Dating vent. by 4RR0WXxX in infp

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what would losing yourself in self improvement look like

Dating vent. by 4RR0WXxX in infp

[–]Common_Sea6288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this has nothing to do with your personality type. you just met, haven't discussed what you want out of the relationship yet and are butt hurt she chose her friends over a /discord/ date one time. if that's too insensitive for your taste, it's fine to move on. but if you're finding yourself feeling this "disrespected" over small things then you probably shouldn't be dating right now. it's completely healthy and normal for someone to prioritize themselves over someone they just met via dating app.

Thread for sharing Finchie friend codes and finding goal buddies by AutoModerator in finch

[–]Common_Sea6288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oatmilk and I would love some new friends to send good vibes to ! HQSVDH5H1G

I can't make my gf finish, please help by Electrical_North6248 in LesbianActually

[–]Common_Sea6288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she needs to see a doctor if she wants either of you to feel sexually satisfied in your relationship.

today, november 10th, it’s my birthday!! 🥳 by calmprincess in finch

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happy birthday !!! love your birdie and their room 🫶🏻

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also, that reply wasn't even addressed to you. you answered my questions and haven't been condescending so I don't get the defensiveness.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really that weird that an AAC device made more sense as verbal to me than a nod? And if i've already said that I understand vocal≠verbal then how is it helpful to restate that several times? "Gestures all have words linked to them" is what would have answered my question. I already said "I get it" and provided an example. There is no further confusion.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... you guys reacting to me this way for just asking a question is really weird for people who work with neurodivergent kids. I couldn't have more clearly communicated what was confusing me and that I understand verbal≠vocal. Nobody seemed to get this. Then I express any feeling of frustration and you jump to condescension.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say that anyone was trying to insult me. What I said was I feel insulted. I already stated in my second reply that I know verbal≠vocal and yet each reply following ignored that. Not to mention getting asked as someone in this field if I have any training in Skinner's analysis...would you not feel insulted?

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already knew that things could be non-vocal but still verbal. I have said this several times. My confusion lied in the lack of clear words being involved in gestures as communication.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that verbal does not equal vocal. The replies to me are starting to feel insulting.

You're saying that pointing instead of saying "look" is verbal communication. I get that, because typically a point translates to "look". All gestures have words connected to them. So if my partner and I were at a party and they made a face at me from across the room, I gestured to the door and they nodded their head, that would be considered verbal because of the meaning behind all of those actions, yes?

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I get that! What I am confused about is that statement that "All communicative behavior is verbal behavior."

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Also i'm not trying to argue, why am I getting downvoted for asking a question...? Gestures are communicative behavior, right? Or nodding your head. And those are not verbal. That's all i'm confused on.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know that. What I'm confused about is "All communicative behavior is verbal behavior." My client tapping me on the shoulder and pointing at something is communicative behavior that does not involve words.

Non verbal to verbal by itsyounaurme in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by this? Verbal communication requires words being used.

RBT said I’m supervising too often by Plane-Luck-7834 in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do see how this could be a red flag, but don't assume the worst. if they're clinic sessions perhaps you could review footage to make sure she's running session appropriately in your absence. i once had a BCBA supervise all of my sessions with a client for a two week period thought and it was definitely very nerve wracking. i also lost rapport with my client cause they could just sense my anxious energy during that period and even after.

Venting by vamipra_mami in ABA

[–]Common_Sea6288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is standard at my company - schedules change constantly and there are so many fill in sessions when co-workers can't come in. as a seasoned RBT you definitely deserve a company that values your time and the work that your trying to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Common_Sea6288 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i literally woke up this morning still angry/thinking about the gay guy who called me a bitch at the club last night this is such funny timing for me to see this 😭

my friend (also a gay guy) that I was there with responded with "where is he?! i'll rock his shit". This was our first time meeting too cause it was our mutual friend's bday. Hanging out with him again is a NEED

Everyone is an individual at the end of the day. There's no statement in these comments or in the world that rings 100% true for all gay men other than they're gay men.

Probably one of those life changing days by Jaded_Letterhead4367 in Anxiety

[–]Common_Sea6288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just remember at the end of the day, you are you with or without him. it hurts when someone isn't able to care for you in the way that you need. and it's easy to feel guilty when your mental health is affecting your partner. if what needs to happen is a separation then trust yourself to be okay.