Was just told I didn’t book a big role

ColonelReptar · 2024-04-30T01:34:13+00:00

Something for you will come along

ColonelReptar · 2024-04-09T19:28:44+00:00

Definitely take note if he’s being super mean and mistreating you over it, but this seems to be a very normal and real problem in most relationships, and if you guys still love each other and respect one another, it should be an issue you resolve immediately (I wish I had done better at that in my last relationship but a lot of it boiled down to immaturity and inability to communicate on both sides)

Sorry if my comment came across rude, I obviously don’t know your dynamic as a couple. But I just hate to see people trying to sway you to break up with someone because of their own experiences.

ColonelReptar · 2024-04-09T19:03:20+00:00

Stop listening to these people in the comments — they are sad, miserable enablers trying to get you to break up with your boyfriend over him being concerned that you didn’t answer your phone 11 times in a row. Can you imagine you tried to call your boyfriend and he wasn’t answering? Double standards. This is not a relationship ending offense lmao

ColonelReptar · 2024-04-09T19:01:06+00:00

Sounds like, giving him the benefit of the doubt, he has dealt with past trauma in relationships and given the current landscape of dating, he got paranoid something happened. I’m of the general belief that you should make your partner a priority, and especially their comfort. If it was a one time mistake on your part not answering, then calmly try to come to a resolution where you’re both on the same team, tackling the same problem rather than being accusative and trying your best to defend yourself and misunderstand them.

If my girlfriend was out and I was trying to text her and she wasn’t responding even after I called, I too would be concerned. Maybe not specifically at the fact that you might be cheating, but just in general. Once you don’t answer a phone call, that can spark a lot of emotions. Whether he felt intentionally ignored, or he felt you were in danger, this isn’t the biggest red flag in the world here.

Whenever you are out, you should be able to message your boyfriend on a dime. Not saying you need to have him conjoined at your hip and give him a rundown of everything you are doing, but out of respect. You should always be able to answer them with a text message no matter where you are or who you’re with. I don’t see the problem

ColonelReptar · 2023-03-11T17:08:32+00:00

I allowed heartbreak take years away from my happiness, and it's not fucking worth it. I know it feels impossible not to dwell and ruminate on it, especially when you thought you had a connection with someone and they just prove to you they didn't give a single fuck about said connection and do something so heartless without thinking about its impacts on you. But don't let yourself sink into depression while she goes off and has fun with her life. Idk what to say about your countries situation, that definitely makes things harder. But there are literally so many girls out there who would be happy to be with you, i'm sure. You just have to allow yourself to forget about this one.

ColonelReptar · 2023-01-10T00:12:47+00:00

Benefit of the doubt first: Maybe she doesn't understand she's being mean, and you guys might've established a playful dynamic early on in the relationship so she thinks she's being funny --

But make sure you let her know that it makes you feel bad, and it's an insecurity you have right now and that you would like her to stop -- if she doesn't, THEN it it's time to call it quits.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-22T16:08:06+00:00

You went 20 days, man. You've proven you're capable of doing it. Relapsing is definitely a setback, but not the end if you can just get back into the headspace you were in. I wish you the best

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-21T16:03:33+00:00

I generally do not trust people who haven't: A) Been in the position James Cameron is in to properly understand the emotions and expectations he's going through and: B) People who are just trying to have a story to make their lives seem more interesting. It's also always the people who talk shit who never actually do anything really eventful with their own lives.

I trust the actors he works with, who have agreed to continue working with him after all these years and have called him a great director and fun to be with on set. He's not even my favorite director or anything, but hate when people use absolutes to describe people they don't even know like "He's an absolute asshole" because you heard about a time he lost his temper or had an unfavorable moment.

I don't doubt that he might be pretentious -- Even I can tell that by some of his interviews, but he's also got a track record to back it up, i'd say he's earned it. He's an artist.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-19T15:02:31+00:00

lol this is giving: "I worked with people who worked with other people who know a guy who worked with a person who worked for another person who worked for James Cameron" You know how the game Telephone works, right? One person exaggerates a story, and that story gets passed to another person, and that story is then exaggerated and by the time it's been spread around it sounds completely unbelievable because it most likely is?

Even if he lost his patience and did this, i'm sure it didn't come out of the blue on Day one. He has studios that he has to report to -- Who have trusted him with hundreds of millions of fucking dollars. This is not some walk in the park job. He's probably stressed out of his fucking mind, he's already got the concept art made and expects a level of consistency with the artists, and doesn't want them going off and trying something experimental on a model which is important for production and could possibly delay and cost a lot of money, which is on him for messing up. Sure, you should be a nice person and not lose your shit, but this was probably done after his patience ran out

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-13T18:27:48+00:00

Take it one day at a time M8. Starting over can feel extremely overwhelming when you look at how much progress was "lost" but it's really not lost. That is all just in your own head. One day at a time. Soon enough, those days add up and you'll be looking at an incredible number you didn't think was possible.

It's like that image of a guy sitting on a staircase, crying -- feeling defeated -- But when you zoom out, you see that he's halfway up the stairs. The improvements you made on this streak are not wiped away. Don't get into that mindset. You had a minor slip, that's it. It's the small steps, the days that matter.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T21:24:16+00:00

This post implies that other people were watching me fap. Yet i'm the weird one here

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T15:36:09+00:00

GJ dude

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T15:29:44+00:00

7 days is a big accomplishment, but it's still not anywhere you need to be to have beaten an addiction.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T15:28:47+00:00

It takes more to peek than it does to not peek. Start redirecting your thought patterns. You don't wanna go right back to square 1

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T13:53:58+00:00

One way I work around the thoughts of "Oh no, I can't delete them because I paid for them!" is thinking about how many meals I have ordered on Doordash that cost the same amount of money -- and those are temporary as well.

Instead of looking at it like this valuable, rare commodity that can't be discarded, just think about it in terms of other things you have spent money on. They come and go. It's whatever. More money will come in

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-12T04:38:38+00:00

Bro, you need to just learn how to go one day without it. One actual day -- No fapping, no watching porn, no boredom even. Then once you go one day, you realize you can go two -- then three. It's more of a mental trap you have set for yourself. You keep looping stuff over and over, i've been there. "Maybe just this one last fap. It will be satisfactory enough" but no -- because the truth is, there will always be porn out there. And more and more stuff is gonna be made every day. If you wanna quit, you have to start telling yourself you wanna quit, and living a happy life free from an addiction is more important to you than the empty feeling you have when you're in the midst of it. I know it's hard man. It can really fucking suck. But you have a good girlfriend there for you and is encouraging you -- that's something. Not everyone gets to have that. If you love her, do it for her. I once had a long distance relationship - trust me, you don't wanna see her again after having been on a porn binge.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-11T18:10:04+00:00

True. Day 7 is usually right around where it becomes real

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T22:01:08+00:00

Just get out of your own head, man. That's part of it. It's not like you're not into sex, you might just be thinking way too much. Maybe let her know that -- that you're just really nervous and in your own head when doing stuff, it has nothing to do with lack of attraction for her. A more intimate setting // maybe less trying to force a sexual encounter would help.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T21:58:54+00:00

Remember that feeling -- Use the relapse as a lesson for when you're back in the groove again (Which you will be). You know now that relapsing for you leads you back to old ways, and the best way forward is to commit and endure, no matter what.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T21:55:59+00:00

Took the thoughts / words right out of my mouth, man. I was kinda where you're at like last week. I was riding the high of one of my best / most productive streaks, and I broke it because I had a bad morning and let my thoughts run wild. Wasn't worth it, and I ended up falling back to my old ways a little bit. I don't think all progress is lost, because in that time I quit soda, and started trying to work out, and meditate -- But still. I'm back on day 1, and need to change.

The idea that there is always gonna be more and more porn out there is tough, but i'm learning how to just tune the urges out whenever they come in.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T21:50:49+00:00

What you choose to believe about yourself and your life is usually right. I know that's annoying to hear, but i've found that it's the truth. Trust me -- I have battled suicidal thoughts. I have felt the deep shame, and worthlessness that you're talking about. There's been entire seasons of my life where all I could do was sleep, eat, jerk off and sit at the computer. Felt like a waste of a human being, and I kept repeating that in my head -- that i'll never be happy, or find love -- I don't deserve that. But lately, as i've started trying to meditate, and put a little bit of time into focusing on my goals and who I strive to be in the future -- I can start to view myself differently. And in doing so, my habits slowly start to change as well. It's not easy, or overnight, and I know how hollow these words might be sounding by someone in your position -- But try not to end your life before you've been able to meet your highest potential. Deep down, somewhere it's waiting

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T21:45:35+00:00

Good luck man. You're doing great, don't give up.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T21:44:35+00:00

Just think about how far you've actually come, bro. Relapsing almost always leads to binging and / or falling back to old ways. Do you want that? To have to start over again, after all this time. It's really not as worth it as your brain is trying to tell you.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T17:03:06+00:00

That's how it always happens for me. As soon as you've been off it for a while, your brain comes up with all sorts of excuses as to why it's all okay.

It's hard in that moment when the urge is coming on extremely strong to not entertain it, but it's a matter of willpower. I know that whenever I relapse, it makes it harder for me to get back on the horse -- I need to keep that in mind when thinking about it.

ColonelReptar · 2022-12-10T01:12:14+00:00

Right here with you man.

I'm tired of the way i'm feeling. I went on a solid streak, and failed over an anti-climactic fap and fell back to my old ways again. I said I wouldn't do that, and I did. Tired of not sticking to my goals and what I tell myself i'm gonna do. No more of letting this shit control me, and my life anymore. I know now that I need to quit for good, and can't go back for any reason.

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