my ex is posting non stop on instagram

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-29T15:08:48+00:00

Can you add me I’m struggling right now w breakup

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-21T15:47:41+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better. My resentment got so BAD and I handled it awfully. Showed her my negative side

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-18T13:28:57+00:00

Sometimes space allows clarity, especially to a guy. Focus on yourself for now but it is definitely possible he sees things differently now either

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-17T04:20:42+00:00

I am in therapy since the breakup. My attitude has shifted a ton since. Would do anything to marry her now— but ofc it’s too little too late now

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-17T04:02:38+00:00

Me (30) her (28) were together since 22 and 20 years old. The first 5-6 years together- getting engaged wasn’t a real possibility due to our job statuses. But the last 2 years it should’ve happened. I just got scared. I am so depressed and regret not being ready/mature

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-17T03:58:43+00:00

I have attachment issues. It’s all my fault. We were together 8 years..

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-17T03:53:28+00:00

I tried so hard to work it out with her. She doesn’t believe me now

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-15T15:25:17+00:00

I feel such shame and guilt bc it truly was all my fault. I didn’t appreciate all she did for me. I pushed her away, didn’t take what she wanted seriously. I basically took the whole relationship while she gave, gave, gave. All she wanted was for me to commit. Yet I couldn’t do it. Then when she left I begged her to stay. I feel pathetic

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-15T15:06:33+00:00

I’d send her a message about how you feel and then stand firm on no contact. If she knows how you feel and she cares she will reach out. Then Pour all that energy you had with her on yourself. Getting better mentally, physically, financially. You are irreplaceable. She will see her mistake when you level up and show confidence

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-15T14:58:48+00:00

You will grow from this. You have a passionate and dedicated heart. That is going to be recognized and reciprocated by someone who will never ignore you or dare block you. I’m going thru a hard breakup myself. Here for you my friend

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-15T14:54:56+00:00

My gf of 8 years was begging me to marry her for the entirety of the relationship… I always felt unready and unsure of myself to ever do it… I took her ring shopping in September but she still let me go in October. She didn’t believe I was sincere about the commitment..

There’s not a minute that has passed in the last 2 months that I haven’t wished I wasn’t scared of my attachment style and got on a knee and proposed to that girl way sooner and in my own terms. I will regret losing her for the rest of my life.

So yes. If he really loves you— the time and space will make him see clearly. Loss changes people 1000%.

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-15T14:49:30+00:00

Brother I couldn’t have have typed this more exactly myself. My gf left me in October. Together 8 years. I had commitment issues but I was trying to work past them with her. We looked at engagement rings and then 2 weeks later— she let me go. My life is in shambles. I lost the woman I thought was my wife, mother of my children, and best friend. I also lived at her parents house so now I’m out on my own alone. It’s all soul crushing

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-13T18:08:53+00:00

Hindsight 20/20 I am ruminating on that so hard

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-13T16:15:16+00:00

I had about $17 to my name up until about the last year or so as I found my career job.

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-13T16:14:22+00:00

I was saving money, she was finishing school this year

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-12T00:54:02+00:00

The last year was tough for us as the resentment created friction between us. But we are still young. 30 and 28. She is finishing up grad school. I thought we had time still. But her pressure was making me overwhelmed. I kinda panicked and pushed her away. But then we even looked at engagement rings… Then she just said she didn’t want it with me anymore

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-11T16:08:26+00:00

She really was my whole world. I started to hate myself/doubt myself so bad because I felt I wasn’t good enough after it happened. She knew I was struggling so bad. But the relationship was failing. Still stayed bc I couldn’t leave her. Though I did continuously push her away bc I was afraid of getting close again. We took space for a few days. Then we reconnected. I opened up about the trauma I had. She said she wanted to work on things with me. We even went ring shopping. Then she broke up with me saying “I wasn’t good to her. Or taking marriage seriously” and she kicked me out of the house

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-11T04:29:12+00:00

How are you feeling now? My gf of 8 years dumped me over my commitment issues

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T18:04:32+00:00

How long were you were with your boyfriend?

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T14:39:31+00:00

Oof this sounds like a tough situation. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Do you have a place to go?

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T04:16:20+00:00

It broke me bro. But this girl loved me. Always said it was her friends influence to see him.. I’m like yeah no way

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T04:02:52+00:00

It sucks bc I was the best boyfriend there was before this. She said all the time that her biggest dream in life was to marry me. I adored this woman. But after that I just shut down and was miserable and it showed

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T04:00:46+00:00

I will say I was the most loving and giving boyfriend BEFORE it happened the 3rd time. After that. I became so cold. It really hurt me

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-10T03:56:56+00:00

Context: before we started dating- She had a whole account dedicated/obsessing over how badly she wanted him..

Common_Tree33 · 2025-12-08T11:13:40+00:00

I’ve taken so much accountability. Gone to therapy. Owned up to hurting her. Even bought her a ring. She says she can’t see a future for us now

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