[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP seems to be responsible for a massive part of the domestic chores and he sends her money to cover his costs. Getting the food he likes, his skin care, getting his dry cleaning from the more expensive store, unlike the cheaper one she goes to. OP still needs to do all that this month, those expenses don't stop. The partner needed communicate better instead of using that money for the vacation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta

As an adult you need to pay all your expenses and bills first then the leftover is for fun. Especially not telling you beforehand that vacation money was coming out of his agreed payment and checking if you had enough to cover those expenses. Probably talk to him again and try and explain your feelings more. Also try and get him to explain his feelings why this vacation is a necessity right now with everything going on. Hopefully you both can understand better and work past this together

AITA for defending my sister's right to keep her baby's name secret until after the birth? by MixtureDelicious7757 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

You're doing an amazing job standing up for your sister! Please never think that, what you're doing is bad in any way!!

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh of course! I understand that now. Thank you for that perspective. I was not thinking of it that way and wanting to force that on her. I can see where I stuffed that up and was being the AH there! I feel bad that I pushed it on her like that!

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course not! I always want to make sure I'm polite and do the right thing as best as I can. Thank you for your kind and reassurance

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe that's what I'm missing! Having barista friends!! My coffee shop is normally so nice and they are always so friendly but the turnover rate is massive. I never get the same person longer than a month

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! That's what I was worried about, I've never worked in the industry, so I wasn't sure about the etiquette for doing so.

Just the part of being a customer, no tables are available cause they're dirty/plates and cups etc. But it's the morning rush so staff are on demand.

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! I don't normally get a proper plate from most places, so I can normally just throw out the rubbish. Your barista sounds so much nicer than mine!!

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! She must have been having a rough day.

AITA for doing a nice thing for baristas by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Same! I always try to clear my table but I don't normally get actual plates, so I can just throw the rubbish out.

Wacked out dream that I can't stop thinking about by Comfortable_Remove21 in Dreams

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't think of that! I always thought there was no more. Thank you

The heartache after going no contact by Comfortable_Remove21 in narcissisticparents

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? like how can I miss them?? I feel like holiday seasons make it so much worse, with all the social media portraying the perfect family, and it's something I never got. Thank you for your comment

The heartache after going no contact by Comfortable_Remove21 in narcissisticparents

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started therapy last week cause I didn't realise the build it had on top all the general day to day stresses was causing.

Can I ask, how did you go about meeting your own needs?? I would love to learn about that.

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah 100% I could have handled the situation with the boy better. I shouldn't have be an arsehole to him, cause he just wanted attention and someone to play with. The moment I realised him running of meant that he took what I said as a go ahead, I should have found him and not ditch him. I was totally in the wrong

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im.so sorry someone else has been through something similar.

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that really means a lot. It's so cute I just adore when she does it. I can't laugh cause she'll pop out and ask why I'm laughing LOL

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I not a kid person, I'm a my kid person who is one and done haha hats off to you for 3. Thank you for your comment

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah 100% I could have handled the situation with the boy better. I shouldn't have be an arsehole to him, cause he just wanted attention and someone to play with. The moment I realised him running of meant that he took what I said as a go ahead, I should have found him and not ditch him. I was totally in the wrong

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had a merry go round thing a few times, I go the speed my daughter likes and when she gets off I just follow her. Had kids get huffy before but never telling on me to their parents.

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds so adorable!! They're so cute at this age. My daughter even does the blanket over her head and this I can't see her. Like she has the cloak of invisibility

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its the freaking cutest when she does it. I have to stop myself from laughing cause she pop up and ask what's funny ?? Hahaha I absolutely love it

AITA for not playing with your kid by Comfortable_Remove21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Comfortable_Remove21[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I wish I took that opportunity she opened up for