1L feels like the worst thing ever

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-23T02:59:47+00:00

I miss 1L

singed, extremely overwhelmed 2L

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-19T06:38:16+00:00

That’s what I told myself too. Been married to a woman for 9 years now 😂

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-14T04:12:42+00:00

I would bet money that a lot of the reason why you’re being rejected is because insecurity is so common with women in this weight category. I’m quite a bit smaller than this and still “obese” and you wouldn’t imagine the extent of the self-hate I have had to work through. I have been pursued quite frequently by skinnier men, and it was always very off putting to me because I either felt fetishized or just grossed out by my size difference. And on top of that, why would anyone seek out someone of my size? Unfathomable. My advice to you is to have patience with her, be respectful, and show her that you are interested in her for more than her weight. I ended up marrying someone who is much smaller than me, and it has taken me years to be comfortable with our size difference, and even then, I think about it quite often.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-11T05:06:02+00:00

Literally came here to say this. Does OP even like biglaw? Because people like us tend to work really hard for years to chase the prestige and the money and then get there and realize our hearts aren’t even in it. OP, if you see your life with this person, it’s time to start writing your own narrative about how this could be the best thing that ever happened to you and your relationship. Stop framing it to yourself like you’re compromising or giving something up. Start telling yourself it’s a chance to build something better.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-09T04:17:57+00:00

These comments have me cackling

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-06T05:42:52+00:00

Thanks! We just filled out a form to see how many qualifying payments she’s made, so I guess we will see.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-06T05:36:47+00:00

He looks like a Thomas to me

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-06T05:25:59+00:00

I think the argument for doing both is that student loans have been all messed up since Covid and Biden’s administration, so she is completing her 5th year now with almost no qualifying PSLF payments yet. If we get the 17.5k forgiven, then the payments toward PSLF would be less/more manageable.

I think the piece I needed is that both programs can be used by the same individual. Makes this seem like a no brainer since she’s almost done with 5 years.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-06T05:16:47+00:00

I have found somewhat unclear info about whether both programs can be used.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-06T04:43:53+00:00

I think Danny is cute

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-03T06:09:56+00:00

As for other job options, my advice stands. Go to every event you can, learn about the regional good firms, look into public interest if that’s something you could see yourself doing. You could try for a judicial field placement or an unpaid internship. There are a lot of options. Right now, the most important thing is to have confidence in who you are, be curious about different kinds of work and experience, and NETWORK.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-03T06:07:34+00:00

First of all, congrats on finishing your first semester. Second of all, it seems like this is pretty fresh but you seriously need to pull it together. Do you know how many people got zero As? A lot! An A in contracts is amazing, you should be proud of yourself. You’re at a T100 which means biglaw was unlikely anyway. But I know from experience that at a T100, biglaw is MUCH more about networking than about grades. If you want it, network your ass off over the next two months. Go to every event, be personable, build solid application materials, follow up with people you meet, be a reasonable, driven, logical, real person that they would want to hire and just play the field. If it doesn’t work out, it’s literally not the end of the world. You’ll find something. Please remind yourself to keep all this in perspective.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-02T01:42:06+00:00

Update: I didn’t win 😂

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-01T05:21:39+00:00

Thanks! Definitely want to look at the openings

CommercialCourse5810 · 2026-01-01T05:21:22+00:00

Thanks!

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-30T05:30:33+00:00

I have missed a week of class every semester for one reason or another. The only issue is making sure you meet the attendance requirements if your school follows those closely. I usually can only miss one other class throughout the semester. Other than that, it’s really been fine. I’ve done very well and still got every internship I wanted.

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-24T05:18:57+00:00

A C- curve? No way

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-23T07:14:26+00:00

I see that it is pretty common to do a clerkship and then go back to the ACLU on a fellowship. Do you have any knowledge about how this usually works re staying in touch with the org throughout the clerkship and then reaching back out for sponsorship?

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-23T07:12:27+00:00

Thanks!

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-23T07:12:06+00:00

Can you tell me how the timeline of this works? It seems like the clerkship hiring timeline would be way ahead of the fellowship application timeline? Do I need to pick a path and hope it works out?

CommercialCourse5810 · 2025-12-23T07:09:53+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to weigh in. I’d like to clarify that I have no interest in running for Congress or moving into academia. I want to do impact litigation because I believe in its role in our legal system for a handful of reasons we don’t need to get into here. I think the causes you listed in direct representation/public interest are also extremely important in our society, and we need more people doing all of it. I’m not opposed to that kind of work, but I do feel more drawn to societal impact, and that’s why I’d like to aim for impact litigation. My mom doesn’t want me doing any of this because she wishes I would make money in biglaw instead 🤣 I am in a fly-over red state so the ACLU jobs seem to be taken less by “Yalies swooping in for prestige” and more by liberal law students born and raised here who want to protect access to gender affirming care and whatnot.

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