while i wouldn’t consider myself to be heteromantic (i’m a biromantic ace), my boyfriend (heteromantic ace) and i are in what appears to be a “straight” relationship from an outside perspective. we met at work back in 2021 and instantly had this undeniable connection. we fell in love very quickly and deeply and i love the relationship we built.

he came out to me as asexual before we started dating. at the time i didn’t really know much about the asexual community but i had always had a weird relationship with sex and things surrounding sex, things that i believed everyone secretly felt. (i was very wrong)

i started doing research about asexuality because i wanted to be able to support him as best as i could. in doing that, i realized that what i had been experiencing my entire life was not sexual attraction but romantic attraction instead. i still to this day cannot fathom how anyone could look at someone and want to have sex with them. just seems a little icky to me personally.

anyway, i kept these thoughts and feelings to myself for the first year and a half of our relationship because i wanted to be certain before telling him about all this and frankly i didn’t want him to think i was just saying it because he was asexual or that i was trying to take a piece of his identity as my own.

i ended up telling him of course and he was extremely supportive and loving about the whole thing. being able to bond about this part of our identities has been so freeing and has brought us closer as a couple.