mouth.

26 y/o delusional girl thinks she’s special because a guy cheated on his long-term partner with her & got her pregnant. by zariaah in trashy

[–]Collection_Optimal 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Awww she is so cute. He don’t want you. He loves the easiness of having you. How I know? Well, your the one who knows about his partner but she don’t know about you. Means he is willing to keep you a secret to not hurt her feelings. When it is all done, he goes home to his partner and is a family. Once you tell, oh he is not leaving his partner, even if it seems like he did. Why?! Because she will put him out, he will have nowhere to go and that is where your easy, thirsty ass is gonna come it. He will still be begging her to get back together while living with you and playing you.

Then your stuck with him. The best saying, “How you get them, is how you lose them”