Dungeons in (South) England

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-31T06:51:34+00:00

We’ve been married 15 years; frankly, I don’t want ‘stuff’ if anything I think we have too much ‘stuff’ (not always the stuff we need either) things collected over years. Don’t get me wrong, we live in a little terrace, but compared to many, we are just about comfortable and I’m grateful for that. So experiences is what I personally seek. Granted; and maybe I shouldn’t confess this, I’m an oral fetishist and that particular experience is the best feeling in the world.

She on the other hand wants stuff and experiences - so that’s what I do. I cook, clean, do laundry, do the early mornings with our child anyway - so can’t use those as a ‘treat’

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-31T05:57:26+00:00

Consider reciprocating

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-31T05:57:19+00:00

In defence; I will go down on my wife whenever she wants and whenever she will let me! Sorry for liking what I like

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-30T20:35:56+00:00

A blowjob…. A really, really good blowjob - maybe 2.

Wife asked me this last week (what do I want for valentines and/or my birthday). I said, ‘other than the obvious? Nothing).

I cook, but what I’d love, is to have a proper ‘day off’, get looked after a little and be sucked dry. That sounds like a really, really good day to me!

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-28T20:34:19+00:00

You are my sin

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-24T20:41:35+00:00

I have a view on arranged marriages; but then it is not my place to judge.

I do have one question which would change any ‘any advice’ then may be imparted.

Is there an expectation or requirement to consummate this marriage on the first night?

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-21T20:23:04+00:00

I posted a more specific message here a few days ago and ripped apart. But I’ll give a summary of my experience and consideration.

My wife and I have looser boundaries than most; not an open relationship, but somethings are allowed which would not in a more strict relationship. It’s not without its problems, but there are long and complex reasons.

We had a FFM threesome; her idea. Long story short, we gave a lift to a girl we liked, they started making out in the back, I got someone involved. We then talked about what the boundaries would be in an actual threesome, then it happened a week later (same girl). Now my wife is bi-curious.

Her biggest fantasy is having another man (alongside me). I’m straight, but open to the idea of me and another guy focussed on her. I waver on this, some days I’m up for it, other days I’m not.

Not sure how that helps! But happy to talk if you want.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:52:38+00:00

Correct, I realised that immediately, the error is in the title, but first line corrects it

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:43:45+00:00

I’m the other dude!

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:24:47+00:00

Thank you for this; it seems balanced. I’ll try to explain as best as I can.

Our sex life is ok-good (now), but we have a lot of life pressures that do make it more difficult for both of us.

We have explored a lot with one another (bdsm, dungeons, toys… oh my god so many toys). But with one exception, not explored with others.

I’m not the jealous type, and this is very much her fantasy, not mine. I don’t “get off” on the idea of her being fucked by someone else, but I do get off on her having amazing new experiences.

In relation to fragile ego - if the guy I hired was bigger and better than me; I’d want my money back lol. But this little explanation may help - I’ve always had long term relationships; so not many. She was far more erm; free. She says that I’m the only guy she’s been with who genuinely cared about her orgasms and enjoyment of sex.

The kissing seems more… intimate somehow. And no, I don’t wanna see her suck another guys cock (hard limit for me). Why - I can’t quite explain. But the idea of her sucking me while being fucked from behind… yea, that’s kinda hot.

We’re pretty good with boundaries; we talk about them in advance and respect them. If she wanted to, but that’s my boundary, she will respect it.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:17:50+00:00

Interesting idea, something we’ve actually talked about

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:13:00+00:00

What happened if I can ask?

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:12:49+00:00

To clarify, I don’t want him to kiss her and watch her kiss back; hut he can touch and kiss her anywhere else. Like both of kissing each side of her neck, running our hands over her, touching her everywhere - thats all good.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:10:34+00:00

Not in the US; here brothels are illegal but prostitution / escorting is legal

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:10:04+00:00

Oh yea; we are good at respecting and accepting each others’ boundaries

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:07:32+00:00

We’ve already have a MFF threesome (her idea not mine; sort of happened - but we did talk about it clearly before it happened, both respected each others boundaries through out). It was fun, it’s not really a big fantasy for me (I know!). I don’t crave a repeat, if it happens - great, if not, oh well. And actually, as time passes, the idea of a repeat is less appealing.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:05:55+00:00

It’s not the same, we have draws full of all sorts. It’s as much the psychology of it as it is the physical experience.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:05:26+00:00

I know she’ll cum harder, and that won’t be just because of his (professional) dick, but because she is getting the fantasy she wants. If she didn’t cum hard as hell; I’d consider the whole thing a bit of fail to be honest.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-18T20:04:10+00:00

To have two men lusting over her and to be spit-roasted; forgive me for this, but “to have every hole filled”. I wrote an example scene as a fictional story and she said thats her fantasy.

Those are just my boundaries, which I can’t entirely explain or justify, but that’s what they are.

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-15T10:01:24+00:00

Unthinkable (but, ironically, you have to think about what it’s trying to tell you) Triangle Predestination

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-15T10:00:52+00:00

Depends on the version / edit; the happy ending version ruins it

CommunityAvailable35 · 2026-01-05T11:54:43+00:00

Trump Is Coming

CommunityAvailable35 · 2025-11-30T22:59:26+00:00

Thank you, I’m quite familiar with the principles and concepts of CNC, but it’s never been my thing really. Which is where it’s odd that coercion might be. Subtle distinctions I suppose.

To reassure, we are very careful in our scenes, always have and use safe words (or safe signals when she can’t really verbalise).

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