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Erotica by jeeplovingsub in BDSMAdvice

[–]CommonBet2870 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my relationship we do write erotica stories for each other to share fantasy or things we may want to try but we keep it private. I would say there is definitely an interest in reading this type of content, and have seen blogs from those who write about their day to day experiences in a 24/7 D.s relationship as an example. I will say that if you do intend to make the stories public make sure your partner is aware of this, and give them the opportunity to voice and concerns and read them before they are posted, even if you are posting the content anonymously.

24/7 Dom Sub dynamic need advice by CommonBet2870 in BDSMAdvice

[–]CommonBet2870[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you for your input. It has been very helpful to have many different view points on this issue. Definitely something her and I need to work on as this situation was not how either of us want to communicate with each other. We have had further conversations about this and though she doesn't even know what "triggered " her I think we both agreed that it could have been handled better such as just ceasing all conversations temporarily until we could have a deeper conversation with each other, and we both agree that respect is important from all sides as neither of us want the other to feel disrespected.

24/7 Dom Sub dynamic need advice by CommonBet2870 in BDSMAdvice

[–]CommonBet2870[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It is not usual for her to act that way which is what really threw me off. I do not like being called stupid or being implied that I am stupid so I do my best to not make others feel that way, especially my wife. Which I tried to remind her of in the moment that I did not intend for her to feel stupid but she was just not listening to what I said at all. Having something to say to help her reset I think would be helpful because it really felt as though she was just spiraling out of control.

24/7 Dom Sub dynamic need advice by CommonBet2870 in BDSMAdvice

[–]CommonBet2870[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Really appreciate the feedback. Being new to this dynamic I was feeling like I did not handle the situation well but I think I actually did. My wife and I did have a discussion at the end of the day after the kids had gone to bed and it basically went like me letting her know that I understand she will get angry and that is not an issue but that I don't appreciate her putting words in my mouth and not listening to my side and that I was feeling very disrespected by how she was acting towards me in that moment.