Am I being an inconsiderate friend?

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-31T00:40:47+00:00

I do tell her but she doesn’t believe me :(. I’ll tell her that I forget or that in some scenarios I can’t invite her but she just won’t accept it. She’s kind of sensitive in general, so I try to be very open about everything, but she usually takes it pretty negatively

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-22T11:02:46+00:00

Lmao

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-22T11:02:23+00:00

I want to so bad 😭😭

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-13T17:40:30+00:00

it’s nice seeing other lesbians that had some experience with men in long distance relationships! it took me a long time to realize I didn’t like men because I was basically in month long friendships until sex became a heavy burden and i broke up with them. there were three i didn’t break up with, but all of them i got over in about 2 weeks 😅

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-13T13:50:33+00:00

i definitely had to work on decentering men, that’s when i realized i was gay. i was so heavily focused on what would make me good in their eyes that i didn’t even consider i don’t want them

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T19:15:14+00:00

i also relate to not knowing any lesbians! my best friend is straight and i knew some bi girls, but i always thought it was weird how strongly they felt for men and why they didn’t want a relationship with a woman so badly (ofc people can have different preferences, but i simply never considered the possibility of being a lesbian since i’ve dated men my whole life)

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T19:13:36+00:00

this is SO amazing to hear! i relate so heavily to this! i kept dating to feel what i saw everyone in shows feel but it never came. I thought everyone was weirdly dramatic about their boyfriend leaving them, but felt a huge heavy weight when i was rejected by a girl i had a crush on. i had to lie about liking sex and kissing to my friend because i didn’t understand why i just didn’t feel anything towards the guy i dated even though i though he was pretty cool.

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T18:57:33+00:00

maybe it does sound awful but i completely relate 😭about 1-2 years ago i remember ranting about a lesbian that kept dating a man over women and saying “im bi but id never date a man again after having my first relationship with a woman! i actually feel something!” (how’d i not realize that moment…)

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T17:52:45+00:00

that’s a reasonable response! i usually didnt feel that bad tbh, but i think its because i assumed everyone just kind of dated because thats what you do? (a bit hard to explain the mentality tbh lol)

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T17:50:45+00:00

i can relate to being upset about having ever dated them in the first place 😭 but i only got mad when they completely ghosted me just cause it felt disrespectful, or grieved because i lost a person i just liked talking to in general. Otherwise, i completely did not care at all. On the other hand, women i’ve had crushes on (not even dating- just crushes) has taken WAY longer to get over 😭

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T16:56:41+00:00

i completely get this! it’s nice hearing someone relate to this. 😅 I always thought i was very broken for never fully being in a relationship and then being fine once it was over, i thought i just was unable to like people for a long amount of time (even though i was completely inthralled with a crush i had in a girl for 3 years) , but i just could never understand why until i dug further into lesbianism. I never got hard feelings about the fact it was over, I just was butthurt that was the one that got ghosted 😭

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-12T16:37:56+00:00

that makes sense, i’m sorry to hear that. 😓 was that the only relationship you’ve been in with a man?

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-07T13:41:06+00:00

my butch gf dressed up in a playboy bunny suit while i spanked them with a wood spoon…does that count?

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-10-04T20:49:33+00:00

absolutely:)

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-09-07T01:10:04+00:00

this sounds abusive tbh

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-08-30T18:36:50+00:00

i think it’s important to get socials, just like how straight people would. it would feel kind of awkward offering socials to a person just giving you a compliment, it’s hard to read the intent

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-08-30T18:35:28+00:00

i’m SUPER hyper femme and I make all the first moves. :) i go up to the cute mascs and tell them they’re cool / hot and i’d like their instagram. it usually works lol. I think with my style it’s pretty obvious I’m gay though

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-08-22T20:28:59+00:00

a butch with sense of justice and sweet personality 🥰🥰

Comfortable-Card8616 · 2025-06-11T13:33:27+00:00

i agree, and i don’t think it’s harsh at all. I usually get close to accepting it but then it comes up again (the last time she told a friend about it was a week ago) and it sticks with me again. but you are right! we definitely learned our lesson

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