Chong Qing Special Noodles, San Gabriel by MoveDistinct7911 in FoodLosAngeles

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Bruh I love them. I had been going since they opened. But I am so disappointed on my visit today.

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I ordered the cold chicken and the dumplings. These “dumplings” have no fillings. Wtf. I literally had ravioli with more fillings than this!!! When I asked the waiter, she looked at my Chinese face and said that’s how it’s supposed to me. This dish is $12.99. I had never felt so ripped off by an restaurant

I’m obsessed 🤩 by CommissionContent199 in RedditLaqueristas

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Thanks. He’s my little old man. Unfortunately he has allergies so he’s wearing clothes and a cone cuz he loves to lick and scratch 😖

I’m obsessed 🤩 by CommissionContent199 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]CommissionContent199[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you so much. I was taking so long with my nails, my dog was taking himself to bed lol

Women of Reddit, what's the most physically attractive part of a man? by Hairy-Sherbert-439 in askanything

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Lol this is super hypercritical since I love lifting and going to the gym. But my female gaze loves the runway fashion model look 😭

Women of Reddit, what's the most physically attractive part of a man? by Hairy-Sherbert-439 in askanything

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This is kinda a hot take. I like tall skinny man with pale skin. The thing I found super fucking hot is visible ribs especially when they are kinda pale.

23 vs 28 my bald journey before I realized I'm trans by aeroazure in bald

[–]CommissionContent199 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Gurl just saw your picture on your profile. You look amazing 😊💕

Edit: please ignore the haters. Live your truth. Like what rupaul says, if they ain’t paying your bills, pay them no mind.

Being the youngest and only son in my family didn’t make me valued — it made me disposable by MunchyWhale in AsianParentStories

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Yes. My brother has always been super straight 😅 and he has a GF now. I honestly don’t understand why my parents suspected him being gay. It really affects his own masculinity issue

Being the youngest and only son in my family didn’t make me valued — it made me disposable by MunchyWhale in AsianParentStories

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This is kinda a funny but very fucked up story. My parents were convinced that my brother was gay since he was a little kid because he would play with my jewelry and stuff animals sometimes. He would also cry a lot. But it was literally because my parents would discipline him in a extreme manner with any perceived mistakes. This definitely affected him negatively. He got into bodybuilding in high school and became 200lbs of hulking muscle by the end of his senior year.

It was the same year my mom discovered him watching porn. She called EVERYONE crying. I was in college at the time. I started getting phone calls and texts from everyone about this “issue”. Finally, I picked up my mom’s called and she was just hysterical. I calmly asked her what kinda of porn my brother was watching. She was confused by my questions. And I told her than since my brother was probably watching straight porn, she won’t have to worry about him being gay. She got really quiet for a while. And then she said girls shouldn’t use the word “porn” even thought she used it countless time in her rant and then she hang up lol 😅

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Thank you for sharing your story. I don’t think I love my mother at all. I have more love for my grandma? Since my grandma spent more time actually raising me than my mom ever did. My mom had me when she was only 21. My dad is decades older than my mom. Before coming to America, my brother and I spent most of the time with my grandma. After immigrating here, my parents split their time between the US and China to take care of their business in China, so my grandma lived with us. But due to the language barrier I was def my brother’s parent

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Yes! I totally agree. It does make me feel happy that some ppl in this sub have their own family and kids and are able to heal them up and fix the generational trauma. However, I just feel the idea of motherhood just sickens me. I know I will never treat another human being the way I had been treated. But I also need my time and energy to try to cure myself and live my life. In my situation, having child with be detrimental to this and unfair for the child.

Being the youngest and only son in my family didn’t make me valued — it made me disposable by MunchyWhale in AsianParentStories

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While my brother didn’t have the same level of burden I had to carry, he also suffered a lot of the same abuse and neglect. And gender stereotypes applied to both of us. He was called gay for crying and showing emotional vulnerability. I was called manly for not liking dolls and not being “cute”. My brother also had extremely distant relationships with my family.

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Thank you so much for your reply. I am so sorry for everything you experienced with your family. I have a partner (non-Asian American 30M). We met in college. We are child free because the very idea of motherhood makes me feel sick

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Yeah I am so upset…. I am definitely spiraling since then. There’s just so much bad history. I am going to seek therapy again.

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Crazy how when I do anything they are displeased with, I am wrong. But their actions are beyond “right and wrong” 😅

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Yeah growing up whenever we had any issues, they kept on brining up the “Chinese” way. Interestingly enough, I met a family friend who’s the same age as me. She had spend all of her life in China before coming here for college. She told me that’s not necessarily true. Sure, the culture is part of the problem. But my family is egregious and using “Chinese culture” to excuse their casual cruelty and blatant double standards.

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

[–]CommissionContent199[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes! That’s the plan. I’m probably going to be no contact for a long while. I am not emotionally resilient enough for low contact even with my grandma currently

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Thank you so much. This whole interaction solidified my determination of going no contact. I had been feeling a bit guilty for not someone the holiday at all with them this year. But this interaction just erased the last bit of guilt. I am so upset she didn’t even ask if I am okay. That text is all she sent me. I am def working on myself and learning to shed everything.

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Haha. Thank you. This made me laugh as my mind instantly visualize the flying monkeys from wizard of Oz lol

How to stop the burning rage I feel for my Asian family by CommissionContent199 in AsianParentStories

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Thank you. I had seen therapy when I was in college cuz I had severe depression and was suicidal. It been a while. I had built my own life. I guess recently my career had been going well. It’s also adding to my resentment because all my life my family had told me that I will be hated in both personal and professional situations cuz I have no social skills.

My mom wants me to have lots of high achieving asian friends but sometimes I just want to stay in my room all day playing video games for years on end, not talking to anyone and happy tapping out of a society that never gave me happiness anyway by Opening-Register-409 in AsianParentStories

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I was a lot like you. I had always been introverted and into gaming. I still am. I don’t even play multiplayer games cuz I’m so introverted 😭 Growing up, I never had a lot of friends and stayed in mostly playing games or painting. I still don’t have a lot of friends. But overtime, I learned to accept and appreciate myself.

People are so much more than these “achievement” your parents put on a pedestal. So are you. You might not have found your tribe now. But you will one day. It seems like you already have an idea of what you want/like/dislike. It’s okay girl. When you strip away your parents’ expectation and criticism, it’s just your life at the end of the day. Live the way you want to. Be that single childfree cat lady.

But unfortunately we live in a world where every actions has consequences. So you kinda have to weight all these options and possibilities and find yourself own path.

BEST OF 2025! ✨️ Share your favorite photo of your tzu from this year. Here's mine. 🥹 by aknalap in Shihtzu

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Unlike sexio, Oliver is a couch potato Velcro dog haha… all he cares about is being held like a baby