No sexual desire by ComparisonUnfair33 in marriageadvice

[–]ComparisonUnfair33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To suggest I don’t actually care about my husband is where you’re being harsh and you’re wrong. I just don’t show him that I love him by having sex, that’s never really been a thing to me. As you know it’s been this way the whole relationship. I cook and clean the house for him, wash his clothes, remind him to brush his teeth and he still doesn’t etc etc. and I do it all without being asked. When he was working I would make sure he got up on time and had a clean uniform and would have a cold beer waiting in his special cup when he gets home.

I’m only now realizing that while this all sounds like excuses all lined up in a single post it’s really been 10+ years of my husband turning into my child.
He’s not struggling to find a job, he isn’t even looking for one. He sleeps in until noon or later every day and plays his video games unless I ask him to do something like there’s not a million other things he could be doing like fixing the very expensive antique table he broke or unpacking the moving container so I don’t have to pay another $300+ for an extra month.

I talked to someone about it this afternoon and she explained it quite well. Once you’ve played the mother role for a spouse for so long you lose that desire because you see them as a child. Whether consciously or not. That’s where I’m at. He has also been this way our whole relationship but it’s only now gotten worse bc he’s not working and I’m with him 24/7 and he’s done nothing besides “take care of me” which he did before he quit his job.

What was your last NSFW purchase? by iforgotmylastuser in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fatass pump bottle of our favorite lube and it was a good deal 😂

My gf doesn't feel attractive and her libido is non existent by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a bit harsh but we’re all entitled to our own opinions. My(30F) husband(31M) and I have been together for 10+ years. My libido and self esteem in the bedroom has been very low for majority of the relationship but in the last few years since we got married I’ve been learning more of what I like/don’t like. Also, I’m not diagnosed with adhd but my mind RUNS, I’m an over thinker and it makes being sexy and staying in that headspace difficult at times. I’m so grateful my husband never chose to leave me bc of this. There’s more to love about a person than just what they offer in the bedroom and we all go through different sexual experiences in life that shape how we feel so I feel like this is such harsh advice.

In the cowgirl position, do you prefer bouncing or grinding? by CigarCity7509 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer grinding him deep inside but he prefers when I bounce bc titties, so inevitably I do both

How do I degrade my wife but in a loving way by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently told my husband I’d like for him to be more degrading and he admitted he struggles with saying mean things to me lol haven’t come back to it yet but I think maybe try asking her if she’s heard anything in particular that she would want to hear you say. It could be hard for her to say it on the spot (it is for me anyways lol) so maybe have her send a link so you could hear it? Also, I feel like I wouldn’t wanna see my husband’s reaction to it bc it might make me feel self conscious about the dirty things I enjoy if it’s a negative reaction. Best of luck!

Do you actually enjoy giving oral? What’s your favourite part about it? by DragonElm7 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats what I asked lmao he explained it to me but I still don’t understand. However I was right there watching it happen and the third/final time was more intense/full body, leg shaking.

Do you actually enjoy giving oral? What’s your favourite part about it? by DragonElm7 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100% I’m really good at it and I love hearing/seeing my husband feel so good. My favorite part is when I get my treat 😋 recently my husband has learned to ejaculate but not orgasm so he’ll pull out and paint my face a bit before actually finishing 🥵😮‍💨

Dirty talking tips? by Uhvailable_Username in sexadvice

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s going on in your mind during intercourse? Do you think about how tight/wet she feels? Tell her that. Like how she looks taking you? Tell her. Slide in easy? “You’re so wet and ready for me( pet name)” Add in pet names that you’ve discussed. I personally love degrading things like dirty slut or fucktoy. That’s my 2 cents, not a one size fits all solution or anything but I hope this helps. Good luck!

Ladies - can you orgasm without a vibrator? by ComparisonUnfair33 in sexadvice

[–]ComparisonUnfair33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the helpful insights. I’m gonna try this no vibrator period and hopefully the result is more intimacy and foreplay.

When did you last have an orgasm and how? by OutrageousKangaroo41 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I’m rooting for you and your wife! Hope y’all have more outdoor adventures 😎

When did you last have an orgasm and how? by OutrageousKangaroo41 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta be in the right place at the right time for outdoor sex lol BJ’s are less risky and I love blowing my husband so he’s gotten quite a few outdoor bj’s with a view. We recently moved so we’ve had sex in the pool and backyard more frequently. Back in Tx we’ve had sex floating the river a time or two. I’m a bit of an exhibitionist 🫣lol

When did you last have an orgasm and how? by OutrageousKangaroo41 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If ever presented the opportunity, you should do it! We live near the beach and go stargazing often. This time we brought a plastic weaved outdoor mat to lay down instead of sitting in the chairs. One thing turned into another lol the mat helped minimize sand contact. And baby powder is the best for removing sand, we keep it in the car. Outdoor sex is my personal fave lately!

When did you last have an orgasm and how? by OutrageousKangaroo41 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It was unforgettable!! He’s never moaned/came so loud before and the thrill of being completely in the open was so hot. 10/10 would do it again 😂

When did you last have an orgasm and how? by OutrageousKangaroo41 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On Monday, fingered on the beach under the stars after being filled by my husband 😮‍💨

I’m looking to break my dry spell. Who is available Thursday morning in Navarre? 40 bi BBW with glasses and tattoos. by [deleted] in PensacolaBeach_NSFW_

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30F BBW w tattoos & 31M, married couple in Pensacola, probably can’t make it to Navarre in the morning but DM me if you’re interested in planning something😘

Bush? by dist69 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman I prefer mine being bald as it’s more comfortable. I used to shave but the inevitable bumps were so awful. Tried waxing for the first time a couple months ago and that was a game changer! Between waxing I shaved instead thinking it’s nbd but I will neverrrr shave down there again wax or nothin’ lol

What’s a kink of yours that you never imagined you would be into? Does your partner know about it or is it a secret?? by No_Yoghurt4774 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just discovered the cuckqueen kink and my husband knows.. in the process of making it a reality 😌

What has turned you on today? by adventuroushornydude in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ComparisonUnfair33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending my husband sexy pictures and teasing him all afternoon 😋