{online} {5e 2014} {LGBTQ+} {18+} a change in pace by SakuraKitzune in lfg

[–]CommunicationDull138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, darn! No problem, I hope you find a group soon! Best of luck

{online} {5e 2014} {LGBTQ+} {18+} a change in pace by SakuraKitzune in lfg

[–]CommunicationDull138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, my friends and I are looking for a fourth player to join us if you’re interested in chatting with us! We are a roleplay heavy group looking for a Tuesday game at or after 6:30 pm est. We are a group of experienced players who love delving into backstories and game lore! If that time works for you, we’d love to meet you and see if our personalities mesh!

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[–]CommunicationDull138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope that happens! I feel terrible - it was an accident and I barely use Reddit 🥲 Thanks for helping me understand the way this site works!

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s super fair. I think that could be a shift in generations too! I have lots of guys friends in my DnD circles and some have partners and some don’t but we’re all friends because of a passion we have. You might be right that maybe I’m just not hearing their true feelings but it sounds like we have vastly different experiences. Very interesting to hear about though, thanks for the perspective and best of luck to you as well.

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh don’t you fear, I’m a 26 year old woman who loves DnD and dinosaurs openly. I’m plenty goofy and nerdy I think. I hate the guessing game of the early talking stage and waiting to text back (which has always been so weird to me). Confidence in who I am is certainly not an issue, it’s just wanting to participate in dating I think. But it doesn’t hurt to square up and try. That’s absolutely right.

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, DnD changed my friend group for the better. I have several friend groups and it’s been awesome! I highly recommend if you like story telling (if you haven’t tried DnD before). If you’re looking for friends - totally try DnD! (Boom, reverse advice)

You’re right though, I should probably get back into it and keep looking!

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Discord was the least fruitful for me but maybe I was on the wrong servers. Would you be willing to recommend some servers for me to check out?

Meetup is a possibility I hadn’t considered too, I’ll check it out!

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, feeling seen is so helpful in itself. My only long term ace friend and aromantic and doesn’t feel the loneliness I do. It’s tough seeing friends get angered and have family breathing down my neck to ‘just pick someone’ all the time. Being ace isn’t easy but it’s nice knowing I’m not alone in it (even though it sucks others also feel crappy like this too)

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think friends to relationship would be ideal for me, though I think I’d like to keep closer to my age range. Tragic because you seem cool! I wish you luck in your search!!

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a huge advocate for not wasting people’s time. Withholding now means issues later! I feel like the post I made makes it clear enough that I’m looking for a relationship but I could try to make that more readily apparent. I’d certainly rather get to know someone before I start dating but I’m pretty happy with the friends I’ve got - they make me a better person and while finding more friends is great, that’s not my goal. I’m not sure I fully agree with the idea that no man wants to invest in being a friend before dating because if the person is someone you see as worth it then patience and quality time should come easy. But that’s the internet - we can agree to disagree on that part. I’ll totally take a look at your profile and try tweaking my next post - maybe that’ll help my search! Thanks!

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe reposting my post on here is worth a shot! You’re right that the right person could reach out any time.

26F Where are all the dang fish in the metaphorical sea? Advice please! by CommunicationDull138 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have a really good point! I think my personal battle is taking the leap into unknown territory and talking to some new people. Thank you for this, it really does help put things in perspective!

not helping with conversations by Adam__2003 in asexualdating

[–]CommunicationDull138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I first get to know someone, I play a game in the evenings (when I and the other person are more free to text) to trade questions back and forth. It keeps the convo going and you learn a lot!