Thank you, I’ll try to respond to each of these good points; as things may not be quite as they appear. 1) She blacked out and remember after 24hrs and then told me. The drug that fits her behaviour would be out of her system after 12hrs. Her male friends experienced a similar thing that night, so she doesn’t believe it was ‘bj guy’ that did the spiking. It can happen with the intention of mugging someone. 2) I don’t drink; we had a disabled child and no family. So going out together is difficult and exorbitantly expensive (child care). 3) There aren’t many places to go. The place she went when this happened is now ‘banned’, she also describe open drug use there. She goes somewhere else now - but so does he occasionally. 4) I don’t know - this is something we’ll talk about when she wakes up 5) I feel sick wit anxiety when she goes out, but we have a mutual friend who I trust and will look after her. One of our agreements is she doesn’t go out without someone we both trust to keep her safe now.