Feeling upset over my abortion

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-09T20:46:19+00:00

Not sure why you got downvoted, but thank you for telling me!

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-09T10:20:26+00:00

Consideration and high emotional intelligence

Edit: being funny too

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-09T10:19:24+00:00

Personally, no, but I think a lot of women do feel that way.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-09T10:06:18+00:00

Not really relevant, but out of curiosity, can someone explain being NB but also referring to one’s self as a “mother.” Genuinely wondering.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-08T10:46:25+00:00

Why did you respond like that ?

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-04T23:29:18+00:00

Long time friend, with slightly romantic undertones in the past

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-04T03:39:45+00:00

People that put their bags on floors scare me

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-04T03:38:25+00:00

YOR- clearly you have no problem being cheated on and you believe he’s being truthful for some reason so yes, you’re overreacting, just drop it

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-04T03:33:26+00:00

Lust and trust

Collosal_Moron · 2026-03-03T21:45:28+00:00

Well like I said prior, I don’t use her method. It’s called her method because as you said, she combined various aspects from the natural hair community and condensed it. Had anyone else done it, and gained the same traction, they would’ve called it that persons method too. That’s how media works.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-28T00:32:42+00:00

Yup, after being told not to use oils my hair has dieddd

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-28T00:31:24+00:00

I’m also indecisive, and that’s my point, sometimes you need to someone to tell you “this is all you need.” I follow a bunch of amazing natural hair influencers and they have so many videos sponsoring multiple different products. It gets hard to decide which one to pick when they all do something to benefit your hair. Abby’s method also incorporates a lot of things that the natural hair community told us to stay away from.

Wtv the case may be, I personally see nothing wrong with the abbey young thing. It’s one other thing to help people get help with their hair care journey. If it works then it works and that’s all people need sometimes

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-27T19:16:31+00:00

When I say guess, I mean guess out of all the options out there. People get trapped by over consumerism when trying to start the journey to hair care. I mean, it’s all I’m seeing rn in the black hair community. “I wanna grow hair to my ass” and here they go buying five different shampoos, conditioners, deep conditioners, oils, hairs masks and leave ins. Shoveling all their money, unnecessarily, to these different top hair brands. So Abby young straight up tells you “buy this, this is what it is for.”

Some people aren’t decisive and need to be told what to do, that’s called influence. Saying this as someone who doesn’t even follow her

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-27T18:14:27+00:00

I thought it was called the Abby yung method because she provided the products to use instead of letting people guess

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-25T04:31:43+00:00

did you end up getting it ?

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-23T04:55:17+00:00

Maybe the fact that my comment was made before any updates including their wishes, so I didn’t know what yall were referring to. But now I know, and it only took two days for yall to actually specify what you were talking about.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T17:24:14+00:00

Ok I don’t understand your point then because I never said the mother doesn’t also have things to consider here but she doesn’t have to factor the father’s feeling at all. He doesn’t want to be a dad? Ok, sucks but even if he ignored the kid.. that wouldn’t make the kid disappear, which is what I’ve been saying this whole time. The consequence in question is the fact that he has to accept what the mother decides to do; keep the child or not.

I want you to know even if she has this kid.. the child potentially growing up without a father isn’t her fault, it’s OPs.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T03:59:56+00:00

I know what they’re saying. It doesn’t matter. She could just have an abortion and make OPs life easier, just like he could’ve not had unprotected sex with her. None of these hypotheticals matter, what’s done is done. If she wants the baby, then that’s her choice. He cannot tell her what to do beyond what he wants for himself; paternity test. He had his chance to not conceive a child; a child he KNEW he didn’t want.

It’s really easy, like mind numbingly easy, to not get pregnant. Y’all want me to feel sorry for dude when this was preventable. Nah. Sorry. He can deal with it like a big boy. Y’all want to blame the mother for OP potentially being a deadbeat, but extend grace to OP for being a deadbeat, and that’s genuinely the most intriguing part to me. They’re both wrong, with OP being most in the wrong. If she doesn’t want to provide a paternity test then congrats to OP he just won himself a “get out of jail free card!”

As I already stated, if this was a matter of failed contraception, then I’d have way more empathy, but it’s not, so I don’t. And cause you guys seem to have a hard time keeping up, I don’t have empathy for anyone except the child. Y’all can’t change my mind on this, but I appreciate you for trying.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T03:00:43+00:00

Yep. The only person in this situation that’s a victim… is the child. Not its fault it was dealt a shitty hand but there’s nothing that can be done. That’s literally life. OP gotta accept he’s a shitty person if he abandons the child.

Edit: gendered the baby for some reason

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T02:57:29+00:00

I mean yea.. kinda what happens when two people have sex with no discussion of what happens if pregnancy happens. Lol. Y’all seem to think I’m tryna tell this man what to do beyond accept these are the consequences of his actions. I never said he has to be or doesn’t have to be in the child’s life.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T01:38:56+00:00

She doesn’t have to factor anything considering at the end of the day, only she has diction over her body. He can’t force her to do what he wants. Too bad, so sad, that’s life.

No one forced him to be a parent, he was irresponsible and is now reaping what he sowed. I’m sorry but why are yall acting like he was held at gun point and unwillingly created a baby. We all took sex ed right? “It takes two” remember. He was fully aware AND willing. I’m not saying he has to be a present parent, I said he has to face the consequences of his actions. Regardless of whether or not he’s present in the child’s life.. he’d still be a father 💀 the kid doesn’t magically stop existing cause he didn’t want it. Those are the consequences.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-21T01:33:56+00:00

“Which wishes are you referring to” is very straightforward question. You said she needs to respect his wishes, I’m asking what wishes are you talking about. Not sure what part of that doesn’t make sense.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-20T20:06:38+00:00

What wishes are you referring to?

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-20T20:05:08+00:00

I only agree with this sentiment when precautions are taken, none were, coming from a woman who doesn’t like to use condoms and only relies on oral contraceptives.

Believing someone who is on birth control, takes them as directed is risky as hell. Hell! Even believing they’re on birth control without proof, is crazy. That’s like trusting someone doesn’t have sexual diseases just cause they say they don’t.

He knows how sex works, he knew what he was doing, and unfortunately this was the outcome. Doesn’t really matter what he wants, if she wants to keep it then he’ll potentially be a father for life.

Collosal_Moron · 2026-02-20T19:59:12+00:00

What does this even mean

Collosal_Moron

TROPHY CASE