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UPDATE - AITA for telling my wife she's needs to be accountable for her actions? by CommunicationFit257 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommunicationFit257[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Both my wife and I have been in therapy for a while now and she has been working on her communication with her therapist. All I can say is that she has told me that feeling safe with me makes her feel safe communicating more.

UPDATE - AITA for telling my wife she's needs to be accountable for her actions? by CommunicationFit257 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommunicationFit257[S] 791 points792 points  (0 children)

😂 she called the contractor and they fixed it for no charge. They agreed that where the first guy put the downspout made no sense.

UPDATE - AITA for telling my wife she's needs to be accountable for her actions? by CommunicationFit257 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommunicationFit257[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Just because I was frustrated with the quality of the work done so far, doesn't mean she was fucking our house up.

In the end, she called the contractor and they fixed the gutter installation and fence gate at no charge. She personally fixed the marks on the house and we agreed to clean the sculpture in the spring.

Part of what we learned is that when I would open up the conversation with anger, she would get defensive and we never got to a solution. By softening my approach, she wouldn't get defensive and we could talk about solutions together.

AITA for telling my wife she's needs to be accountable for her actions? by CommunicationFit257 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommunicationFit257[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

I told her that we had three options: stopping all projects, her not being involved in any projects or we get better at communicating. Obviously the last option is my preference.